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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/21/2005 5:01:48 PM

topcat

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Dear CL-

I keep seeing posts like this, and I can say that it is not the system that's keepin you down, bro-

I get around twenty to thirty messages a week (many are replies, some are in referance to something on the board, but some are cold prospecting)(of course all the really cute ones are at least two hundred miles away<g>!), so perhaps it's your profile- I just skimmed the responses, and you got some good advice there- definatly consdier what Caitlyn had to say- she should be right in your target market, and she's smart as they come.

Add some pics that show something about yourself, limit yourself to the word 'fetish' once, and sell you- you the person, not the kink puppet. Talk about what drives your desires without resorting to cliches or scene specfic terminology.

and most of all- put in the time. It's not going to happen over night.

Good luck in the hunt-

Stay warm,
Lawrence

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/21/2005 6:22:13 PM

LadiesBladewing

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You might do some exploring locally. I don't know if there is a group near you, but you might check out the Next Generation groups. They are geared to younger adults, and I know of a number of 18-25 year olds who are pretty comfortable there. (Don't have time to read all the posts -- hope this isn't redundant information)

Lady Zephyr

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ORIGINAL: ChastityLocked

well, i cant help my age! i wish i was older, hell, i feel way older, but im 18 and theres nothing i can do about it. I hope the other changes might help my profile improve. I hope some younger guys or females can reply to this and give there insight

< Message edited by LadiesBladewing -- 10/23/2005 11:39:34 AM >

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/21/2005 9:07:37 PM

gypsyeyez

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Truth be known in my opinion....

In any personals site there are it seems a lot more men then women and it is better to be more leary of a "female" that writes you immediately with great eagerness.... and who starts telling you her most erotic dreams off the bat ... cause chances are it is not a female at all, but rather a male. Females really just tend to be more with drawn and wait for the right man to just appear more then anything. For in our courtship we wait to see the reputation of the person before getting involved. So we are a little more cautious but for the sincere this still is a great place to meet others I have been fortunate in people who have contacted me most have been respectful and stand a good chance in becoming a valued friend.

*steps off my little soap box*

~*~gypsy~*~

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/21/2005 9:46:02 PM

UtopianRanger

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quote:

ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures

quote:

Or "an evil bastard who really knows how to hurt a person"

[evil laugh]

JohnWarren

No, not You either; You have a rep as a kind and knowledgable Man as well...sorry...LOL...pinkpleasures

Pink....

I wholeheartedly agree with you {on both posts}. -- Both are good dudes and funny as all hell. The board wouldn't be the same if they were missing.

- The Ranger

< Message edited by UtopianRanger -- 10/21/2005 9:47:19 PM >

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 1:15:43 AM

brightspot

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And you are 18. How many 18 yo femdomes do you hope to find on this or any other site?

I didn't read anything about a FemDomme? Unless it was edited.
In fact as I read his profile he claims to be a Switch.

That might in fact be one of your problems, ChastityLocked.
I have found that Switches, are not really embraced here on CM.

But you are young and have a lot of learning and excitement ahead of you.
I wouldn't get discourged, just suck up all the knowledge you can...Your a nice looking young man, if you have good basic moral's and honesty, I don't see you having a hard time finding a "woman" who is compatable with your Kink.

Hang in there and educate yourself, to be the best partner you can, she is out there somewhere.

*Brightspot

< Message edited by brightspot -- 10/22/2005 1:23:31 AM >

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 6:39:13 AM

Lordandmaster

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And here I was thinking I was a bad dude...

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ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger

I wholeheartedly agree with you {on both posts}. -- Both are good dudes and funny as all hell. The board wouldn't be the same if they were missing.

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 7:45:08 AM

pinkpleasures

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quote:

And here I was thinking I was a bad dude...

Lordandmaster

Well, You DO withold tee shirts, LOL.

pinkpleasures

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 7:59:51 AM

LadyAngelika

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Angrylibrarian

I get a lot of mail but its mostly replies from Faramir

Are you two having a secret affair? If so, I want pictures ;-)

- LA

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 8:00:31 AM

LadyAngelika

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quote:

(of course all the really cute ones are at least two hundred miles away<g>!)

I could deal with 200 miles. Try 3000!!

- LA

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 10:50:53 AM

LadyHibiscus

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No kidding! Where's the guy with his own Gulfstream when you need him!

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 11:01:10 AM

ChastityLocked

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quote:

That might in fact be one of your problems, ChastityLocked.
I have found that Switches, are not really embraced here on CM.

well, im more dominant, BUT, if i found a really good misstress, i wouldnt mind being the submissive/slave type. I figure i can "play" both sides of the field. I have an all-around interest in the bdsm scene, and would like to try both. Ive tried the dominant role and i liked it very much, but as i said, if i found a really good misstress, id love to try the submissive/slave role.

thank you for your reply.

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 11:17:04 AM

LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
No kidding! Where's the guy with his own Gulfstream when you need him!

And unlimited time to travel!

To be honest, there is something to be said about "distance makes the heart grow fonder" though if my heart grows anymore, it's going to explode out of my chest!

- LA

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 11:53:11 AM

TexasMaam

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

quote:

ORIGINAL: ChastityLocked
theres a good number of females my age in my area, but none even wanna just say hi back.

Just a hint. Take care in your spelling, punctuation and grammar. I know it may not seem important but this is a text medium and people take significant clues from such things.

Oh, one other thing, do you refer to them as "females" in your personal email? That word is a hot button for many women. It's not as incendary as "girls" but it can trigger an "I'll pass on this one."

<laffing!

Yup, John, you hit a nail on the head here! ChastityLocked refers to 'females' the way I assume he refers to 'chicks' in a bar setting.

BIG RED FLAG!

Blech!

TexasMaam

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 12:38:33 PM

MistressSassy66

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

Go to munches and real life events, online is a huge waist of time trying to find that golden goose in the gaggle, and you won't get any real life experince. however it's nice to make friends in places you never would of before. Forinstance I was able to talk to a nice friend in belguim, Iraq and in egypt, and with out that being availible due to online I never would have.

________________________________________________________________________
If you look in the Positive Experiences you will see that this site does work.I have met several people from here in Real Life,1 of those subs its been about 9 months now,I had one for about 4 months,that visited often(that one didnt work out).I also have 4 other subs I see on a pretty regular basis,I have had 5 one time meetings.I am always getting new mail some works out. some dont.
BUT this didnt happen overnight,it took time and patience.I have been a memeber here just about a year,it took time for the emails to come in.
Hang in there.

< Message edited by MistressSassy66 -- 10/22/2005 12:43:39 PM >

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 12:51:37 PM

MasterHyde

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quote:

ORIGINAL: windchymes

Oops, my apologies. I guess I read too many profiles all at once. Coulda sworn it was Phillly.....

Well, for anyone who IS in the Philly area....it's a good group!

I'm in Philly, and I'm a member of BTS. Unfortunately, it's mostly inactive right now. There were some parties being held every couple of months, but not for some time now. I don't even get much email on the BTS mailing list anymore. That's a shame because I have many friends who are members, and I've love to see the group be more active. On the other hand, BTS is not the only game in town, either. There are many other people organizing munches and play parties. I was at the Playground last night, and I had a very nice time.

If anyone else is in Philly, and wants more information on local activities, get in touch with me.

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 12:57:26 PM

MasterHyde

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ChastityLocked

Thanks to everyone for the positive comments!

It's been said before, but it bears repeating. Be very careful in your writing! Use a spell checker if necessary. The written word is the only tool you have for communicating here. If you use it poorly, you leave a less than ideal impression on people.

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 1:33:43 PM

IronBear

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

ORIGINAL: Angrylibrarian

I get a lot of mail but its mostly replies from Faramir

Are you two having a secret affair? If so, I want pictures ;-)

- LA

LA, you can have the publicity shots, I want to produce the TV Series....

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 3:22:05 PM

LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

ORIGINAL: Angrylibrarian

I get a lot of mail but its mostly replies from Faramir

Are you two having a secret affair? If so, I want pictures ;-)

- LA

LA, you can have the publicity shots, I want to produce the TV Series....

Only if I can be the director *shows IronBear her film production school degree*

- LA

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/22/2005 3:37:40 PM

LadyAngelika

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Alright, since I’ve derailed this thread a few times, I will post something on topic. ChastityLocked, you got some really good advice from some of the members here. Let me add my 2¢.

First of all, the whole notion of men/women ratio is moot for me. I don’t care if I have 1 million men to choose from. If the man for me isn’t in that million, then I won’t settle. I’ve been on this site for about 15 months. I’ve met 3 local boys in person and had a brief affair with one over 8 months ago, the other remained friends with for a while and the third is one of my closest friends now and oddly enough lives a few blocks away from me. I’ve met a few others from a.com & b.com as well. I have also made a lot of friends on this site, and some who I’ve even met in person when travelling. But not until recently did I really, *really* hit it off with someone from this site. It took almost a year, almost 3000 posts and probably a good 500 emails before the boy I adore came along. And trust me, it wasn’t because of lack of offers. I get offers daily.

Second of all, I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt that you will accept just being friends. However, be aware that it is a line that is used often as a way to get a foot in the door. I have a yahoo messenger long list of blocks from local guys who said “Hey, I’d be happy just being friends with you” and then a week later saying “Would you be my Mistress?” even when I’ve told them that I wasn’t looking. I suspect many Dommes (and submissive women as well) have had this similar experience and though it sucks that a whole whack of bad apples spoiled it for you, you are just going to have to factor that in as one of the unfortunate obstacles.

Thirdly, there is the question of perception. When you write such things as “if i found a really good misstress, i wouldnt mind being the submissive/slave type” you have to realise that it doesn’t come off as a very strong statement. Saying that you wouldn’t mind will be perceived by many as you settling. No woman wants to feel like a guy has settled for her. I’m not saying that is what you would be doing. I’m simply telling you that your words could very well be perceived as such.

Finally, you are young. And I’m not saying this to be ageist or condescending. I know it’s hard to be taken seriously when you are young but there are many advantages too. You can explore, discover what you like, etc. Don’t be in such a rush to find *her* right away and just participate here and make friends. If it’s any encouragement, my boy initially got my attention by his writings here on the boards.

- LA

< Message edited by LadyAngelika -- 10/22/2005 3:39:38 PM >

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RE: CollarME and its profiles - 10/23/2005 8:25:51 AM

pinkpleasures

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Second of all, I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt that you will accept just being friends. However, be aware that it is a line that is used often as a way to get a foot in the door. I have a yahoo messenger long list of blocks from local guys who said “Hey, I’d be happy just being friends with you” and then a week later saying “Would you be my Mistress?” even when I’ve told them that I wasn’t looking. I suspect many Dommes (and submissive women as well) have had this similar experience and though it sucks that a whole whack of bad apples spoiled it for you, you are just going to have to factor that in as one of the unfortunate obstacles.

LadyAngelika

This business of being told "no" when asking for a D/s or M/s relationship and then asking for friendship has NEVER worked out for me...it appears men use it as a way to keep ahold of me and hope i'll change my mind (usually because they are married) and i have friends who i have reached out to because i was truely in awe of Them, but none that chased me.

pinkpleasures

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