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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 11:39:52 AM   
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I feel so happy for you. :)


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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 11:52:15 AM   
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And ultimately the questions is...Did he make it?

poenkitten


No he didn't. He did let me know though that he wasn't going to be able to though.
He has fixed the car today (fingers crossed) and is hoping to be arriving this evening. If not he is setting off first thing in the morning. Again fingers crossed.
I have decided that as of yet i have no reason to disbelieve what he says so i am trusting he is being honest with me.
 
 
On a side note it is interesting after the thread on assumptions and casting blame to see the many varied reactions / take on my situation. I guess it just goes to be proved now who is right and wrong and whether i should have listened closer to my paranoia.


So...it would appear that Steel, Michael, I and a couple of others were right about "the benefit of the doubt" and that, sometimes, other considerations besides seeing someone DO come into play.  Hmmmmmmmm....

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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 11:57:04 AM   
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Paranoia is as logical to me as a submissive on her knees. What I can do is appreciate the beauty of life, love, sex and D/s. Even if nothing matters, some things do.   

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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 3:31:08 PM   
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Instead of coming up today / tomorrow and having to leave early monday morning due to various reasons it has been decided he will come up thursday and stay through to tuesday.
Im all smiley and happy now

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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 3:54:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I feel like I should be making bets about whether or not he shows at this point.  I really hope I'm seriously wrong, but my money* is on him having another excuse.

* about $2.50

Because I've had a number of flakes, liars, and no-shows, I almost always insist on meeting someone very quickly - often long before any power exchange has or will occur. 

Anyway, I really hope he keeps his word.  Please just tell me that, no matter how good the excuse may be, if he cancels again, it's a red flag. 

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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 3:56:24 PM   
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So...it would appear that Steel, Michael, I and a couple of others were right about "the benefit of the doubt" and that, sometimes, other considerations besides seeing someone DO come into play.  Hmmmmmmmm....


Counting unhatched chickens CD? He still hasn't arrived and now has postponed.  If his car was fixed this morning, and he had been planning on leaving last night, why didn't he leave this morning when his car was fixed? Surely he was ready to leave, right? If that was the plan? But then it became "either tonight or tomorrow morning".  So he never really was ready to leave?  And now it's next Thursday.

These cynicism-colored glasses of mine are so difficult to see clearly with sometimes.  What am I missing? Maybe I just need a great big chocolate bar to fix me.

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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 3:59:12 PM   
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Anyway, I really hope he keeps his word.  Please just tell me that, no matter how good the excuse may be, if he cancels again, it's a red flag.


Yep 

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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 4:00:37 PM   
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God if that were the case I would never get involved in a relationship, I have an ever changing life at times things that were possible quickly become impossible. It's life.

NOW that being said, I also know that valid excuses look like Rabbit Shit to most people after the second one. So be realistic If it doesn't work the first time..... MAYBE think about going and seeing them. I am actually a little annoyed that everyone expects the other person to do all the leg work when it takes two to tango.

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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 4:02:30 PM   
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He still hasn't arrived and now has postponed. 

Joint decision.
 
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If his car was fixed this morning, and he had been planning on leaving last night, why didn't he leave this morning when his car was fixed?

His car wasn't fixed until around 5pm and its a four and a half hour drive.
 
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What am I missing?

The fact it was a joint decision so we can spend more time together when he does come up.
 
Now you may be right and he may not show but then yep its a huge red flag and he wont get another chance.

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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 4:06:06 PM   
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So...it would appear that Steel, Michael, I and a couple of others were right about "the benefit of the doubt" and that, sometimes, other considerations besides seeing someone DO come into play.  Hmmmmmmmm....


Counting unhatched chickens CD? He still hasn't arrived and now has postponed.  If his car was fixed this morning, and he had been planning on leaving last night, why didn't he leave this morning when his car was fixed? Surely he was ready to leave, right? If that was the plan? But then it became "either tonight or tomorrow morning".  So he never really was ready to leave?  And now it's next Thursday.

These cynicism-colored glasses of mine are so difficult to see clearly with sometimes.  What am I missing? Maybe I just need a great big chocolate bar to fix me.

Cali



Cali..... hunny..... sweetie kins........ Ummmmmm Maybe relationships and Flaky Guys aren't something you should be commenting on in a positive light cause..... well....... Ummmmmm Yeah it would seem you kinda want this guy to be a douche bag and well I just want to give the options.

Cali is right He could be a douche bag
On the other hand FIXING A CAR IS EXPENSIVE and Who wants to meet someone they care about for a DAY! then have to go away. The other option makes SO MUCH MORE SENSE!!!
And on someone elses hand he could just be scared of meeting such a great girl as miss and is afraid that if he experinces his fantasy then it will be smashed and he isn't really willing to give up the fantasy for something that might not ever really be.

BUT He could also still be a Douche Bag.

Steel

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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 4:07:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm sorry, I thought you said the car was fixed this morning.

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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 4:09:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yep he might be an ass hole .............and he might not.
I guess if he cancels again then i will offer to go to him. A little difficult as i run a pub and dont really have anyone to fill in but ill work it out. If that goes pear shaped then i guess its not meant to be. Im not ready to give up yet. Maybe foolish but what if its not and things are really good!!

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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 4:13:10 PM   
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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 4:13:13 PM   
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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 8:09:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Somtimes shit happens, life gets in the way, doesnt make anyone a liar or a flake or whatever. Good luck sweets I hope he shows, the messages sound promising and well in my experience women seem to text far more than men (to the point mine, when our relationship was still LD would be like geez woman stop texting me I am out with the guys, busy with my car ect), so I wouldnt be to put of by the fact that he doesnt answer quickly.

All i can say is if you like him and it feels right, dont let your past taint it, caution is certainly wise but it is so easy to poison what could be wonderful by making assumptions and driving a good person away.


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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/10/2008 8:23:21 PM   
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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/11/2008 7:20:22 AM   
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All i can say is if you like him and it feels right, dont let your past taint it, caution is certainly wise but it is so easy to poison what could be wonderful by making assumptions and driving a good person away.



 
I very much agree with this part..
 
Miss
    While we do need to learn from our past life lessons and it is good to use your caution and listen to your intuition>>>
I don't think it is wise to judge a future persons character by comparing it to a prior persons /expericence  failings .
 
  His character deserves to be based upon HIS actions and reactions, alone.
 
I know its hard not to project, but I think you are wise to "let it play itself through".
 
Feeling foolish, (IF it doesnt turn out as hoped), is only something YOU can make yourself feel.....nothing foolish about having hope.  Nothing ventured nothing gained ?  : )
 
I hope it all turns out to be wonderful
 

 
 

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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/11/2008 8:32:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		The problem is that there enough liars and other unnecessary types breathing our precious air, that they make the genuine excuse for a no show or delays look bad. Strewth sometines a fart sounds more genuine (assuming you can't smell the shit). I'm a positive, hopefull sceptic. Which means thet although I may have a few lingering doubts, I still leave the door open. All that happens is that there is a time when i want concrete proff of something or I walk away. rarely do i sut the door on someone unless they have belted me in the face, stabbed me in the back or simple attacked in any way my family.

I'll keep my fingers crossed and hope he turns up as planned and things go well for you. (Note my Motto it says precisely how i do things).

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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/11/2008 11:30:54 AM   
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All i can say is if you like him and it feels right, dont let your past taint it, caution is certainly wise but it is so easy to poison what could be wonderful by making assumptions and driving a good person away.


I like this thank you 

Thankyou to everyone who has replied

< Message edited by missturbation -- 5/11/2008 11:32:06 AM >

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RE: Is paranoia my friend? - 5/11/2008 1:54:40 PM   
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I'm sure he'll show.

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