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RE: Is she too young? - 5/7/2008 7:40:26 PM

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Oh - and I don't know if I'm the first CD she knows. I don't think so though.........as she talked about wanting to go to some of those type clubs here in town, but is just too young to get in. So she's aware of it all........and when I brought it up, she was like it's no big deal. She wasn't taken aback or anything.

You have to remember that the younger generation is not as shocked by things as we were at that age. :)

I assume your motivation is to date her. Maybe she felt you were like a "big sister"? Now, before I get smacked for that comment by anyone hear me out. She is still young and vulnerable. Sensitive men are a turn on. And since your female side is very integrated into your personality, she felt safe. Take it slow. If the chemistry doesnt work out, or the chemistry changes, she could be a good source of friendship in the future. Someone who understands the true you. Good luck, and go slow!

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/7/2008 7:47:27 PM

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It just dawned on me, a great example for you! I dated one of my college professors....after I was done with the class. We ended up being f buddies. It was great. He was 12 yrs older, and just what I needed at the time. I was 21 at the time. The only problem we had was the weird looks we got when goinig out to dinner...I got carded, he got the "pedophile look" from the waitress......lol. :)

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/7/2008 7:52:19 PM

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Here is the real caveat: When people are young, no matter how maturely they handle themselves, they think that they know what they want rather than really knowing what (and whom) they want. On the other hand, their enthusiasm and sheer exuberance are heady mix

Just be ready to accept that she is likely to jump into something helter-skelter only to wake up one day and realize that she changed her mind or got bored no matter how passionate and intense she was the day before. If and when that happens, realize that it isn’t you, and it isn’t her. It’s just the way it works at that age.

Also no matter how much she tells you that she understands or that she is sure of what she wants, know that until she goes through several experiences and phases, she won’t really know and unfortunately she won’t know that she doesn’t know.

It’s also possible that she will become VERY attached and grow with you. In that case, you’ll have to treat her with kid gloves because she probably hasn’t had much experience being hurt either. Every now and again, you’ll have to remember that she’s only been out of high school a year or two.
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RE: Is she too young? - 5/8/2008 2:56:33 AM

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I'm with the majority, age is just a number. It's even stranger in my case as i am 15 years OLDER than Master! He's turning 37 soon after i turn 52. And older women with younger men don't compute in vanilla-world at all, unlike older man-younger woman. We just laugh uproariously if someone refers to me as His mother ... or sister ... or aunt ... and say "Oh no, He's my partner!" And sometimes i throw in a cheeky wink too. i'm sure most would actually think He's my toyboy instead of me being His toy LOL! Yes, shared outlooks, and experiences are important, but there's also a lot to laugh about. We're now an active rock music duo and when it came to singing "Summer of 69" i said, "i'd better do this one Master, You weren't even BORN then!"

From your pic, you don't look an ancient 34 either (some men do!), so it doesn't seem that you and she would look too odd out together. So ... give it a try! Yes she is of the age where she is likely to change a lot in the next few years. I married my first hubby on my 20th Birthday ... it ended nearly 16 years later. Simply, we'd both grown in different directions. But do I regret that? Hell no! Learned a lot from each other and we are still good friends another 16 years on! Don't rush her ... woo her (see another thread!) ... and try not to break each other's hearts. Show her what a mature relationship can be like!

Good luck!
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RE: Is she too young? - 5/8/2008 3:53:46 AM

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I'm with the majority, age is just a number. It's even stranger in my case as i am 15 years OLDER than Master! He's turning 37 soon after i turn 52. Good luck!
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RE: Is she too young? - 5/8/2008 3:55:48 AM

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Can't really disagree with anything said on here so far - thanks to everyone for sharing their thoughts. Just seems like I have to keep in mind that there could be some age-related issues, but that if we're both willing to work it through, then this is something that could work. Will probably see her next week...........so we'll see what happens.

you can't predict everything that will happen. Soemtimes you just should take a risk and enjoy.

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/8/2008 5:27:44 AM

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When I was married the first time, I was 18 and my husband was 30. We married for love and were married for almost a decade. It can work.

Besides, if you don't at least date her, you'll always wonder, what if?

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/8/2008 5:42:35 AM

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Jordan

You have recieved alot of good responses but i would like to bring up one point i have seen "alluded" to but not addressed head on.

You are not promised tomorrow, next week, next year, etc - you get my drift. i would not analyze someone from the standpoint of longterm compatibility as opposed to enjoying this moment to the fullest - no expectations, no assumptions...just truly enjoying and exploring the beauty of this person now...

Personally, i would not give up the now for all the promises of longterm compatibilty in the world - go for it

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/8/2008 8:25:06 AM

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hey jordan ..just think how much fun it will be once she wants to try strapon play on you after she has dressed and undress you

good luck and have fun mal

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/8/2008 10:50:31 AM

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Simple answer, check the Drivers Lscense and if she is indeed 19 or older..go for it. She's legal.

poenkitten 15 years older than her Master

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/8/2008 10:56:31 AM

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Age is just a number I mean just look at Master and I's profile he is going to be thirty-eight in just two months and I am twenty-five we met when he was 30 I was 18 and we have been married almost seven years now and have a little girl also and we are very happy.

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/8/2008 10:56:32 AM

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Is she too young? Probably not.

15 years isn't that huge of a difference. My Owner and I are 10 years apart. However, you should probably proceed with caution, since there are a lot of factors that may complicate things. However, if you just desire playtime, there likely won't be any troubles at all. If you find yourself desiring more...then things may require a lot more work.

If you both go into things realistically, then there will be a lot less problems.

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/8/2008 1:40:32 PM

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The lady I'm currently chatting to is 18, knows i'm 38, isn't looking for a daddy/daughter relationship. She finds guys her age annoying & prefers the company of an older chap. My father isn't impressed, cradle snatching was one of the comments, but she's genuine we get one like a house on fire & at the end of day I like in my place so I don't need his approval. So personally I'd say go for it, or in the words of Donald "Duck" Dunn in the film the Blues Brothers, "if shit fits, wear it!" lol

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/8/2008 4:52:43 PM

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I'm not really looking at it long-term-this-is-it kind of thing. I'm thinking more in the now, and just seeing what happens, as you never know where things are going to go. So if it were to really go somewhere, then that's how it's meant to be. And if it doesn't, then that's the way it's supposed to be.

I also don't want to wonder "what if" either........I know I'd regret that. I'll probably see her next week, so if I do, we'll just see what happens then. Turns out she might end up saying no!! And I did want to say thanks to the one who said I don't look 34!! I have to admit the pic is about 2 years old, but I still don't look much different - and even then, I was only 32. Most everyone thinks I'm around 27 or 28.........and even had someone last week think I was 24!! So that's nice!!

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/8/2008 6:24:27 PM

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My dear first husband was 38 years older than me. We married, one week after my 18th birthday, our four month old daughter on her Aunts lap in the chapel, the twins in attendance as well, although we wouldn't find out about them till we got home from our honeymoon, where i figured out that it was quite odd that i was still having premarital jitters, and always in the morning....

Not saying to emulate THAT story - although he was a dear and wonderful man. I'm saying just live life, and let it be what it is supposed to be. Oh, and, just a bytheby - i didn't lose him to that age difference. I lost him to Lukemia, so that would have happened even if he were my age.
We had a wonderful marriage and a wonderful life and four incredible children. Live today. People who are meant to be will work it out. And how can you find out if you are, if you don't give it a try?
Have fun. (and, geez, can you imagine how much fun it could be to bottom to some one much younger than you? reverse the whole power structure, set your expectations on their head. Not to mention, if she is learning, getting to be the subject of all her experiments.)

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/8/2008 8:51:30 PM

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Im 23 and my Master is 56, a 33 year age diiference. We have been together a little over 2 years now and it has been wonderful. I couldn't ask for anyone better. That dosent mean there wasn't choices I had to make though. One being that obviously he dosent want kids at his age so I had to decide if the relationship was worth not having the option to have kids. I think there are choices in every relationship though, some are harder then others but they are always there.

The age difference has never bothered me though. We get along perfectly and despite the age difference we do have alot in common.

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/10/2008 8:50:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: BadJezebel

Here is the real caveat: When people are young, no matter how maturely they handle themselves, they think that they know what they want rather than really knowing what (and whom) they want. On the other hand, their enthusiasm and sheer exuberance are heady mix

Just be ready to accept that she is likely to jump into something helter-skelter only to wake up one day and realize that she changed her mind or got bored no matter how passionate and intense she was the day before. If and when that happens, realize that it isn’t you, and it isn’t her. It’s just the way it works at that age.

Also no matter how much she tells you that she understands or that she is sure of what she wants, know that until she goes through several experiences and phases, she won’t really know and unfortunately she won’t know that she doesn’t know.

It’s also possible that she will become VERY attached and grow with you. In that case, you’ll have to treat her with kid gloves because she probably hasn’t had much experience being hurt either. Every now and again, you’ll have to remember that she’s only been out of high school a year or two.
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You need to post more often, that was quite clear and far better than how I put it.

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/11/2008 12:14:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: dawntreader

Jordan

You have recieved alot of good responses but i would like to bring up one point i have seen "alluded" to but not addressed head on.

You are not promised tomorrow, next week, next year, etc - you get my drift. i would not analyze someone from the standpoint of longterm compatibility as opposed to enjoying this moment to the fullest - no expectations, no assumptions...just truly enjoying and exploring the beauty of this person now...

Personally, i would not give up the now for all the promises of longterm compatibilty in the world - go for it

Words of wisdom j. This moment, it can be argued well, is all we have.

I'm reminded of anothers words of wisdom from 4000 years ago. Lao Tzu. He said "You measure a mans intelligence by his ability to keep himself happy."

Some days I'm smarter than others, LOL, but I'm trying people, I'm trying real hard.

If you feel better, happier, as a result of connecting and sharing with her then what possible reason could you argue sufficiently to turn away?

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/11/2008 1:58:22 AM

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At OP

just try, so you won't regret...and tell us later if it worked or not.
And lets not forget..we talk about persons here..not age only.

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RE: Is she too young? - 5/11/2008 6:49:37 AM

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The fact that she's 19 should not take away from the chemistry. So long as it's legal, the feeling of it being right should be the most important thing :)

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