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Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/26/2008 3:02:53 PM

Griswold

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(I'm just wondering?)

Seems like a complete win/win to me

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/26/2008 3:04:55 PM

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It can be a win win and it cal also lead to LOTS of emotonal issues and some major relationship upkeep work. Being in a cuckolded relationships isnt necessarily as easy as some people make it sound. Mine has been working for a long while, but the beginning was rocky, to put it lightly. It nearly ended several times becasue of jealousy, hurt feelings, misunderstanding and the like. Now, it goes along smoothly, but it took nearly 2 years to get all those kinks ironed out.

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/26/2008 3:09:20 PM

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I have NO idea why this whole concept is appealing, but then I am not into humiliation play, orgasm control, or chastity. Plus, as a medieval historian, the "traditional" definition of cuckold is the one that sticks in my head... and in My universe, why have a primary that you don't have sex with? (Unless illness is in the way, of course, whole other story...)

I am always urprised when I find that women I know are into this. Good on 'em, of course, but the allure eludes me.

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/26/2008 3:16:49 PM

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It's a distance thing, sweetie.

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/26/2008 4:15:19 PM

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It's a distance thing, sweetie.

(Just one of multiple reasons why God invented Orville and Wilbur).

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/26/2008 4:27:05 PM

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Better hurry. I hear those summer rates are going up.

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/26/2008 5:03:53 PM

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It's a distance thing, sweetie.

Poly is way easier, eh?

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/26/2008 5:18:22 PM

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quote:

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(I'm just wondering?)

Seems like a complete win/win to me

The FANTASY is a win/win, the reality isn't. If the cuck really is worthless, why be with him? Why take care of him emotionally afterwards? If the bull is so hot, why not be with him?

The fantasy revolves around being with a woman SO hot other men want her, humiliation play that is hot, voyerism, and the knowledge that even though she is fucking everything he isn't, she is still his.

And THAT is why it is more fantasy than reality. Because the amountt of emotional work a woman would have to do to keep her husband emotionally secure AND a worm, AND keep the bull, AND not want to leave for him, is HARD FUCKING WORK. Then you have to be as the guy, secure enough to believe all that in your heart and if you could do that, you might not want to do it as a cuckhold.

It of course is done all the time but done where everyone actually relishes there role is more rare. I have played Bull a few times and I know it is hard for me to let go as part of my mind is having to be focusing on the cuck and seeing where he is at.

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/26/2008 5:30:52 PM

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... it took nearly 2 years to get all those kinks ironed out.
DV

Something about that phrase struck me as funny. Wasn't it really that you wanted them firmly ironed and pressed in?

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/26/2008 5:32:10 PM

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I suspect there might be more males that want this, than females. I could be wrong, though. It wouldn't be the first time.

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/26/2008 7:15:32 PM

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Nope not a win win for Me, I find it creepy---YKINMK---

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/27/2008 5:01:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: Griswold

(I'm just wondering?)

Seems like a complete win/win to me

Not in my world

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/27/2008 5:48:39 AM

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Nope not a win win for Me, I find it creepy---YKINMK---

How wonderfully open-minded of you.

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/27/2008 5:57:27 AM

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Nope not a win win for Me, I find it creepy---YKINMK---

How wonderfully open-minded of you.

I don't have to be open minded, I'm the Dominant!

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/27/2008 6:54:08 AM

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um ok yeah right keep telling your self that life will be oooooooooook yep uh huh best of luck rofl

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/27/2008 8:27:40 AM

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I'd suggest that you might have more luck encountering women open to playing the cuckhold fantasy amongst swingers than kink folk. I find there's a strong bias against men participating in actual sex amongst the heterosexual BDSM community. Not a complaint (for or against) just an observation. Scenes in a dungeon where women are playing are usually hot; the moment a penis appears (in any state other than flaccid and beaten) there tends to be a strong reaction against.

Just sayin.

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/27/2008 8:33:07 AM

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um ok yeah right keep telling your self that life will be oooooooooook yep uh huh best of luck rofl

I thought you had left CM it has been so nice while you were gone.

Cuckholding isn't easy but that isn't to say it can't be done well. I cucked a guy a long time ago, ran into him a few years ago and now we are the tightest of friends. It is done well all the time, I just wouldn't say most of the time it is done well.

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/27/2008 8:36:35 AM

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... it took nearly 2 years to get all those kinks ironed out.
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Something about that phrase struck me as funny. Wasn't it really that you wanted them firmly ironed and pressed in?

Had to get the kinks I didnt want ironed out... how else do you get custom tailored slave boys?

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/27/2008 8:45:39 AM

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Gris, there are a couple ladies in the Mistress Zone who do this kind of thing well....maybe you can get this thread moved and ask them!

I am not creeped out by this kink, it's the notion that my primary isn't "good enough" and I have to look elsewhere that messes with my mind. Why would I have a second-rate primary, anyway? Now, looking back, I did a fun voyeur scene with my slave and a fuckbuddy that was very entertaining for us all, but no one got any kind of less-than role.

In the one relationship that I know of where this does work, I almost hate to call it cuckolding, because in the day to day, it works out that SHE is poly, he is not. She comes home to him, has full use of him, the whole nine yards. From what I have observed, this is one of those kinks where the players expand the definition to suit themselves, and good for them! Me...it''s hard enough for me to find ONE guy I can put up with, let alone two!. eeh! >)

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RE: Cuckold; Where are all the Dommes that want this? - 5/27/2008 8:53:27 AM

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Nope not a win win for Me, I find it creepy---YKINMK---

How wonderfully open-minded of you.

I don't have to be open minded, I'm the Dominant!

Oh my lol, I thought the days of people really thinking the dom was more than there to serve the subs needs to be dominated were long gone. Apparently I should keep my eyes peeled for barbarians.

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