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Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 5:10:19 PM   
chickpea


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Status: offline 		Just wondering, there are all these debates about whether gay people are born that way.  Just wanted to know if people are born kinky?  What your guys opinions are on this one?  Thanks a lot for you input
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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 5:14:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		i started being kinky at 11 and 12 but wont go into it here :). As i got older i repressed it and tried to stay vanilla but the only way i could get anything out of a vanilla sex relationship was to let my mind go over to my kinky side which i guess wasnt fair to my partners.

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 5:15:02 PM   
faerytattoodgirl


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Status: offline 		no..i took the blue pill and suddenly became a lesbian....

but then i took the red pill and it made me kinky.

the purple pill grew my boobies.

the yellow pill grew my hair.


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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 5:17:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Born oriented towards particular intimate personal relationship dynamics yes.

Hereditary?  I wouldn't be surprised if there were some element involved, but I don't think it's anywhere simple as eye color.

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 5:24:08 PM   
domahpet


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op. hmm, come to think of it both of my parents
are pretty kinky

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 5:36:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		faery, what about the PINK pill?

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 5:39:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		I absolutely believe people are born kinky.  I am the middle child of 3 (all girls).  I confided in my younger sister several years ago of my bdsm interests and she just laughed and said she always wanted to be a Dominatrix.  My older sister, who is a little slow, then spilled her soul to me a few years later saying she loves having her boyfriend spank her and wanted to know what to do next!  We have all talked to one another at different times since then and realize we all had interests from a very young age.  We were not sexually abused, spanked or anything like that. We are pretty far apart in age as well and grew up knowing different parents.  Meaning, the parents my older sister had when they were in their 20's was not the experience my younger sister received when they were in their 40's. Soooo...I'm left to believe it's something we were born with. 

I have spoken to many kinky people over the years.  The majority of my experience is with gentlemen that are into discipline, as I am a Disciplinarian.  I've found that nearly every single one that is serious about discipline has had a nearly life long interest and not one can figure out why.

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 5:39:51 PM   
faerytattoodgirl


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faery, what about the PINK pill?


pink pill kills you instantly.


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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 5:44:39 PM   
summersprite


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Status: offline 		When I was 12 years old, a male middle-aged teacher put me over his knee in front of the whole class and spanked me for being cheeky to him. It was certainly not erotic at the time, in fact I've never been so humiliated in my life and I cried for days, but this was before the world went PC mad, so my parents and the headmaster dismissed my complaints telling me I probably deserved it. And despite having many years of vanilla relationships, I've always had BDSM fantasies from my teenage years onwards. Funnily enough, one of the most powerful fantasies I have is the OTK spanking.....
So hereditary or environmental? I'd say mine was probably the latter.

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 5:55:08 PM   
Aanakaris


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Status: offline 		I am the kinky one among my siblings. I can remember haveing master/slave fantasies when I was 7. My first sexual thoughts invloved bondage and sadism. There has never been a time when I did not crave kinky sex. So to me it's all nature and little nurture.

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 6:07:17 PM   
tiedguy


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Status: offline 		dont belive it was inherited but certanly born that way without a doubt..... many early childhood memories

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 6:13:57 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: chickpea

Just wondering, there are all these debates about whether gay people are born that way.  Just wanted to know if people are born kinky?  What your guys opinions are on this one?  Thanks a lot for you input

It has been discussed a few times before.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1475200/mpage_1/key_genetic/tm.htm#1475738
Hard wired for BDSM?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1249267/mpage_1/tm.htm
Could KINK be genetic???

I've stated before that I know of no evidence that "kinkiness" is a genetic trait (for that matter I don't know of solid evidence that sexuality is... any sexual orientation).  I do however have mounds of evidence that kinky behavior is learned.  Others will have their own opinions I'm sure.

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 7:38:49 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: chickpea

Just wondering, there are all these debates about whether gay people are born that way.  Just wanted to know if people are born kinky?  What your guys opinions are on this one?  Thanks a lot for you input


I can't prove it, but I think everyone's hardwired with the potential to enjoy both domination and submission. 

Either of those potentials can develop based on good or bad experiences. 

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 7:54:00 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


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Status: offline 		I think there have been some studies that made a correlation between certain fetishes, and the pleasure centers in the brain.  I have no idea one way or the other, but I agree that just about anyone can be conditioned to like or dislike something.   I know that I've certanily never been very supportive of absolutes.  Seems to me that there are just too many variables, in most any single person's life experiences, to draw a straight line from Point A to Point Kink.

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/17/2008 9:00:13 PM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		Yes i was born this way ,plain n simple .
faery > i have some left over green pills

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/18/2008 12:39:40 AM   
Owner4SexSlave


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Status: offline 		Perhaps!  I tend to view it as being a combination of different things for different people.

In terms of the pain tolerence I personally have, I believe this to be biological.  My own mother has a very high pain tolerence.  Plus a few other family members do as well. 

In terms of D/s, my upbringing and social experiences, helped shape and mold it.  On a biological level, I suspect in part, because I remember things that I did way back in "Kindergarten" and the social adjustments I had to go through.  No, I did not play nice and fair with other kids right away.

For me, it's easier to relate to the social experiences I've had growing up over the years.  It's a little difficult for me to say one way or another that it was all Biological.  So, my honest answer is "Perhaps".  I'm not ruling it out.

In terms of my attraction to kink.  Again, this is difficult to say.   I was abused at one point in time when I was young child.  My understanding of Sex, violence, force, and all kinds of things was transformed by this experience.   I can not honestly say one way or another, if I had not been abused that I would not be into BDSM or kink.  It's subjective for me.

I do know this, that my experiences as a child, did play a major role of who I am today.  How could they not.  These things became very and deeply intergrated into my personality.   In fact to such a level, that I do not honestly believe, these aspects could ever be changed or removed from my core psyche.   The reason why is in part Biological, the result of brain pattern development based on my experiences growing up.   In short my Neuro pathways became hardwired.

So with that said, on a biological level, I'm wired for kink and BDMS regardless.  In terms of this being an inherited trait.  I find it questionable.  I don't have any clear answers on that one.  In terms of my High Sex drive, I believe that to be inherited.  It runs in my family.  I have reason and a basis to believe this personally.   It's difficult to proclaim D/s as being an Inherited trait or not.  My family is one full of dysfunctional, head butting, control freaks.  Again back to Neurological development of the brain during childhood.   I can honestly say, Inherited Trait, but I can not pin it on XYZ Chromosome from my Daddy's Sperm or Mommy's Egg cells.  LOL...

I have explored this topic at times, deep in thought, to the point I have literally mind fucked myself to death. 

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/18/2008 3:54:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		My mom says she's 100% sure I got it from my father. SRSLY.

(Honest...she really did say that.)

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/18/2008 4:12:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: chickpea

Just wondering, there are all these debates about whether gay people are born that way.  Just wanted to know if people are born kinky?  What your guys opinions are on this one?  Thanks a lot for you input



Instinct, which lends toward kink as our perceptions and ideas evolve.

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/18/2008 4:25:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

My mom says she's 100% sure I got it from my father. SRSLY.

(Honest...she really did say that.)

Master Fire


Gee, I wish I could get my mom to open up and say something like that.  She does make kinky smart ass remarks from time to time.  When I came out of the closet and informed here that I was into BDSM.  The only thing she said "How two people decide to live their life's is their business, just make certain it's consensual".  

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RE: Kinkiness an Inherited Trait?! - 5/18/2008 5:43:16 AM   
MladyHathor


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Status: offline 		For Me, I know only three things:
 
1. I am a twin, but they took My twin when Mom was 3 months pregnant---I am firmly convinced I have two sides--heh
 
2. When My parents fought ( usually at night when they thought I could not hear)---Mom got spanked more than a few times and then
 
3. They would invariably break the bed
 
 
You can  take that anyway you want, but I take it as early wiring---DNA? I will never know as My Dad died to early for Me to understand his psyche when it came to intimacy.
 


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