lally3
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my first D/s relationship was a total mindfuck - had no idea what the feck was going on and it screwed me up quite massively for some time. but.... once i worked out i was miserable i threw the fecker out.... and i was a fairly naive 21 year old at the time. i had no internet, no clue at all. it took me a while ill admit to get my head straight from it. but i did and so could your friends - with the broad resources available - the only thing keeping them there is themselves and in my experience its only when you really really want to change whats happening to you, do you finally get on and change it. so... maybe theyre happy where they are - not knowing any different is nonsense, they dont live in a bubble, life goes on around them, they must watch tv, read books and magazines. its great that you care so much about them, but maybe you need to look a little closer - just because it was their first experience does not mean that they are unable to seek something else if they so wish, the fact that they havent suggests to me that they dont particularly want to or they dont want to, enough. i have 'met' deeply deeply subservient slaves on line, who knew perfectly well that they were in an abusive relationship, and though totally brow beaten and scared, they eventually found the courage to leave. its called self preservation and most of us have a good grasp of it. what were theyre lives like before... presumably they had a reasonably normal childhood and hormonlly charged teens. noone can live in isolation these days, unless they live on an island somewhere miles from anything or anyone. im taking a very long time to say.... dont worry, im sure theyre fine.
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