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RE: What connected you with your submissive? - 6/13/2008 4:59:36 PM

Reigna

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A mutual acquaintance introduced me to my sub. He's got a gloriously wacky sense of humor, and two years into things he still makes me laugh harder than anyone else can.

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RE: What connected you with your submissive? - 6/15/2008 10:33:53 PM

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After my marriage (absolute hell) I decided to never be with a man again. I was done with them. I met Dainty at the hardware store. I was trying to get a sales clerk to help me but it was really busy in there so he helped me instead. He was very patient and understanding but I am not good with tools. So went around and got what I needed for the fence I wanted to put up around my garden. To my surprise he offered to come help me put it up. I was totally lost when he explained the steps to install it and he seemed sincere so I accepted his help. I couldn't do much and he ended up doing most of the work. He patiently explained everything as he went along. He was so different compared to the idiot I married who would just yell at me when I didn't understand things. I have 5 acres just out of town and the place was getting run down since he was gone. Dainty came out and helped me many times with the place after that and asked for nothing in return. He said he enjoyed being with me and that was payment enough. I guess I liked it too. I expected we would just be friends as he didn't even try to make a move on me. He was open and honest with me and we talked about our past relationships. I told him about the things my husband did to me and he was shocked and told me in his relationship with his ex girlfriend she was in charge. He told me how she used to tie him up whenever she wanted and he would just let her. This was my introduction to bsdm and femdom. He explained that it was a good relationship while it lasted and he wasn't abused but she was definitely in control. He said there was lots about it on the internet so I got curious and started looking in my spare time when alone. I jokingly said to him he was so handy I should tie him up to keep him and he said in return that he would gladly be locked up in my chains anytime. What made it change from friendship to the relationship we have now is he went and helped some other woman move or something and I got really jealous. Sounds crazy doesn't it considering I never so much as kissed him goodnight. But I was crazy jealous and was determined he wouldn't see her again. He promised he wouldnt and that was when I realised I just had to own him. And here we are. He taught me that it could be about my needs instead of living to please an abusive husband.

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RE: What connected you with your submissive? - 6/16/2008 10:42:51 AM

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Hi everyone,

   I know everyone has particular things that they look for, special qualities, or skills that they look for in a submissive. My question is what brought you and your submissive together?

   My personal story of when pet wrote to me he was so kind, open, and very patient even when I didn't answer his emails for a few days. When I told him a lot was happening in my life he offered his phone number....I thought it was some sort of ploy that he couldn't actually be concerned about someone he hardly knew. Then one night I decided why not. I called him and we've been talking everyday since last August. pet has many qualities that I find appealing, he's very good looking, kind, sweet, sensitive, he looks at me from his knees like I'm a Goddess that floated from the heavens. He is very talented and trained well, loves rubber (Yay!!) and is muscular, along with many other skills that I can't remember how I lived without.

    I know that everyone has a different story and I'm curious as to what brings people together. Thanks in advance. ~Lorelei

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RE: What connected you with your submissive? - 6/18/2008 8:06:44 PM

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My sub just came across as very real and genuine, someone I really wanted to get to know based on what he wrote in his profile. As we got to know eachother we had so many things in common, from a love of tattoos and a wide variety of music to leading a double life working in high end industries, with tattoos under expensive suits. All of our vanilla interests are right there and the kink just lined itself up. We joked for a long time as it took a few months to find something we did not agree upon. The first time we played was like coming home to someone you know, it all flows very easily. Sitting in silence sipping a drink just being able to enjoy being together.

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RE: What connected you with your submissive? - 6/18/2008 9:00:21 PM

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wow - a lovely thread all around. Thank you everyone for sharing your intimate stories - really inspiring. Shakti - I am so glad someone worthy snapped up that yummy morsel that is Aidan. He lingered here way too long for such a fine fella.

Crouching Tiger having had the pleasure of meeting your Lee at Shibaricon and attending quite a few of his classes I see what you mean about his energy and playfulness. I so enjoyed being around him and learning from him. Your intimate story is lovely to hear I am glad you were brave enough to put it here for us.

And all of you do anything but make a gal feel sick - this is the rewards and yall are so right we do not nearly celebrate enough. Feeling all glowy and satisfied that my online ask a mistress friends are all doing so well.

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RE: What connected you with your submissive? - 6/18/2008 9:45:14 PM

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About 15 years ago now, my friends introduced me to this funny looking guy in their driveway. He was playing guitar in the new band they were starting. A few months later he and I ended up sitting next to eachother at some kid's party we got invited to. We had a chance to really talk for the first time. He left there and told his best friend that I was his perfect woman, and that he wanted to end up with me. I joked with my then-husband/sub that if he and I ever broke-up, I would go for Frenchy. We had this unspoken connection for several years. When I was unencumbered by husband/sub #1, I told Frenchy we were going to go out, and the rest is history. Before he met me, he didn't really have much exposure to lifestyle BDSM. He's just this very agreeable, generous, kind natural submissive I met in a friend's driveway. I never collared him formally, and then after I moved away and came back, he was there at the foot of the airport escallator, and I knew he had to always be with me, so I dragged him to the courthouse a few months later. I made him wear a necktie the first time in his life. That's the only collar he needed. LOL

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RE: What connected you with your submissive? - 6/18/2008 10:46:21 PM

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I met my slave/husband at work...he was *cough* my boss...they hired me while he was on vacation. So he came into work and there I was...b!tching out some underling...he knew right then and there if I wasn't a Domme I would have no qualms about being one...only one problem...I was engaged to someone else...

He started the slow seduction...lunches, showing me tricks at work to make life easier..helping me out etc...Eventually we went to the movies together...I said I have a list of thing that make guys run for the hills...Bloodplay, BDSM, and the fact that I had never been faithful to any boyfriend...I'll never forget his responses...Bloodplay was fine...BDSM was I a top or a bottom...and could he watch? was the unfaithfulness...eventually the fiancé and I broke up and Drat moved in with the kids and I...

We just celebrated 8yrs together last month and 5yrs wedded bliss in Feb. When we lived in Houston I had a wonderful submissive that I occasionally slept with…and yes Drat got to watch…I miss him terribly…but they both have the same traits…Confident, great sense of humor and extreme intelligence. Just one had a huge cock and the other a huge tongue…I’ll let you guess which was which *grins*

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RE: What connected you with your submissive? - 6/19/2008 2:45:44 AM

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Glorious Mistress Dolly,
i find Your requirements so perfect and relevant!
i do not want to judge about my class and intelligence, although i think people would say so about me. i am young (33) and fit for hard work, although i am far from the body-builder look. So i am not sure about physical attractiveness either, maybe; i do not want to play me up, otherwise how can i claim i am "Free of the trapping of egotism"?
Finally, the only sure feature of mine is the passionate reverence for Women, which becomes worship in front of special Dominant and Wise and Beautiful Women like You.

Humble regards,
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