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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 5:28:53 AM

Madame4a

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doesn't sound real

how does one really fall in love when you've never met?

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 5:31:31 AM

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if all of this is true, only one thing comes to mind.

danger will robinson!!!!! DANGER!!!!

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 5:36:33 AM

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My thoughts and concerns, yes and no, he do listen, and talks through them, but in the end, he makes it to do you trust me,or not.
or gets annoyed if Im talking to often about it. saying,we have been this before! thinking,that i question him,that have happened several times.
when I told him,about others,that had an issue about weight,and I didnt liked it and walked, I told him that some times, and then he suddenly
says to me,that I warn him! (and then he said "Im doing as I wish thing")
again, yes and no, he pushed me to decide, but not straight out.
He says, I can talk to him. we can talk, he doesnt always burst, but if sensitve or things about this,he does.
(I am living in Denmark,Scandinavia,and he lives in London) he doesnt like the subs in London, says theyre rude and bad.
Gypsygirl, how do you think hes practizing emotional manipulation? because Ive wondered to my self, if his outburst was something like that..
I just cant point my finger at something particular..
Well Gypsygirl Ive thought about that,to keep the account in my name only. but it is called a joint account and can I then..

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 5:39:51 AM

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Well I ve asked him too,how on earth,its love,when weve not met. His answer?" sometimes,loves not rational,you cannot control your emotions always, I just go with my guts and just do it, I didnt thought it would happen,but it did" and things like that.

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 5:43:05 AM

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Do you want to be with a guy who probably tells every girl he wants to have sex with that he loves them? Do you want to be with a guy who can supposedly fall in love with a girl whom he has never met in real time and has never spent real time with? I wouldn't fall for that sort of crap. Do you really need strangers to help you reason through this nonsense?

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 5:54:01 AM

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No, but can it be possible to achieve?
He do sits in front of his computer everytime he gets home from work,until hes going to bed,also when he doesnt work.. quite hard for that spouse,if any..

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 6:01:06 AM

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Well almost anything is possible. But is this the sort of person you want to build a life with? He seems desperate for a relationship and also for your money. I know what my answer would be.

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 6:07:11 AM

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monaliza, WAKE UP!!!!

Seriously, you say you have common sense....use it. There is not one single thing that you have related here that makes any sense at all. This man wants you to travel to him from another country....and yet a HOUR drive is too much for him? You haven't met him...but he LOVES you and wants to MARRY you? He wants to rent you out and put the money in a JOINT account? He doesn't like your weight and wants you to have SURGERY? I think he needs to lose weight too....like those 15 lbs. that start right above his shoulders. Think girl....THINK!!!!

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 6:29:03 AM

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1. He's a HNG or a scammer.
2. You've had lots of red flags. Look at 'em/
3. Your posts are LONG!

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 6:32:02 AM

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about the joint account, I protested,when he mentioned it and said I couldnt see why, when Im not living in his country. he replyed "why not,you will soon,were a couple,aint? why do you ask so many questions? I will not have my decisions questioned, you question everything and you need to learn to slow down".

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 6:46:55 AM

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Use your brain. Seriously.

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 7:22:29 AM

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I'm one of those people who is always getting warned that I'm going to get murdered in my bed...and even I think you need to seriously look at what you're writing.

If I question something, and someone is not particularly pleased about the question I don't expect a rebuke. I expect to have to explain why I feel that way and then I expect an explanation or they can expect for me to move on. Being a slave or submissive does not mean that you shouldn't have expectations.

I don't know if you're serious or not...but if you are, take a deep breath and turn the computer off for a little while. Take some time to think. Even if you aren't serious, turn the computer off for a little while and take some time to think.

There are some things that I take on faith...it's a very short list.

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 7:34:08 AM

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i don't even know where to begin on this one except to say RUN RUN RUN!!!!

>about the joint account, I protested,when he mentioned it and said I couldnt see why, when Im not living in his >country. he replyed "why not,you will soon,were a couple,aint? why do you ask so many questions? I will not have >my decisions questioned, you question everything and you need to learn to slow down".

questioning is how you slow down. slowing down is the worst thing you could do from his point of view.

if you really want to meet him...have him come to visit you. be on your home turf. one thing that i did not see mentioned at all was which countries the two of you are from. and depending that could be important on many levels. one thing that you do need to think about is that people have been known to visit other countries and just disappear. i may sound overly melodramatic here but that can be a reality especially in a M/s relationship. there is one profile that to paraphrase a line from ...the ultimate in slavery is abduction with no ability to escape. do you really want to meet someone first time in a country where you have no support system.

truthfully none of this makes any sense from a common sense point of view. i don't think i have seen so many red flags in one post before.

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 7:37:15 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subdevra

truthfully none of this makes any sense from a common sense point of view. i don't think i have seen so many red flags in one post before.

devra

You obviously haven't read the post about the mutes in Kentucky, I think it was.

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 7:38:19 AM

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If the guy loves/cares you enough and really means it ..he would be willing to get on a plane and fly to you at his cost and get a hotel nearby and meet first in a public location inorder to show you he is honorable and trustworthy and have alternate lans incase the first meeting is unsuccessful , he would be open to disclosing and proving address, phone numbers and proof of real name and give you permission to check him out beforehand with out playing any head games ...if I had any concerns I was to let him know sp he could have an opportunity to alleviate in order to have a successful met,,,,,,, I have met someone long distance from another country he did all this and more to ensure I felt 100% safe meeting him...we are about to have a second meet....if he wanted to me like your describing the way your dom has done ...I would have told him to get lost. If you decide to go ahead as things are ...then you are an idiot

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 9:06:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: monaliza

He fell in love with me instantly.

He's fallen in love with someone he's never met? Doesn't that give you a feeling that there's something not quite right?

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well then he started to make demands and dominate online about everything.

If you're uncomfortable, shut off the computer.

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he has asked me to marry him. We havent met.

Again, not really stable behavior to ask someone you've never met to marry you.

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The meaning is,Im going over seas to meet him in a near future.

So, let me get this straight: You're going to go to a foreign country, on his turf, to meet a guy who displays behavior that disturbs you?

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until i got some savings for moving and such.

You're taliking moving when you haven't even met?

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But,he wants me to get a joint account together with him,when we meet.

Yes, by all means give a complete stranger all of your personal information. It's not like he could ruin your life, or anything.

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I f I say something to him, he gets upset. start to argue whether I trust him or not.

Bottom line, he's a stranger to you. It's very very easy to hide behind internet and phone personas. You really do not know and you won't until you meet face to face and spend some time together.

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he also wants me to get a hotel when there. because he wants to be with me, and its two hours drive,from the apartment where he lives. he has a house,that has tenants,where were supposed to live later.

You don't find it odd that you're staying in a hotel and not in his home? What is he hiding?

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(its a M/s relationship and with control about everything including money)

No, it's an online relationship.

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i say I havent met him yet

How can you have an M/s realationship with control about eveything including money with someone you've never met?

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But I know,that he wouldnt take it that way.

No, you don't. You've never met him.

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I dont think thats fair. sort of like he doesnt want to hear,what im saying

Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone that doesn't listen to you concerns or care how you feel?

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but I do have common sence.

Honestly, I think that's debatable. You're talking about moving to a different country for someone you've never met. Giving someone you've never met control of your finances and your personal information. If it doesn't work, how will you get out?

I think if you want to meet, then meet. But, serious decisions shouldn't be made about someone you've never met.

From a psychiatric view, I find his behavior worrysome. It's too fast, it's too hard, it's unconcerned for you, and it's overbearing. (There's a difference betweeen "dominant" and "domineering".)

I think you're being foolish.

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 9:28:54 AM

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you win spanklette

quote:

You obviously haven't read the post about the mutes in Kentucky, I think it was.

absolutely fascinating reading...

devra

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 9:31:28 AM

laura2161

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How did you meet him a month ago on collarme if you just joined today?

As for everything else you've written in this thread; If you seriously need to ask these questions then I think you need a bit more help other then opening a joint account.

I have a question for you. Why do grown- ass women lose their common sense and their brains simply because they call themselves a slave and some man says he is a master....You're in your 30's for goodness sake. Get a grip.

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 9:43:43 AM

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sometimes in threads like these, i wonder if past members who've been booted for life are coming back from the dead and playing games with us....

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RE: About new Master,advice - 6/6/2008 10:16:19 AM

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Can you really get booted for life from here??? Chris will you marry me before I get booted?

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