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fungasm -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/1/2008 8:42:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily

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doesn't violate the laws ......or the laws of physics.


Pumpkin, you are missing some of the most fun stuff :)

PL



You know, I wish that everything between consenting adults was legal.  But the laws I always follow:  no UMs, nothing for the NonConsenting (which includes exhibitionism).  

I would LOVE any example of a fabulous erotic act that violates the laws of physics.  Hmmm... tesseract orgasms anyone?


----
Gypsygrl- You are fabulous!  Bell Curves and Ven Diagrams- be still my heart.



RCdc -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/1/2008 9:18:50 AM)

So in other words, it's not the laws that bother you - you just choose the laws you wish to break?
 
the.dark.



Aileen1968 -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/1/2008 10:12:59 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SummerWind

"I was told there would be no math".......


You better study.  I heard there's a final exam.



LPslittleclip -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/1/2008 10:54:12 AM)

i like variety in my life and i like doing some of the same things just because i like them or my partners pleasure. i like to try new things like fire play and cupping(real fun) as well as probing farther with electric play(new attachment for the violet wand). i don't count the percentages i just like to have fun and please others. 



ThundersCry -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/1/2008 12:42:18 PM)

****On the other hand there are things which it's very rarely for a partner to want all of the time, which makes them more fun to explore:  strap ons, TENS units, bondage, nipple clamps, rope bondage, spankings, canings, etc.  ****

 
These...are not the norm...rare?
 
They are in the sticks... <g>






mistoferin -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/1/2008 12:51:23 PM)

I'm sitting here trying to picture how well this conversation would go over.....

Dom:     I want a blowjob.
Sub:      I'm sorry Sir, I know it is only the 7th of the month, but based upon last month's figures you have already had me do that 30% of the time. I know you really want one but I'm afraid that I can't give you that until after the 1st of next month.



Padriag -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/1/2008 1:01:13 PM)

Hehe... yeah... pretty much Erin.

Dom:  Really?  Let me introduce you to the curb.



Aanakaris -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/1/2008 1:40:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: fungasm

quote:

ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily

quote:

doesn't violate the laws ......or the laws of physics.


Pumpkin, you are missing some of the most fun stuff :)

PL



You know, I wish that everything between consenting adults was legal.  But the laws I always follow:  no UMs, nothing for the NonConsenting (which includes exhibitionism).  

I would LOVE any example of a fabulous erotic act that violates the laws of physics.  Hmmm... tesseract orgasms anyone?


----
Gypsygrl- You are fabulous!  Bell Curves and Ven Diagrams- be still my heart.


I bet if you did a search of the local laws governing sex for your state and city you would be surprised at how many times you have broken the law.

I know in the town I was born in, oral and anal sex were illegal. As well as bondage with metal restraints (but not any other restraints) where the intent was sexual in nature (so I could just tie somebody up to be mean, but not for sex). There were numerous others as well.

But I understand what you are saying. I love to give a good spanking, but was once with a sub who could not enjoy sex without being spanked first. After a while spanking became routine and I began to lose interest. That's the secret for me, keeping it interesting. Mixing it up. Anything can become routine if that's all you do.

Howard



stella41b -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/1/2008 3:47:23 PM)

Hmm, I guess it's okay if it works for the OP.

It doesn't work for me. Why? The activities I involve myself in with a partner, in my case a Domme, are only significant for the feelings and emotions which sharing such activities evokes between said Domme and me. Even if it wasn't D/s and a vanilla relationship it would still be the same. Even if I were a Domme and with a submissive of either gender it would be the same.

And then there's what I would term absolute reality. Absolute reality in my case is, if you're into me and in a relationship with me, then pretty much you're into spontaneity, some degree of chaos, and what mathematicians would call 'the random integer'.

But then again there's another absolute reality. I'm a submissive. I form relationships with Dommes. Not very often like, not even what you would call 'habitual', but it's been pretty consistent and for some years the norm. The second absolute reality is that I do what she wants, even if it isn't what I want, even if it isn't what I desire, even if it bores me to tears, even if it hurts, even if it's going to tire me out, it doesn't matter. It's what she wants, needs, and desires. This is what matters.

I don't believe in rules. Rules can be very good, but they sometimes fail to take into account circumstances and the reality of a specific situation, which is why they get broken. You can say the same about laws. I live my life according to principles backed up by reason and motivation.



AMaster -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/1/2008 6:06:54 PM)

fungasm:  you're kidding, right?



slaveluci -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/2/2008 5:39:07 AM)

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ORIGINAL: fungasm
On the other hand there are things which it's very rarely for a partner to want all of the time, which makes them more fun to explore:  strap ons, TENS units, bondage, nipple clamps, rope bondage, spankings, canings, etc. 

How does this fit in your experience?

It doesn't fit my experience that my partner "rarely" wants some of those things[;)].  These are some of the more usual, common repeated things we do..............luci



DesFIP -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/2/2008 5:54:50 AM)

I think of those things as fetishes. Not that they want them every time, but they need them to have a satisfying time sexually. And as I don't have any fetishes myself, I don't find myself a good match for people who do have them.



CreativeDominant -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/2/2008 7:11:04 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

I'm sitting here trying to picture how well this conversation would go over.....

Dom:     I want a blowjob.
Sub:      I'm sorry Sir, I know it is only the 7th of the month, but based upon last month's figures you have already had me do that 30% of the time. I know you really want one but I'm afraid that I can't give you that until after the 1st of next month.

Hehe... yeah... pretty much Erin.

Dom:  Really?  Let me introduce you to the curb.

I couldn't agree more.  While on one hand, I do "get" what the OP is saying...in the past, I dealt with a submissive whose sexual arousal seemed to be based solely on how much of his time a dominant would spend humiliating her and I find that sort of "one-focus" thing very boring...on the other hand, I am a dominant, sexual sadist who does like to do certain things more often than others.  The example given above by mistoferin is perfect...I LIKE oral sex and if I get a spell, like Elvis, where I want a blowjob every damn day for 30 days, then by the 30% rule, I've used up my "allotment" for 3 months.  Sorry...as the dominant, the sexual nature of our relationship goes MY way.  My way takes her feelings into account, it does not let them rule this part of the dynamic anymore than it lets her feelings rule any other part of the dynamic.





mistoferin -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/2/2008 7:21:54 AM)

I tried this last night. I asked Sir if we could discuss a change to our relationship. My proposed plan is that we would not do any one thing more than 30% of the time. I said, the good news is that there will be some things that you could incorporate more often. The bad news is that it will seriously cut back on your blowjobs. His response? "Have you bumped your head or something?"



LadyHibiscus -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/2/2008 7:26:24 AM)

Well sure, erin, how many guys are going to go for anything that gets them fewer blowjobs?  <snort>  See, if you had offered less......I dunno......less shrimping?  Something.....  he might have gone for it!

Though I do get the OP's point as regards fetishists.  If a fetish is one that is SHARED, there is much satisfaction to be had.  If it's a thing that one is doing purely to please the other to the exclusion of other stuff, that's not so much fun.  If a guy tells me Oh, no problem ma'am, I can give up the crossdressing for You, I KNOW he is either lying to me or himself.  A big fetish is a big deal. 



adoracat -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/2/2008 7:31:21 AM)

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ORIGINAL: servantheart
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That's just scary.  I've always said that engineers and programmers are a special breed [8D]


yes. yes they are. 

kitten, who has a proposal from TheEngineer, and whose first two dominants were computer tech/geek/programmers



aliasmoniker -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/2/2008 7:56:14 AM)

I use the 30-30-40 rule. 30% fat, 30% protein and 40% carbohydrate. I found it printed on the side of the nutrition bar box. I just tranlsate it to sex acts. Sure, it takes extra work to track my sex acts by type but I am worth it. Or is it my make-up I am worth? I get my consumer information confused. I don't wear make-up anyway. Maybe it was my hair care products. All I know is, that when I turn my car on I want it to return the favor. 



Mercnbeth -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/2/2008 8:37:35 AM)

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How does this fit in your experience?


other than folks who proclaimed they were 100% NOT into something, this slave has never met anyone who broke down their participation in particular sexual activities into percentages, then proceeded to maintain certain percentages and/or put a cap on activities that might exceed those percentages.
 
the only percentage that matters to this slave is what percent Master is satisfied and pleased with any given activity.



gypsygrl -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/2/2008 8:58:49 AM)

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this slave has never met anyone who broke down their participation in particular sexual activities into percentages


I was good friends with someone who broke everything down into percentages.  I don't know how he came up with his numbers, but his percentages were absurdly precise.  He'd say things like, "I burn my polenta 28% of the time."  (not 25% or 30%)  It always gave me a chuckle.  He was an economist.

I dunno if he did that with his sex life.  It wasn't something we talked out.  But, if he did it to polenta, I can't imagine why he wouldn't have done it with sex.



subtee -> RE: My 30% Rule (6/2/2008 9:09:28 AM)

~FR

I had no idea there was such a nerd factor on CM...

kinda explains a lot. [8|]

With hopeless talent for math/physics/statistics/programming/yaddayaddayadda,

tee



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