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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/4/2008 5:11:25 PM

Reigna

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I limit my use of the CB3000, but I invent excuses for him to go out wearing it. Another nice little touch for excursions is a cat collar with a bell on it. I'd never point out to him that most people's hearing isn't sharp enough to pick up its little tinkle; to him it sounds like Big Ben announcing the presence of a yet another belled cat.

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/4/2008 5:18:56 PM

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Oh My GOD! A full spine!?! in hercar's trunk? What am i getting into? Should i call.... For about a second that's what i'd be thinking.

Ms Starlett... YOU are a delightfully WICKED Woman. [;-D]

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/4/2008 6:26:52 PM

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We don't do anything "out of the ordinary" in public. There are just a handful of simple things that are a part of our dynamic that we find enjoyable. No elaborate games, no risk of being arrested, no nothing.

Whenever it's my turn to pay for things, my Owner(as the OP has said) will take my debit card and put in my numbers for me. Since she does have access to my bank account and to my money, it's a simple way of showing how deeply she controls me. Also, it'd be terribly unrealistic of us to not split costs.

She also will casually direct me, which is helpful...while I may be as crafty as a Fox...I'm quite often as clumsy and clueless as an Ox. Sometimes, this is by pulling on my collar. She has been known to pull me close and put her hand casually around my neck. It wouldn't look terribly out of place to anybody. To us, however, it's a very intimate show of love and control.

I also hold the door for her, which is simple and common enough. Probably the most risque thing we engage in some minor teasing on her part that only resonates with me.

DV's Fox

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/4/2008 6:36:38 PM

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Sounds like you're going to be Nibbler for Halloween is how it sounds to me!

Hehe...I think I'd make a good talking poodle-monkey. ^__^

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/4/2008 6:42:36 PM

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I was operating on the assumption that you ARE a talking poodle-monkey!

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/4/2008 6:50:18 PM

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I was operating on the assumption that you ARE a talking poodle-monkey!

Shhh, you'll blow my cover! >_>

*does regular human stuff...yeah, that's the ticket*

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/4/2008 7:06:20 PM

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It's not exactly one step back and to the left

But it's very important to walk on the left! That allows her to draw her sword if there is a need!

Cheers,

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/4/2008 8:13:25 PM

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I really like these Ms Millgrove. They are perfectly humiliating and very innocent at the same time.

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/4/2008 8:14:55 PM

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I have to say Undergroundsea, "touche" well done there! you had me rolling on the floor!

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/4/2008 8:34:02 PM

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;-)

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/5/2008 12:20:36 AM

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Just some ideas:

1 - he pulls the chair out for Her, waits for Her to sit and then seats himself (if bench seating, waits for Her to sit first)
2 - She orders for him
3 - he eats and drinks after She has started
4 - he owns the method of payment (ie: bank card, cash, or credit card) but She is the one who physically pays (gets him to hand over payment method at cash desk or infront of server)
5 - he asks Her permission to use restrooms, order extra things (dessert, drinks, etc)
6 - he walks slightly behind Her
7 - he carries parcels for Her
8 - he opens doors for Her
9 - discreet cbt

Hope these ideas help,
Wickad

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/5/2008 3:12:40 AM

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I recall shopping with a Domme once. (Happened many times, but this one in particular). We were shopping in Los Angeles, but on a weekday where there were less people. I was to keep pace a step, step-and-a-half at most behind. She would turn a quick corner and when I turned to follow, she would stop abruptly and bend over to pick up something from the bottom shelf, leading me to slightly bump into her. She would look at my pants, and then up to my face, smiled and grinned before moving on.

In a certain Goth store, we were looking at posters in the back corner of the store, opposite of the retail desk. She pulled me close behind her, pulling me head in to rest on her shoulder while she ran a hand over my pants while flipping through the variety of Gothic posters. At one point, she had her hand in my pants, softly stroking it while innocently gazing at the shelves.

After returning to the car (as I am often the driver), she continued to provoke me with her questions, gentle glances, and soft brushes with her hand. I drive a slightly lowered sports-car and I could only imagine what might have happened if someone saw us!

Needless to say, the day went by relatively uneventful, minus the 6 hours of near-constant teasing. Even in the resturant, she ordered and then had me sit next to her while she rubbed mt thighs between bites.

Then again, mind you, Los Angeles is a big place, and people generally keep to themselves. I doubt it'll work in smaller communities.

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/5/2008 10:39:15 AM

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I seem to recall delightful talk of wearable / insertable remote control toys. The thought of that pushes so many buttons for me. I do so love gadgets!.

I used to have a Mistress that would choose some kind of CB strap for me to wear whenever we went out shopping or to eat, etc. She'd also pick out the underwear or panties that she wanted me to be in while we were out.

I also have a remote controlled dog training unit attached to a CB strap that she'd use to zap me with whenever the mood struck her; sometimes at very inconvenient times such as while carrying drinks back to the table or at a salad bar holding a plate. One can't help but react when their penis and scrotum receives a shock. My previous Mistress purchased a remote controlled vibrating butt plug for us to use on outings, but we never got around to trying it.

I can think of lots of little things my previous Mistress would do in terms of humiliation games while we were out. Most of them have already been mentioned by others. One exception is that she loved to take me to get my hair cut, then take charge and tell the stylist exactly how she wanted it cut. I'd just sit there blushing a bit and tell the stylist whatever pleased her (my Mistress) was how I wanted it done. When the stylist was finished, my Mistress would be the one to give final approval of whether or not the haircut was done to her satisfaction.

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/5/2008 4:56:20 PM

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I don't get the whole "Dom/me orders for sub" thing. When I'm in full Domme Mode - I don't 'deal with underlings'. It's my boy's job to know what I like, deal with the waiter, make sure I get everything delivered perfectly, pay the bill, leave the tip, etc. Perhaps that's more of a Southern Gentleman thing... but I want my partner to do all the work and make sure I am treated like a Queen.

Yea - full deer spine in the trunk. Shall I go take a photo and send it to you? *evil grins*

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/5/2008 5:51:07 PM

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Yes! Ms Starlett, please do that. [8-O] LOL I had a picture in my mind of that movie Predator. I see you holding it out (with that evil grin) as if to say "NEXT."

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/5/2008 5:55:52 PM

Celeres

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quote:

I don't get the whole "Dom/me orders for sub" thing. When I'm in full Domme Mode - I don't 'deal with underlings'. It's my boy's job to know what I like, deal with the waiter, make sure I get everything delivered perfectly, pay the bill, leave the tip, etc. Perhaps that's more of a Southern Gentleman thing... but I want my partner to do all the work and make sure I am treated like a Queen.

I think it's the possibility that the Domme will order something that the sub doesn't like, but will eat it to show how much they trust the Domme's "better judgement." Perhaps just embarassing the crap outo f the sub? Domme orders a thick, fake juicy steak and orders just a small ceasar side-salad? Perhaps orders mac-and-cheese while she savors a more "appropriate" adult meal? The possibilities are endless! Ahaha

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/5/2008 7:17:28 PM

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People always think I'm joking about this crap. I just walked outside, popped the trunk and took the pic. The spine is on the left. Box of Yakki hair in the middle. (Yakki hair is a brand name of loose hair used for weaves.) The round white thing near the top is a motorcycle cop helmet. (Yeah - that's my rear view mirror as well. 'What is behind me does not matter!') I'll probably re-arrange things in there for Saturday - just so the stranger things are more easily seen.

Ooops! Forgot the linky!

http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii172/MsStarlett/Spine2.jpg

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/5/2008 7:38:19 PM

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Funny thing about this post is, a lot of the things mentioned in it, I don't see as doing something 'special' for while in public. There are just par for the course.

The way I'm addressed and so on doesn't change just because we've stepped out of the house. Doors are always held for Me, whether it be going into a store, coming back home, or for the car. When My sub's with Me, I don't carry things, unless I chose to. If he needs to leave Me, the reason doesn't matter, he asks permission. There is always one collar or the other (silver chain or red leather) on his neck, whether we're together or not. If I try on shoes at the store, he kneels and puts them on for Me.

It's not things the general public would be offended by, but we really don't change much from home to out and about. It's just the way we do things.

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/5/2008 8:38:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

People always think I'm joking about this crap. I just walked outside, popped the trunk and took the pic.

MsStarlett's trunk!

It take a lot of backbone to show it off like that.

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RE: In public with the male submissive. - 6/5/2008 8:59:29 PM

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Lets see ... my boys in public are erfect gentlemen. They open doors (which makes for amusing confusion when we are all out at the same time. Good thing IHOP has doors on both sides). Fox asks permission to use the restroom when we are out just like he does at home. About the only time he doesnt is when we are around his family. I whistle for them in stores, and they come to me. I redirect them where I want them to walk using the back of their neck like a Mom does with her children. I will hold Angel's wrist when we walk around a store, and I have put him in the shopping cart for wandering off. AS the OP mentoned, I take Fox's debit card and put in his pin regularly. I actually believe he offers to pay for things just so I can do that. I pet both boys while we are shopping or at restaurants. If there is a line, I always stand in front of them.I do not carry unless I offer. I make them pick out their own panties when we go shopping. I will occasionally make Angel pay for his own panties. I'l remind them that their panties are showing above their jeans when we are in stores.

Little things...
DV

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