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LadyHugs -> RE: Mentoring/Apprenticeships (5/31/2008 8:34:29 AM)
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Dear IvyMorgan, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In regard to your original post; I believe you to be very normal.
One can be a Sadist and yet struggle with society's boundaries of what Sadism is or is not--the fact that you are aware that you are able to 'hurt' someone is the sanity needed to practice consensual Sadism on a willing masochist. It is that fine line that is in need of definition as well as to see through other's who identify as Sadist, as to acquire many levels of application of pain, discomfort and how the body is involved in all of this; to include the emotional dangers of Sadism; those who are not able to speak when in their zone or flying--all these little nuggets of information and knowledge other seasoned Sadists can help point out and advise, problem solve and hopefully add to your basket 'per se' as to the wide variety of Sadism. Passive, sensual, intense and or suggestive--all skills no different than mastering an art form.
How one manipulates pain as to manipulate the endorphins and adrenaline; the pheromones and how the beauty of the mind, body and senses create the recipe to achieve the heights where you direct and then return that person back into a position of 'grounding.'
I am of the hope, that you will be able to find someone in England. If you have the ability to join some of the Collarme.com chat rooms; there are several Dominants in England that visit the #subs_for_Domme; to which they may best advise; and I would not pass over the opportunity to the lads who visit that channel from the UK as well.
IF I want to look for a mentor, I would find someone who can detail explain what is taking place, not just showing the skills but, show you the skills and then place the whip, cane, the single tail, the dragon tail, the quirt--or whatever instrument/tool in your hand and work with you until you find the correct skill for you--to tweek the skill as to be fluid and not tense in execution of 'said' skill. In addition, I would also wish my mentor to know anatomy, how the nerve bundles connect into the sensation and the pathway to the reactions; to which pain manipulation plays a part of the electrical response, such as involuntary responses and the voluntary responses. Further, I would look at the mentor's ability to answer question whenever they offer themselves in thought, reflection, interaction or in resources. I enjoy the 'open door' policy with any of my students and or former students. Learning never stops--it is a life long endeavor.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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