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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 9:53:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: GoddessTeazeWhat is it that atracts you to a Dominant?
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What is a true must have ?

Ability to see the big picture. Taste. Maturity. Imagination. Doing away with childishness.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 1:25:20 PM

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He must be a sadist :)

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 2:17:36 PM

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For me it has to be actual Dominance.. A rare find in my experience.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/3/2008 10:38:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: softness

and unwavering acceptance of the responsibility of their actions

That one really resonated with me.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/4/2008 2:30:32 AM

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Not a single sub but i will give this a shot...

For me, a Dominant must have:

self-control (especially when angry)
maturity
integrity (and not expect me to compromise mine)
financially stable (able to pay the bills and provide for the needs of the household, not a bum who can't hold down a job)
consistant
sense of humor

All of these things were part of the attraction i had for my Master (especially the sense of humor thing -- hee!). i could list a great many other qualities that make me admire Him, but these were necessary traits, thanks to the *ahem* individual i was married to.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/4/2008 4:01:48 AM

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the thing that i become most attracted to in a Dominant is when i am spoken to as a person, gain a friend and then go from there (mind, soul, body)...there are way too many on here looking for a one time piece of ass and nothing more.

God forbid You correct them when they are out of line, they will refer You to 'dating' sites and tell You that You are not in the right place! all of this coming from people who have no idea what a true connection is about... without connection there is nothing that would interest me in that person.

as far as 'must haves'... hmmm... well, i would have to say that we would both have to be attracted to one another, respect on both parts and loyalty to one another. the same interests would help out a lot and the understanding that nothing is always perfect!

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/4/2008 5:32:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: trusting

the thing that i become most attracted to in a Dominant is when i am spoken to as a person, gain a friend and then go from there (mind, soul, body)...there are way too many on here looking for a one time piece of ass and nothing more.

God forbid You correct them when they are out of line, they will refer You to 'dating' sites and tell You that You are not in the right place! all of this coming from people who have no idea what a true connection is about... without connection there is nothing that would interest me in that person.

as far as 'must haves'... hmmm... well, i would have to say that we would both have to be attracted to one another, respect on both parts and loyalty to one another. the same interests would help out a lot and the understanding that nothing is always perfect!

No one wants a perfect person, as if they exsist anyways..
I couldn't agree with you more with the things you point out,
thank you trusting!

I wish you enough.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/4/2008 5:38:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: MRandme

For me, a Dominant must have:
self-control (especially when angry)

maturity

integrity (and not expect me to compromise mine)
financially stable (able to pay the bills and provide for the needs of the household, not a bum who can't hold down a job)
consistant

sense of humor
All of these things were part of the attraction i had for my Master (especially the sense of humor thing -- hee!). i could list a great many other qualities that make me admire Him, but these were necessary traits, thanks to the *ahem* individual i was married to.

Speaking about selfcontrole, that goes both ways ofcourse,
I never understood the 'offer' of a sub, " here Ma'am
you can take ya anger out on me.."
It would just be plain stupid if one did such...
So common sence is also importent.

I also don't want to raise a baby, I'm raising My son
which is more then enough, so I want someone to work
With Me, instead of fighting every step of the way.
(never understood what fun is in that anyways)

integrety also a very good one!

Gosh The list is long huh..?
grinz

But good to think about , thank You kindly for Your imput.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/4/2008 5:40:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: TheInstrument

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ORIGINAL: softness
and unwavering acceptance of the responsibility of their actions

That one really resonated with me.

Yes I couldn't agree more with You guys!

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/4/2008 10:19:38 AM

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For me, She has to have an aura about her that tells me that i am hers, and will do what she wills me to do. She has to be my friend, my confidant, my protector (wierd that a 300 LB competitive strength athlete would say that).
My future Domina will know when to be sensual and when to be cruel with me. She will listen to me when decisions need to be made, and take them into account when making her decision, so long as i voice my thoughts with respect.
i'm her property, so i want her to genuinely care about me.
Anyways, i'm kind of rambling this morning, i got punched pretty hard last night at work and it kind of rang my bell a bit i think. i hope everyone here has a wonderful day though.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/4/2008 1:29:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: bashfulhuck

For me, She has to have an aura about her that tells me that i am hers, and will do what she wills me to do. She has to be my friend, my confidant, my protector (wierd that a 300 LB competitive strength athlete would say that).
My future Domina will know when to be sensual and when to be cruel with me. She will listen to me when decisions need to be made, and take them into account when making her decision, so long as i voice my thoughts with respect.
i'm her property, so i want her to genuinely care about me.
Anyways, i'm kind of rambling this morning, i got punched pretty hard last night at work and it kind of rang my bell a bit i think. i hope everyone here has a wonderful day though.

the bashful one

It starts or falls with being genuine.
The aura is a good one bashful,
A good feeling about someone is where it starts.

cruel & sensual
point out One Domme who isn't that, grinz

Comes time.. comes a Domme
bashful.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/4/2008 2:40:41 PM

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What would attract me is If we have the same likes as far as intersets of bdsm in common. If he/she is caring in a way. and most importantly compatibility

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/5/2008 3:09:17 PM

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honesty. i could not trust someone that was not honest, i could not submit to someone i do not trust

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/5/2008 5:02:28 PM

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A passion for owning someone like me.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/5/2008 5:10:15 PM

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Bail money and a penchant for walking on the wild side?

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/7/2008 2:17:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: summersprite

I'm not a single sub but I'll answer this anyway.... ;-)

A Dom in my life must have:
The ability to kiss damn well,
Enough 'intelligence' to keep me interested,
A slightly off beat sense of humour,
CHEMISTRY with me,
And fabulous aftercare for when he has completely fucked me over ;-)

And the Dom in my life has all this and more.....

To this I add...
It starts or falls with being genuine,
sincerity,
makes no promises he wont keep,
loyalty,
the ability to say "I am sorry."
And the Dom in my life has all this and more.....

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/8/2008 8:17:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: GoddessTeaze

What is it that atracts you to a Dominant?
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What is a true must have ?
for you singlesubs out there?

am very curious to read your answers

Warm Greetingz

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I say honesty and integrity and of course chemistry

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/8/2008 8:40:02 PM

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if i was to make my list u would all hate me

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/8/2008 8:41:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: Daddyslilpookie

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ORIGINAL: GoddessTeaze

What is it that atracts you to a Dominant?
and
What is a true must have ?
for you singlesubs out there?

am very curious to read your answers

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`

I say honesty and integrity and of course chemistry

...those things, plus sharing, actions/life/soul compatibility, I should be able to admire and respect him as a person and he admires and respects me as a person. He is strong where I am weak and I let him lead me as he proudly leads our enjoyments to deeper and more meaningful levels, he is kind to my weaknesses like nurturing a flame within kindling, chemistry between our souls that sets off a never-ending fire, I support the flame that burns within him as he reaches further and farther down the road of life, he enjoys my passions that he lets me express and fill his life with, sharing a vision and purpose in the fundamental things in life, devotion and appreciation of each other as people, an expression of this in the little things we do everyday, an intelligence that we both admire, an equal effort in our lives, values that we share and build our lives upon, enjoying each others heart and soul like a gentle warm breeze blowing on each of ours, where I see in him limitless potential, and he sees in me his future...and each and every day is a new beginning of the same old thing.

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RE: Which is the most importent ingredient your future ... - 6/9/2008 1:23:38 AM

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for me its having a real connection and someone that can handle me beyond bdsm

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