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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 8:48:09 PM   
MrRandallspe


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Status: offline 		I am wondering as to how strong your marriage was before this. Had she discussed with you that she was lacking in any way with how the relationship was going?  Did she have any relationships prior to this with other females?

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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 8:51:28 PM   
MrRandallspe


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Status: offline 		Sorry, I did not make the right response,,I meant to reply to a different comment. My apology.....

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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 9:03:27 PM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 9:04:13 PM   
CalifChick


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MAllan8958
She has had one scene with him, alone in a hotle room which she says all that happened was she was bound and some mild spanking went on, no nudity at all.


She had a scene that consisted of only bondage, mild spanking, and no nudity... and now she's collared (but still no sex) and you found out after the fact.

Adding that to my list...

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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 9:16:03 PM   
slavegirljoy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MAllan8958

She says her hard limits are sex, 

And, did she tell you that "hard limits" often turn real soft after awhile?  

quote:

but she may give oral to him or to anyone else he tells her to. 

Your wife putting her mouth on another man's dick and sucking it to get it hard and make it squirt isn't sex?  And, putting her mouth on the dick of "anyone else he tells her to" isn't sex?

quote:

She tells me he owns her now.

He told her that he owns her now, without ever discussing this with you, the husband?  And, did he happen to tell her where this leaves you?

quote:

This is very confusing to me.

Obviously.
 
joy
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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 9:20:11 PM   
Venatrix


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I think Padriag has it right.  After having read the OP's profile, it looks to me like the OP is very willing to be led down the kinky path and his wife's purported behaviour is just the excuse for taking the first step.

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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 9:21:40 PM   
dragon2760


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Status: offline 		Three words,  GET A LAWYER, if for no other reason that to know what your rights are in the situation.  From what i can tell from your posts she is having an affair and she is using BDSM to justify it.  It's people like that that tend to give BDSM such a bad name.  Because within this lifestyle the one thing that i have learned so far is that communications is rule number one and she has already broken that.  I would also find out more about this guy and have a talk with his wife and see if she is OK with this.

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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 9:25:28 PM   
dragon2760


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Status: offline 		Hey Venatrix, btw you just became indecent. 

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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 9:26:48 PM   
mztresn0w


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Status: offline 		He had no clue she was a submissive and active in the lifestyle. Her master offered his collar on the first meet. Hmmmmmmmmm not enough info.

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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 9:36:23 PM   
dawntreader


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Venatrix

quote:

ORIGINAL: DreamyLadySnow

Why drag an innocent Domme into this?

LS


There are innocent dommes out there?  I learn something new every day.

Edited to add:  check out my new rating - I'm now officially kinky.  Must go open Champagne.





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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 9:36:50 PM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		Ehhh.... I might go along with the no sex thing, just because that's how all of my relationships are.

But the fact that she did it without consulting you, you can't get the balls up to go confront the other guy about it, and you are asking other people what to do about your wife sucking other guys off.......

Either this is fake, or your marriage is over.


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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 9:47:19 PM   
CalifChick


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lynnxz
Ehhh.... I might go along with the no sex thing, just because that's how all of my relationships are.


While that seems to be common with female Dominants, how common is that really with male Dominants and female submissives??? Yes, I know we have some people here who have nonsexual relationships, but looking at all the people you know in BDSM, how common do you find it??

Cali


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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 9:48:34 PM   
babygirlangel


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Status: offline 		i realize im off the beaten path here.. but didnt anyone feel that her saying it was "meaningless sex" was just wrong if she's collared to this guy??? just my 2 cents

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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 9:49:26 PM   
leakylee


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Status: offline 		ok i gotta ask,

why did they dcene in a hotel room if you were privy to all the info?

does his wife have full disclosure?

when did oral sex not become sex?

how did she get totally owned when she is married to you?

have you met him and talked with him? obviously not

how is she supposed to work on her marriage when you have no contact with the 'other' man in her life?

you know there are people who have succesful relationships of this nature. yall might really wanna consider a reality check. sounds like weekend warrior scenerio if you ask me.

yeesh
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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 9:52:11 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		To the OP..why look for a Mistress?...you obviously have one in your wife, she is the Dominant in your relationship, so why seek what you already have?Plus think of it this way....you not only have a Mistress ,you too, now,have a Master,he just has not collared you ....Tempting

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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 9:59:41 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		do not be huslted by online concepts. If  your gut says this does not feel right. Then go with it. Say you can have the van i want the house.   Honestly  nothing like this is easy...  love is never a perfect thing  but sharing your spouse for someone else pleasure is dead wrong  other wise why be married just be a swinger. 

    i wish you the best of luck   

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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 10:03:02 PM   
Venatrix


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dragon2760

Hey Venatrix, btw you just became indecent. 


You mean I was kinky and I didn't even know it?  I'm behind the times.  More Champagne!

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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 10:51:39 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		If this were a vanilla situation and you found out that she cheated on you, what would you do? Would you cheat on her back? Would that make everything ok? If so, do it.

However, if it wouldn't, consider this: If she did this behind your back, its cheating. If you gave her permission under protest, then you didn't stand up for your emotional boundaries. Either way, couple's therapy might be a good idea.

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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 11:15:55 PM   
stella41b


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

Community theater and meaningless sex. Do you believe her?

I think you both need marriage counseling before taking any further steps.


Whoopee shit!!! Is this what community theater is like in Toronto?

I'm planning to be there in the New Year... I can't wait, I just can't wait!!!!

I'd leave tomorrow if I could. Sod the States.. Toronto is going to rock when I get there!!!!

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RE: My wife has been collared by a Master, should I get... - 6/2/2008 11:24:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have one, Stella.. ;) Just gotta deal with the cats...L>OL


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