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RE: Submissive or Slave - 6/10/2008 7:51:49 AM

Arastella

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First and foremost, do NOT apologize. This is what this forum is for. We are here to help and give advice to anyone who needs it, never think you need to apologize for asking.

Well hun, all I can tell you is to follow your heart. I know it sounds shmaltzy, but it really is true. I struggle with the same battle myself. My initial instinct is set on please. My mind is always thinking of how else I can please, or how I can please more. Or how I can become more desirable. But if you truly feel it is your desire to submit that deeply and become a slave, the only thing I can tell you to do is talk to him about it. Tell him of your desires, and see how he feels about it. And just go from there.

Hope you figure things out and find the happiness you desire.

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RE: Submissive or Slave - 6/10/2008 8:30:43 AM

Quin

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First of all, you are what you and your Master decide you are...though, in my opinion, one can't, really, be a slave if the two are separate. For me, a Master/slave relationship requires a long-term commitment, close contact, and lots of knowledge and trust in one another (not something entered into lightly).

What I'm getting from your posts is that you WANT to be a slave and have him take control of everything...communication, play, and so on...but even a slave has responsibilities in the relationship...most importantly to communicate with his/her Master/Mistress. We are not mind readers and cannot determine if something went wrong in a scene if you don't talk to us and tell us.

As for the safeword...this is one reason that I don't use them. I prefer to start out slow and get to know the slaves body reactions. Too many submissives/slaves equate safeword use with failure. It isn't. It is a tool that your partner uses to know how much you can handle. Given the newness of this relationship, I think you need to let go of your "desire" and use it...otherwise he will never know what you truly can and cannot take.

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