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tsatske -> RE: She is a bitch (5/14/2008 3:10:55 PM)
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I think she is saying she would not have had an issue because it would have let her know not to get far enough with him, to have issues.
I also try to seek out people who mostly focus on fond memories. I don't mind if there is an exception or two mixed in, but the overall view of your life should be positive.
I, myself, had a childhood worthy of a 'sybil' movie. However, in spite of that, i now get along with my family of origin and am proud of the family that we have created against that past trauma. That is the way to exercise it. I am not as attracted to people if the bad in their life is still in the drivers seat.
I am a person that if you ask me when the happiest time of my life was, i will almost always say, 'now'. If you ask me during a particularly difficult date - say, as i am struggling through the anniversary of my daughter, i will say, 'well, today i am in pain, but, overall, i would say, the point in my life that i am at right now.'
and, i guess, that is what i want most of my friends to be like, too.
yes, i agree, like attracts like.
if is important to give someone time to just talk - little stories and tales about their family, neighbors, growing up, ect. do they find humor? pleasure? or just a lot of anger?
when you listen, can you imagine them reacting to upcoming life situations in a way that makes you want to be with them? someone once told me, 'when you meet a man who can change a tire on the side of the road, in the rain, while singing, marry him.' ask yourself if the person telling the stories you are taking time to listen to, sounds like that kind of person.
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