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tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 12:29:56 AM   
milkbather


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Status: offline 		How many subs/slaves cry during play  with their Master?
Have you explored why?
Apart from the release of your tears, is it somethinmg entirely different from just crying because it hurts?
Why im asking is, during  play now, as it gets tougher and my pain threshold gets  higher, i need more to sustain the feelings i get in order to space, sometimes i dont even get there, but im always crying during play.
Any comments would help me to understand this further
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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 2:25:47 AM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		I usually don't cry unless the play is really intense. I will often cry afterwards when he is holding and loving me. It's a great release.

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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 3:18:41 AM   
kallisto


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Status: offline 		I've never cried during (not saying it won't ever happen).  But I've cried afterwards.  It has nothing to do with the physical pain.   It's a release and final coming down.   Pulling all my emotions back together.   It doesn't happen all the time. 

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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 6:47:36 AM   
tolovetolaugh


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Status: offline 		I hate to cry in front of anyone. Only time I can remember doing so in front of a Dom, there was lots and lots of pain involved.

You may just have over active tear-ducts, that cause you to cry at any strong emotion, whether it is happiness, simply the strength of the connection you feel, or desiring so much to please it hits the emotion spike that makes you cry.
Or could just be pain = crying.


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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 6:57:41 AM   
loverly


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Status: offline 		what a GOOD question! i personally Do cry during play.. at that one point where i totally give in and up all that i am and all that He can take from me.. i dont find playing with whips or crops or canes necessiarly painful.. if done properly.. it is just ( as a friend of mine used to say ) exploring Extreme Sensations!  with someOne i truely and totally trust.. which in turn makes the release so sweet and complete.. its not always Easy to go there.. to the point where i cry..beg for more please! and  have no control.. dont wish for any.. fly into the freedom of just being and experiencing.. ... the next step for me is subspace after that.. alot of people dont understand that and freak out.. stop a scene.. think its bad.. but .. for alot of ppl i think it is more an emotional connection with their Partner.. lol if it HURTS.. i either laugh or .. stop he scene for a min to be able to gather myself and continue... lol hopefully to that point where i can cry for HIM.. :-)

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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 7:11:08 AM   
tandm


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Status: offline 		I have had tears  in my eyes, but not cried.  My master wants me to cry, he even comments that I will most likely need to cry during the punishment.  I love him so much that I don't think of the punishments as painful as in being hurt (even tho it sometimes hurts like hell), but rather something that he is doing as a sexual release and I like it. 
The only other reason I think that I don't cry is because if it is a punishment time, my master suggests that i have some drinks (and that dulls the sensations).

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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 7:27:17 AM   
vield


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Status: offline 		I love the melting that feels like years of tears when a Mistress has taken me far into her fantasies and has enjoyed me a lot in whatever way works for her. That aftercare time can be so very healing of things I may never have known were there.

During play if the Domme is well connected with me and loving all she does, I may go into crying or even screaming with the pleasure of bringing her joy.

When I am in charge, as I am with my main partner, I love melting her down into screaming multi orgasmic puddles too.

Many partners top or bottom do not connect with me deeply enough to reach these places, and that is not nearly as much fun,

However if her energy touches my soul even deeper than her toys touch my body, WOW!


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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 7:35:52 AM   
SingleRarity


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tandm

I have had tears  in my eyes, but not cried.  My master wants me to cry, he even comments that I will most likely need to cry during the punishment.  I love him so much that I don't think of the punishments as painful as in being hurt (even tho it sometimes hurts like hell), but rather something that he is doing as a sexual release and I like it. 
The only other reason I think that I don't cry is because if it is a punishment time, my master suggests that i have some drinks (and that dulls the sensations).


I'm a bit confused by your statement.  Are you talking about actual punishment, or play that you call "punishment.  Because generally punishment's not effective if you're getting some kind of sexual release.  How much do you drink before you play?  With your senses dulled you are less aware of your body and more likely to miss that permanent damage point.  I'm not judging, btw, I've had a drink before play, but drinks to dull the senses...wow.

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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 9:01:56 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		http://www.collarchat.com/m_1451855/mpage_1/key_crying/tm.htm#1452739
Crying (3)

http://www.collarchat.com/m_928297/mpage_2/key_crying/tm.htm#928942
crying (2)

http://www.collarchat.com/m_772609/mpage_1/key_crying/tm.htm#772729
is it alright to cry?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_618527/mpage_1/key_crying/tm.htm#618600
crying or not crying/when a girl tries too hard

http://www.collarchat.com/m_271993/mpage_2/key_crying/tm.htm#272967
crying

http://www.collarchat.com/m_251549/mpage_1/key_crying/tm.htm#251686
emotion and crying

http://www.collarchat.com/m_399658/mpage_1/key_tears/tm.htm#399680
tears, laughter, what have you?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_148646/mpage_1/key_tears/tm.htm#148774
tears

http://www.collarchat.com/m_108026/mpage_2/key_tears/tm.htm#117395
the gift of tears?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_67329/mpage_1/key_cry/tm.htm#71901
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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 10:55:43 AM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

How many subs/slaves cry during play  with their Master?


this one does...sometimes.

quote:

Have you explored why?


not really.  always just figured it was from the outpouring of gratitude this slave felt, that Master would take her to that place of physical and emotional release and care for her until she comes back from that headspace.
so many before Him would have locked her up in a mental ward to "cure" her from wanting and enjoying such interactions.

quote:

Apart from the release of your tears, is it somethinmg entirely different from just crying because it hurts?


absolutely.
as a masochist, this slave doesn't cry because it hurts, instead she is mentally and physically aroused, because it hurts.
the tears come from joy, bliss and profound gratitude.

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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 11:24:02 AM   
SingleRarity


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

absolutely.
as a masochist, this slave doesn't cry because it hurts, instead she is mentally and physically aroused, because it hurts.
the tears come from joy, bliss and profound gratitude.


Truly perfect words. 

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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 12:36:31 PM   
toservez


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kallisto

I've never cried during (not saying it won't ever happen).  But I've cried afterwards.  It has nothing to do with the physical pain.   It's a release and final coming down.   Pulling all my emotions back together.   It doesn't happen all the time. 


It depends on a whole bunch of things for me.

During my Master’s play I will generally cry only if it becomes a long session and I think this is just a release for me to endure the pain better.

Afterwards I am not sure there is a direct rhyme or reason but when I do it is like Kallisto wrote better then I can. I think I probably cry more often when my Master has been out of town working for most of the week and/or time when I needed of that type of intimacy for the various and the usual reasons.


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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 2:22:49 PM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		i cry from release; physical, emotional and mental...
i cry during and after sex...
i cry during or after a good s/m session...
i cry when i'm happy...
i cry when i'm sad...
and most of all
i cry when i'm mad!

your tears seem to be more about frustration; frustration from not getting to sub-space...

stop focusing so much on getting there and relax and enjoy the ride!
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ORIGINAL: milkbather

How many subs/slaves cry during play  with their Master?
Have you explored why?
Apart from the release of your tears, is it somethinmg entirely different from just crying because it hurts?
Why im asking is, during  play now, as it gets tougher and my pain threshold gets  higher, i need more to sustain the feelings i get in order to space, sometimes i dont even get there, but im always crying during play.
Any comments would help me to understand this further

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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 2:48:08 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I have cried a few time during play.  I usually cry when the sensations get really intense( and this is just from sexual play not pain).  Master likes it when i cry from sensation, because he got me to that place where all i am is laid out before him.  It does not bother me though.

Matt's littleone

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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 3:34:20 PM   
MadameXTC


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Status: offline 		I think for me when I cry it is just a huge emotional release. It is a way of my body letting go of all the harmones that are rising higher and higher during the play. Kinda the same thing as when you are pregnant you cry over everything. ( or at least I thought I was an emotional wreck while I was pregnant lol) The flux in harmones are just hard to control at times, and crying makes you feel so much better!


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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 3:37:07 PM   
BBWnNC72


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Status: offline 		When i cry it is what i call an emotional cleansing.  i cry mostly during PMS, of course, and when i really want my Dom to stay the night and He doesn't.
During play, i cry, but i am not sure if it because the pain feels so good or bad, i get wet so i am not sure.  i did have a day of sub drop after an intense session the night before, i cried all freaking day.


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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 4:46:52 PM   
TheEvilBstardsMo


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Status: offline 		Yes, I have cried during play.  Usually, the tears will come as a bridge to entering subspace.  They are a beautiful release and cleansing for me.

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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 6:04:15 PM   
everhope


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Status: offline 		i cry.
from happiness
from pain
from joy
from orgasms
from gratitude
i cry.

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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/7/2008 7:49:57 PM   
leakylee


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Status: offline 		i have only cried once after play. it was strictly as an emotional release. it was probably one of the most emotionally stressful times of my life, and that scene with my g/f  just loosened so many knots.

i wish i could cry. i see as such a private matter though, a weak and intimate moment that few are privy to. one of the most powerful scenes i had the joy and pleasure of wittnessing was one where the submissive was able to release in that manner. it is such a beautiful and powerful expeirence.

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RE: tears at bedtime - 5/8/2008 5:46:52 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Crying for me is a cathartic release...or just being overwhelmed with experiences. I cry a lot during orgasms...well, the good ones. LOL Most of my submissive and slave friends tell me it's much the same with them when they play.

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