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Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 3:14:17 PM

APoinephilicLife

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everyone views my profiel and answers my messages and never responds or adds me. personally,i think im attractive but does my profile not sound serious or appealing?

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 3:19:42 PM

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You are young...I think that's a disadvantage. You don't need to assure people you are legitimate; they can determine that for themselves. Your profile is overall not horrible, but not very appealing, either. It is dramatically lacking in depth.
That's about all I have time for just now.

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 3:21:25 PM

phoenixinchains

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well it definately fits what comes to mind for "young college guy"
some of the pix look they resulted out of a keg party.

try filling out the interest section.

state what you seek in a Domme, not just what you don't seek.

and you've only had the account a short while, give it a little more time.

hope this helps-

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 3:31:59 PM

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No, I didn't find it appealing. To break down why (and I'm trying to be helpful here, not hurtful):

Your text really expresses little except the negative about you... it comes across as very... frat boy/partier/young for your age. It also contains a lot of negativity. The avoidance of grammar and regular paragraph structure is annoying to read.

The pictures are largely unbecoming, I'd suggest new and better ones. Casual is good, but your main one shows you at an awkward angle and with a big view of trash/dirty clothing on the floor.

Your friends display smacks of girl-collecting.

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 3:37:17 PM

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quote:

answers my messages and never responds

how does that work....they answer but don't respond.

sometimes people just like to look and read some more. Like watching cars..but having no money to buy them...lol

could you write all those points in a nice little story?Makes it more personal.
And try a picture with cloths on....to make it more seriously looking (my opinion).
And clean your room next time when you make pictures of you in that room...lol

btw.. I don't find it a bad profile

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 3:58:13 PM

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Yech. Never use the term "whore" in your profile to describe women in general, even if a professional domme is not what you're looking for. That's a huge turn-off; guys who use that word so casually are almost inevitably creeps with very bad attitudes toward women.

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 4:09:34 PM

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to be honest, you're too young for me and that alone would automatically disqualify you. that being said, i found your profile be quite immature in a negative tone. no i didn't find it appealing and the vibes i was getting from your attitude turned me off.

then again this is only my opinion

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 4:20:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: APoinephilicLife
everyone views my profiel and answers my messages and never responds or adds me. personally,i think im attractive but does my profile not sound serious or appealing?

I liked your profile it was straightforward and to the point.

You should probably take out the contact information though as it is against TOS.

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No Contact Info: Phone, Email, Instant Messenger.

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 5:16:48 PM

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I'm not a domme but don't see anything wrong with your profile, it comes off as honest and gives a good picture of who you are. If you're not getting the kind of responses you want, its probably more to do with your age and that you don't have the mannerisms that some expect. You need to be patient, I'm sure there are some dominant women out there looking for just to kind of guy you are, they're just a little atypical and so are you. Good Luck.

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 5:23:30 PM

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Seems fine to me but I am one of the Youngins here. :)

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 5:26:22 PM

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Rumpus and Shakti described my thoughts already. You're a good looking guy. However, there is a lot of negativity in your profile. Likewise, the plethora of young women in your friends list makes it seem like you're a player (whether you are or not). Oh, and Shakti's right. Using the word "whore" to describe women, no matter how fitting the context may be, is a complete turn off. I suggest removing this post haste. Add some more description about yourself as a person, and remove some or all of the negativity. Describing some of your interests and hobbies is also attractive. With a bit of editing, I'm guessig you'll do much better. Also, use proper paragraph structure instead of one sentence per paragraph approach that you're using now. Pictures, personality, intelligence, sense of houmour, grace, compassion, spealling, and grammar all count.

Good luck,

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 5:27:16 PM

phoenixinchains

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i'm not that old...GT called me a kid.

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 5:32:30 PM

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i am not a Domme either but the first pic has trash all over,you basically call Profesional Dommes whores and you are very young,i also thought your freinds list looked like you are collecting chicks.
I'm looking for a real Dom/Sub realationship, NOT a financial whore.<--------Not a good way to meet a Mistress FYI

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 5:33:15 PM

ElanSubdued

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KCherry,

--- Seems fine to me but I am one of the Youngins here. :)

Young isn't the issue. Demonstrating life balance and grace (I'm guessing) are the issues.

Elan.

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 6:59:45 PM

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Seems to me that you've communicated with quite a few people in the 6 long days you've been on Collarme, or at least your Friend's List is quite extensive for such a short time. If you want to meet people, then go where people hang out. Try your local munch. There are lots of munches in New Jersey.

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 8:10:08 PM

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The only person I really know in your friends list is Lady Seraphina. I think she's hot-hot-hotttt, and I am betting you do too. She is also a professional dominatrix, and very married. (This is all in her profile....) So you could look like Brad Pitt -- hell, you could be Brad Pitt -- and you probably wouldn't get much action from that direction.

Do you already know this? I am betting you don't. You are adding "friends" without paying attention to who they are. This tends to put women off. Babes are weird that way.

I like Lady S because she is nice and her brain is humongous. I think her philosophy of domination should be required reading for every domme. (I'll put a link at the bottom.) If you want to impress adult women, you have to use your mind, not just your body. Take the advice you are getting on this thread.

Link highly recommended:

http://www.ladyseraphina.ca/faq.html

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/17/2008 8:57:55 PM

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I'd like to point out that friends are just that - friends.

Having a lot of friends does not a slut make - virtual or real.

Maybe he has conversed with them and wants to stay in touch?

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/18/2008 3:49:31 AM

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1) you have no picture.
2) The profile is a little disjointed in how it reads.
3) If you're legit, there's no need to declare it.
4) Talk about what you're looking for...if you know. It's hard when you start, 'cause you want everything. LOL
5) Talk about what you feel you have to offer, too. That's as important.

I think there's a TNG chapter somewhere close to you. I think it's sponsored through TES in NYC.

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/18/2008 4:04:30 AM

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He had pictures the other day it is a shame some of the comments may have made him remove them because to me they showed he was a real person with an active outgoing personality.

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RE: Is my profile not appealing? - 5/18/2008 6:08:08 AM

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The profile rambles from BSM to non smokers to financial whores to you---oy--you're on college, gather your thoughts as you would for a paper and then compose them on paper before you create them here---and don't sound so arrogant----there is a gentle balance between a submissive tone and the "ahem alpha male" attitude. Right now what you have is fantasy, grasp some reality to balance it out.

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