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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/2/2008 10:25:58 AM

alittleevil

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Greetings,
In order of appearance:
1. An aura and assumption of dominance in all aspects of his life.
2. Demonstrated responsibility and integrity in all aspects of his life.
3. Intelligence. Another thread somewhere asked about an s being smarter than a D, for me that would simply be an impossible dynamic.
4. Sexual chemistry. Similar kinks are nice, but i'm an adaptable sort.
5. A sense of humor and the ability to appreciate mine, which can be quite...strange
6. Similar tastes in music (Sounds trivial. Isn't.)

The lack of any of these would be a no-go from the get-go.

Best,
aj

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/2/2008 10:34:01 AM

subtee

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Water~~ should be right around 60-65% water.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/2/2008 10:45:32 AM

WalterRego

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Clearly the most important thing my future Dominant should have would be.........me.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/2/2008 10:48:55 AM

aleshaDreams

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Must haves for me to consider include: consistency, patience, follow-through, natural leadership ability and empathy.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/2/2008 1:23:06 PM

Puppy4goodHome

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For this submissive pet it would have to be to know that my Owner Mistress would care for her pet not alow harm to come to me other then the kinds of harm wich is not harm if you get what im saying ;)

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/2/2008 1:31:27 PM

softness

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control of themselves .. and unwavering acceptance of the responsibility of their actions

we all make mistakes, Dominants/Masters/Owners .. they all fuck up just as much as subs/slaves/property do ... I would only trust someone who held themselves as accountable, if not more ... as they hold me .. because then there is a Man worthy to own me .. and there is a Man who I would take pride in serving.

and they should be able to kiss, make mouth-orgasm-inducing home made icecream, understand the Domiant power of well applied confectionary, ... and quote me Caesar as I recover from sodomy

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/2/2008 1:48:28 PM

vield

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Interesting topic.

The one thing which will always draw my attention to a potential partner is that I feel a charisma from them which feels attractive and compatible to me. If this charisma is small, the attraction is small. If it is great, so is the attraction.

That is the first need. This being present does not mean that the other will be a compatible partner, but it does mean a possibility exists.

Next I need to determine that the person is very intelligent. They need not have education, they need not have experience in the scene, but they need to be bright persons.

During the period of getting to know the potential partner I seek to determine if the person values and posesses honesty and mutual respect. without these it is not possible to develope the deep degree of mutual trust one needs to give or receive a deep surrender to the wishes of the other.

There are likes and dislikes I have as we all do, but most of these are minor and can be worked out or negotiated if the mental and emotional connection is good.

There are mutual limits which need to be communicated, explored and respected mutually. It may end up that one partner has a limit which bars a major neeed of the other from being met. there can still be a wonderful BD/SM relationship in this case, but the partner who lacks a need will need to find that met eventually with others. As long as this is consensual for all, it works.

I am a switch, and I use the term partner here , because the needs I list above which I must have met when I submit to another are the same needs I have with someone who consents to submit to me.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/2/2008 2:04:06 PM

lally3

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intuition... and one other, being given the freedom to be me; which actually ties in with intuition, but then intuition ties in with everything.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 2:44:46 AM

petpete

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i was going to answer to stella, not to complicate us any further to what we already are... Life is simple.. We either find the right person to be able to submit to, or we simply don't and left alone.. That is the fact i can expect.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 2:59:33 AM

summersprite

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I'm not a single sub but I'll answer this anyway.... ;-)

A Dom in my life must have:
The ability to kiss damn well,
Enough 'intelligence' to keep me interested,
A slightly off beat sense of humour,
CHEMISTRY with me,
And fabulous aftercare for when he has completely fucked me over ;-)

And the Dom in my life has all this and more.....

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 4:13:53 AM

daddysliloneds

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there's plenty of things that attract me to a dominant man, but the single most important ingredient he must have in order for me to wish to be with him is time.

< Message edited by daddysliloneds -- 6/3/2008 4:17:21 AM >

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 5:02:51 AM

Sandyshores29718

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There are a couple things not just one that are most a Dom needs to have for me to want to submit to him.

1) Control on his own life
2) 100% honest
3) sense of humor
4) Wants to push my limits, but understands some limits are not meant to be pushed
5) treats me as a equal, but different
6) Friendship

The list could go on. lol

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 7:23:19 AM

Sabella

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Consistency. There are a million folks with a million strokes of differences, but as long as there is consistency then there is a basis of whether or not the relationship will work, based on (of course) YOUR consistency and compatibility with the person in question.

1 aarchaic : condition of adhering together : firmness of material substance b: firmness of constitution or character : persistency2: degree of firmness, density, viscosity, or resistance to movement or separation of constituent particles <boil the juice to the consistency of a thick syrup>3 a: agreement or harmony of parts or features to one another or a whole : correspondence; specifically : ability to be asserted together without contradiction b: harmony of conduct or practice with profession <followed her own advice with consistency>

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 7:56:10 AM

takemeforyourown

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I must, foremost, have absolute trust that my Dom will protect me from harm. Secondly, He must be big and broad-shouldered. I can't respect a skinny little man. Thirdly, He must respect my hard limits, or be willing to gently ease me past them.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 8:03:52 AM

peppermint

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A wonderful sense of humor is a must have. I met my Dom at a camping event. Normally i wouldn't have been attracted to him as he is 10 years older and lives 2 states away. However, we had a great time laughing and carrying on that weekend. Six month later i packed up and moved to him.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 8:25:07 AM

malloves69

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hi Ms Goddess ..waving

i believe there has to be chemistry between the 2 people to make it a really great relationship one has with his mistress

and that gets developed over time ..love a woman in control

there has to be trust and honesty between the 2 people

she has to be playfull with a great mind to keep it fresh and exciting

me and my mistress has done many things together and its never dull or boring and i hope it never gets that way

i love being fisted by her and strapon play

no secret there ehh ?

but my trust in her and communication we have together is amazing

she is a amazing woman and i wonder sometimes what it would be like being with her 24/7 but so far that has not happen ..we get together 2 or 3 times a week ..the times we get together once just leaves me hanging and craving for more

love her loving and caring nature about her been faithfull to her now for over 2 years

have fun mal

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 9:44:31 AM

GoddessTeaze

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sandyshores29718

There are a couple things not just one that are most a Dom needs to have for me to want to submit to him.

1) Control on his own life
2) 100% honest
3) sense of humor
4) Wants to push my limits, but understands some limits are not meant to be pushed
5) treats me as a equal, but different
6) Friendship

The list could go on. lol

I so enjoy all your responds, but this one so made Me laugh!!
Too funny

And I so agree with everyone,
so We want allot..
hmmmmmmmm

Goodluck!

GoddezzT`

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 9:46:50 AM

GoddessTeaze

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quote:

ORIGINAL: takemeforyourown

I must, foremost, have absolute trust that my Dom will protect me from harm. Secondly, He must be big and broad-shouldered. I can't respect a skinny little man. Thirdly, He must respect my hard limits, or be willing to gently ease me past them.

Arent hard limits stuff that you would simply never do...?

GoddezzT`

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 9:48:01 AM

GoddessTeaze

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quote:

ORIGINAL: peppermint

A wonderful sense of humor is a must have. I met my Dom at a camping event. Normally i wouldn't have been attracted to him as he is 10 years older and lives 2 states away. However, we had a great time laughing and carrying on that weekend. Six month later i packed up and moved to him.

Sounds fabulous peppermint!

Humor is so importent, and it's good for your soul!

I wish you enough

GoddezzT`

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 9:51:05 AM

GoddessTeaze

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quote:

ORIGINAL: summersprite
The ability to kiss damn well,
CHEMISTRY with me,
And fabulous aftercare for when he has completely fucked me over ;-)

And the Dom in my life has all this and more.....

Hell yeah he has gotto b able to Kissssssssssss!
How could I forget

That chemistry, what would We do without..

And that last one, Very well put!

Thanx for your fabulous imput!

GoddezzT`

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