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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

OMG!  I'm supposed to masturbate on webcam for him and provide a detailed description of my fantasies for his analysis?

This isn't in the handbook!  Why didn't anyone tell me?

Tsk, tsk...see what happens when you play hooky and miss a class day?  You don't get the WRITTEN notes.

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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

OMG!  I'm supposed to masturbate on webcam for him and provide a detailed description of my fantasies for his analysis?

This isn't in the handbook!  Why didn't anyone tell me?

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Is there a possibility of the dominant being able to tape these so called "private" web cam sessions you're referring to? In other words, if a brand new, trusting, naive submissive did as she was ordered and "performed" for your or someone else's viewing pleasure, how does she know that the web cam session she just let it all hang out in is secure? How does she know that three or four of the dom's buddies aren't watching the session along with him and that they're all not taking home a taped copy for their own private pleasure after the fact? Or maybe someone will sell their copy on the internet..etc.

I ask because, in my opinion, blind trust is stupid these days, especially with virtual strangers.

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

I have been away on a 4 wk business trip and upon my review of the posts, I see the norm is continueing,
Subs that indicate they are new to the lifestyle and love it so after 2 or 3 months.
I ponder if they have really tasted the responsibilities that came with that collar. Whether r/t or cyber or a mixture of both, if your Master instructed you to get a webcam and perform for him when instructed to do so.
could you handle using that dildo on yourself for his viewing pleasure?
Have you shared your most personal fantasies with him/her for feedback or realization?

There are many others acts that may face you in the future, can you handle them.

If not, why not?

CP

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There's a lot more to a power relationship then just sex. Beyond that, the only way I would have gotten a web cam would have been if he drove up to attach it and get it to work. Some of us are technologically illiterate.

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CelticPrince, I can give other examples-- until I relocate, we have a limited amount of face time and I get assignments, while some of them are sexual (though not cammed-- I preform them and then give him the details feelings and thoughts that I experienced) some of them are as mundane as researching a topic that he is interested in, scouring the secondhand bookstores for a particular book or brutally purging my belonging so that when he helps move me, there isn't so much work to do (yes, I would have loaded all the boxes on a truck, but when he looked at them and asked if I really wanted to move all of that it gave me the ooompf to downsize).

When I am physically with him I'm not naked and chained to a bed for his sexual pleasure the entire time, I clean and cook and I help in his office... but it works for us because I see the bigger picture, I see that what I do enhances his life and helps him be better in his business, it helps him relax at home which in turn means that he can focus on me when it is play time

Some people are cut out to be a pampered pet, others feel better when they are more utilitarian. I think that knowing oneself and what makes oneself tick and then finding a person that appreciates those qualities in the long run is essential in continuing to be happy far longer then the inital honey moon period.

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When I first came on the scene 7 or so years ago and was new new new, I knew little about what was expected initially (omg I think I have made no progress in all this time) besides the fact I desired to travel in this direction. I talked to dom online who wanted naked pictures, being nieve I sent them. The relationship did not last very long, as I found he knew little about being a dom and suspected he was just a player looking for gratification online. He was pissed at me for ending this, and several months later I read his profile which in its contents he stated that he had alot of naked pictures of women that he would share with others. From that day onward I was leary. I talked to another man online who wanted to do the webcam thing, said he would broadcast it out to his business associates. Another be warned red flag event.

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I believe that someone already mentioned that relationships are not just ‘sex based or based upon sexuality”.

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OMG! I'm supposed to masturbate on webcam for him and provide a detailed description of my fantasies for his analysis?

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if I have a Master then it means one too many glasses of wine on that last ebay bid thinking it meant mix master! <http://www.collarchat.com/image/s3.gif> Welcome back CP, you've been missed.

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

OMG!  I'm supposed to masturbate on webcam for him and provide a detailed description of my fantasies for his analysis?

This isn't in the handbook!  Why didn't anyone tell me?

Tsk, tsk...see what happens when you play hooky and miss a class day?  You don't get the WRITTEN notes.

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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

OMG!  I'm supposed to masturbate on webcam for him and provide a detailed description of my fantasies for his analysis?

This isn't in the handbook!  Why didn't anyone tell me?

Tsk, tsk...see what happens when you play hooky and miss a class day?  You don't get the WRITTEN notes.

Damn! 

I'm really dreading Firm getting home... I've got to figure out some way to explain to him that I've been doing it wrong all this time.

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You use the word "Master", yet your example is of specific acts--and a rather limited range of specific acts, at that.

There is so much more to a M/s (remember, you used the word "Master"-- not 'Dom' or 'Top') relationship than just having the sub expose herself (and, why do you assume the submissive is necessarily female? There are male subs, too. Yet, your example is of a sub using a 'dildo for his viewing pleasure'...

I don't think you really understand what a D/s or M/s relationship is.

While My submissive and I (and W/we've been together for four months, as of today) have fantasized about being in front of a live audience, having her perform on webcam (where the performance could be recorded by random strangers) isn't something that interests Me (or her) in the least. O/our relationship is about trust, and the joy W/we take in each O/other. I don't need the approval of a bunch of faceless folks on the web, to feel that I have power over her.

Give this some thought, and you just might start to 'get' it...

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I am not sure I get this. I have no problem masturbating in front of a mate, but what is the point of doing it on webcam when you are face to face? Ok.. let's say he is out of town, why is "performing" the indicator of submitting? There are way too many bozos out there who call themselves master and use that method to get some their wank material for later use. I do not get why people would do that if only in a cyber relationship. You never know where that vid might end up, and you can see that all over the net. If it is a mixture of real and cyber, then I would hope that you really know where it ends up.