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RE: Why don't Mistresses reply? - 6/8/2008 2:42:42 PM   
Alixandria


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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

No, generally it's when someone initiates communication and treats me generically. An example is a recent one who contacted me out of the blue who wrote only: "Why should I be interested in you as my slave?" How do you respond to that without being rude or sounding desperate? So, I just ignored her and moved on.


How is that question any different from an employer who has a very high-demand job open and they like to open the dialog with "What could you bring to this company?"

An employer who has a very high-demand job open would be unlikely to initiate contact in anything resembling that manner.  They are more likely to sift through the resumes of people who have already applied for the position.

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The length of your response and the tone, effort, etc. is all up to you. You could also respond with, "That's an interesting question, but I find it hard to answer withotu coming across as rude or desperate. Can we take this another direction and maybe start an ongoing discussion?"

If an employer had contacted me out of the blue with anything resembling the "What could you bring to this company?" I would probably blow them off too.  I would assume they were some sort of telemarketing scam job or (as has happened) a "financial advisor" job when I have, in fact, no published interest in that.

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Subs have to realize that femdoms here are BOMBARDED with emails and many use a variety of ways to try to narrow the search at the onset.  By asking a question that's open ended like that, she might be weeding out the ones too lazy to give it a shot.

But if they do have time to *initiate* a conversation, however bombarded they are, they are still under an obligation to be polite.

Alix


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RE: Why don't Mistresses reply? - 6/8/2008 3:00:37 PM   
Puppy4goodHome


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ORIGINAL: MistressSybella

That is why I post my primary profile username with every reply. Try "ServeMeWell," puppy.

I tried to sign into the forums with that username but for some reason I can't get past the login doorman. The system says my password is invalid. And, I have even had my password sent to me to be sure I had it right; I do. I just can't sign in. So I'm using an altnernate, my name.

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RE: Why don't Mistresses reply? - 6/8/2008 3:40:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn
An example is a recent one who contacted me out of the blue who wrote only: "Why should I be interested in you as my slave?"


I am picturing one of those Youtube videos.

There is a domme browsing through profiles and comes across one. "Hmphh," she thinks to herself, "this one seems interesting. I'll send him an email."

Then there are clicking sounds of keys on the keyboard as she speaks out the message, "why should I be interested in you as my slave?"

Then the camera focuses on the screen and shows the New Messages alert. "Oh my," she says as she clicks on a message from him, "'he gets points for being prompt." The message shows a photo attachment. "I wonder what photo he sent."

The text of the message reads, "With this, I rest my case." And then the camera shows the attached photo; it's a cock shot ;-)

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Why don't Mistresses reply? - 6/8/2008 3:54:25 PM   
undergroundsea


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ORIGINAL: MistressSybella
3, There are "big and tall" shops but not big and short...how would I cloth this one?


Perhaps I am reading it wrong but it seems to me you are mocking his physical attributes :(

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Why don't Mistresses reply? - 6/8/2008 4:00:04 PM   
subsubtle


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Status: offline 		I think she was mocking my physical attributes but it's fine because it was all a misunderstanding!  I put in "135" in the weight box but I accidently pressed Kg instead of pounds.  135 Kg = 297 pounds!  I'm so glad she actually had the type of personality to say something about my weight and I've thanked her for saying something :)


this is littledickie by the way.  I made a new profile


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RE: Why don't Mistresses reply? - 6/8/2008 4:05:20 PM   
undergroundsea


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ORIGINAL: subsubtle

I think she was mocking my physical attributes but it's fine because it was all a misunderstanding!  I put in "135" in the weight box but I accidently pressed Kg instead of pounds.  135 Kg = 297 pounds!  I'm so glad she actually had the type of personality to say something about my weight and I've thanked her for saying something :)


I appreciate your gracious and mature response.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Why don't Mistresses reply? - 6/8/2008 5:44:02 PM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		Exactly. If I had been the one who first made contact, I would have been more interested in making the best showing of myself. When someone contacts me out of the ether, I know nothing of her, and her first piece of communication is "why should I choose you?" then I'm usually apt to believe that she's right in asking the question, cause I don't know the answer either. This isn't to say that every conversation with every woman who contacts me goes this way...just the few that are so used to being pursued that they expect to be pursued even when the submissive doesn't know them from anyone else. I mean, I'll follow the carrot like the best of them, but I have to recognize there's a carrot in the first place before I'm going to go chomping after it.

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RE: Why don't Mistresses reply? - 6/8/2008 5:45:20 PM   
MistressSybella


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Status: offline 		LOL! I had a feeling someone out there would take offense to something I wrote. It is a touchy subject. But heck, I can't please everyone.

I wasn't mocking. I was pointing out that extra care would be required for taking on a slave of that stature. Not everyone accepts a heavy slave when it comes to attraction but certain things have to be taken into account when ownership is considered.

Just to clear things up, I'm all about what it on the inside, not the packaging. My last live-in, a female, was 5'4" and hovered between 290 and 315.

Even if dickie was 297, if his age wasn't a problem (he is too young for me), the weight wouldn't be a big issue if everything else lined up nicely.

Miss 'Bella
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RE: Why don't Mistresses reply? - 6/8/2008 6:33:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littledickiesub

   I'm curious to learn why Mistresses don't reply to messages.  I can understand if someone writes and says something stupid like "hey ur hott can i be ur sub??" they would not want to reply but all of my messages are always significant in length, well thought out, well written, and very respectful.  I've only gotten replies to a couple.  It's a terrible feeling to log into collarme and see there's no new messages but then to look in my sent folder and see that the messages I sent are read.  I'm sure many of the women on here are quite busy but a simple "Hey, got your message but sorry I'm not interested." would be adequate.  Do Mistresses think if they send a reply like that then I'll reply trying to plead my case, just annoying them further or is there some other reason?  Any input would be appreciated.  Thanks.

-dickie



(Could just be me but...I think it's the lack of paragraphs).

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