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pahunkboy -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/7/2008 8:29:56 PM)

there is having what you want, and wanting what you have.

there are different phazes of life.  at 44, i dont want to be stuck with what is for 20 year olds.

life is full of wants, needs, yearnings, fear, regrets, 

I have to recall that I am to take action on any needs I have..

the person who refuses to try, who says that they cant get a widget, could never learn to use widget, and besides all widgets are mean.  mean i say.   so it becomes the self fulfilling prophacy.

having limited resources may or may not be 'pity-able".  yet- feeling bad doesnt solve the needs.

like most folks here- i have had my share of terrible ordeals.  i only talk about it if i choose to.  [why be the subject of the entertainment?]

poor tend to be creative.

i have been abit on a simplify my life...the past months.  Just this week- reclcyling had free electronic disposal- so I took a few car loads over.

ild like to be- in a mode that , no matter how rich or poor i am, to be thorouhly entralled, and enthused with life.






petdave -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/7/2008 10:43:05 PM)

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Being poor is feeling helpless when your child makes the same mistakes you did, and won't listen to you beg them against doing so.


Not sure what this has to do with being poor... i've known plenty of wealthy people with dumbass kids




MstrssScarlet -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/7/2008 11:55:49 PM)

Along the lines of what Lockit said;
Being poor is not being able to do what you really love because your body won't let you.
Mistress Scarlet




Politesub53 -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 4:13:55 AM)

Who ever wrote the list has never been really poor. Ask anyone raised in true poverty.




NorthernGent -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 4:28:57 AM)

I've had the good fortune to see more than one side of the equation.

I was born and bred in a part of England with nigh on 20% unemployment at that time; some suggest unemployment was as high as 50% in the mining villages when the mines and shipyards closed and there were zero alternative employment opportunities.

So, with my own eyes, I've seen miners go 18 months without any income during the miners strike, when the community had to feed and clothe their lads and lasses for those 18 months - the community didn't have much to start with - now that is poverty.

The Middle-Classes will never really understand poverty until they experience it. Poverty of aspiration is rampant; values are passed down from generation to generation that serve to hinder education. Some of those children who break from the norm and do value education, have to contend with alcoholism, domestic violence etc - hardly an appropriate studying environment. It would be an insult to working class families to make a blanket statement, but I'd claim that parental guidance from some working-class families leaves a lot to be desired. So, it's not as easy as simply saying, "get an education"; as said, you need to experience it to appreciate it.




MissMorrigan -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 4:47:16 AM)

That's for sure, Politesub. Poverty, by today's standards in the west, is luxury by comparison to those of yesteryear where one meal had to stretch for three days, where a continuous pot of peelings was on the stove and which served as broth, where leftovers weren't something from a person's plate, where a mother would go without not just one, but two and three meals in order to ensure her children ate at meal that day, where birthdays were celebrated by playing games and a special tea for that evening was bread with jam on, where a person walked the two to three miles between jobs they worked back to back and on shoes whose soles were so thin they were worn away in some places, or where they simply walked from one town to the next in search of work only to return empty-handed, where a bath was once a week and shared between the entire family b/c it cost money to heat the water, where a wife has to pawn her wedding ring - a ring she swore an oath she'd never remove til her dying day and lost every shred of dignity she had the moment she pawned it knowing she'd never have the money to regain it...

I am glad the author of that list has never experienced poverty and I hope they never do.




mnottertail -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 4:55:50 AM)

My great grandfather from Kent County (southeast of London) said, when I was growing up we ate potatoes for one meal and the peelings for the next.


Now, to the OP.

Being poor sucks.
End of discussion.

Ron




SeeksOnlyOne -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 5:22:43 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

My great grandfather from Kent County (southeast of London) said, when I was growing up we ate potatoes for one meal and the peelings for the next.


Now, to the OP.

Being poor sucks.
End of discussion.

Ron


ha-my dear granny, who is now 95, told me about the only paddling she got in school.  her mom would bake potatos all night in the ember of the fire, and they would carry them to school for lunch, and also use them to keep their hands warm on the way.

granny went to throw her potato skins away and the teacher said grace, you need to eat that and not waste it.  granny said "well at my house, we dont eat pig slop"

even tho skins were pig slop at her house, she said she got a paddlin at school and a fussin at when she got home-for arguing with an adult.

as for being poor, it does suck, in so many ways, no matter how you get there.  i know some who have hardly a thing and are truely happy in life tho.  and some who have it all and are miserable human beings.  given the choice, id take the former.

i dont think that list captures the essence of what poor is though.  it comes off as condescending as hell to me.

as for being rich, i think in some ways it can be summed up like this.....being rich is not having the money to buy what you want, buying the off brands, having to use home remedies to cure illnesses when you can, hating your job, but going every day and doing the best you can while there, and still having the happiest, smartest kids in the world, who have no idea how poor they really are and no idea how hard mom struggles to get them what they do have.

none of us know the road someone else has walked.  the way some act like being poor is a choice to all, well that makes me think theyre the poorest people posting to these threads.

yep, being poor sucks.





orfunboi -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 5:27:47 AM)

Yup, being poor can really suck




orfunboi -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 5:34:01 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DomAviator

Some of them are downright stupid. I did four years of night classes for an associates degree - when I already had a bachelors and two masters. Ive hoped the toothache goes away and it was my own vanity - not poverty that caused it via an elective procedure. LOL.

However, I STILL dont feel sorry for the poor. A loaf of bread is 87 cents at my local Walmart. I would be damned if I would serve my kid a slice that a roach walked on... If need be I would go out and walk the streets picking up aluminum cans to get a new loaf of bread!  

Funny thing about a lot of the "desparately poor" - they have lots of cool yet expensive toys from the local rent-to-own store. They have no shortage of $3 a bag Doritos - and not the generics either, they go to mcDonalds, they always have a pack of cigarettes or a bottle of malt liqour etc...

There is no excuse for poverty in America except laziness. I have said this many times before - the illegal alien who picks up my dog shit for $5 a week pulls in 90K when you do the math!


Why do you brag about hiring illegal aliens in most of your posts? Do you think people will think your something special? Are you trying to impress us?

Maybe your hoping someone will spot it and try to find you and take action? I have to say I wouldn't be upset if I found out your got busted for it.




MissMorrigan -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 6:13:54 AM)

Being poor does and while I have seen it in others, thankfully I have never experienced it for myself since the age of six, my mother did all the above to ensure that I never would. In the UK, although they no longer exist these days, there were public swimming baths (as they were called then) and inside were cubicles with each containing a bath for those householders who didn't have a bathroom. I had no comprehension of the stares each of us in the queue outside received as we went in. Of course the local fishmonger would give my mother extra scraps for the 'cats' we didn't have, he knew her situation and the thing about a community is that they all pull together. Many years later, I earn a good wage, I have equity and future financial security, but nothing ever gets wasted. I take nothing for granted.




SeeksOnlyOne -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 6:19:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DomAviator

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ORIGINAL: slvemike4u

I would imagine you have more than your fair share of dog shit DA,,,you have certainly spread enough of it around here


Ha Ha Ha... FYI I have one dog, a yellow lab. The man charges $5 per week for the first dog - $2 for each addl. For $5 it is not worth it for me to pick the Labrador Landmines out of my backyard. The man has six clients on my street - some of whom have two or three dogs and thus pay $7 or $9. It takes him less than a half an hour to service the six accounts on my street afterwhich he goes to the next block and so forth. Figure he is averaging 45 min per hour of work excluding travel time - even at the 1 dog rate thats $45 per hour or over a 2,000 hour work year - $90,000... I give him credit, he earns his money instead of bitching about poverty and hes come up with a damn fine opportunity that requires no education and essentially no start up costs - a box of latex gloves and a trash bag??? If he can do it, speaking almost NO English, anyone can. Opportunity is there - some are just too lazy to do it. I will gladly pay for services - whether its cleaning, grocery shopping, or food delivery,  one of these days I just might hire a designated ass wiper if someone comes up with that.


and to some folks, my self included, that 5 bucks is much better used purchasing a loaf of bread and some eggs.

maybe you ought to use your vast knowledge to show a citizen how to get a biz like that going, rather than employing an illegal to do it.

as for hiring a designated ass wiper-how tall are you?  that might cost a lot-it wont be a one roll job ima thinkin.




MissMorrigan -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 6:35:52 AM)

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It's quite something when a person vents their spleen on this topic repeatedly and yet, by his own admission, enables it. So much for that education.
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ORIGINAL: SeeksOnlyOne
as for hiring a designated ass wiper-how tall are you?  that might cost a lot-it wont be a one roll job ima thinkin.




Termyn8or -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 6:42:07 AM)

How did I know DA was going to come and say some shit like that ?

Thing is though I agree partly. I would say that 90% if the time people cause their own problems, but what of the other 10% ? But wait, even before we get to that 10% there are some who pay as adults for mistakes they made when they were younger.

Among the examples of such are dropping out of school, catching a felony charge or a BIG one, having kids. Some have done all three.

I was going to ask for clarification about the guy who shovels shit and does well but DA beat me to it. Hats off to the guy, but I don't think he's making 90K. Also what needs to be said is that solicitation of any kind is frowned upon in some places, and you can't just walk up to people's doors and say "Me picka upa you dog poop five dollars". Apparently that is not the case there.

I have also heard of kids going out and making 90 bucks a day shoveling snow or mowing grass. If you can drive, have a truck and ladder you got the world by the balls, if nothing else you can clean gutters.

Several years ago I was asked by three girls, I mean like 12-13 years old, what they could do to make some money. They were cousins who were practically inseperable for a time and they were at the one Parents' house and so was I. I told them to hoof it around to every local business and offer to distrubute flyers, you know on people's doorknobs. Go everywhere except bars. Actually forget the fast food places as well, but everywhere else. I told them that first time out, just get the accounts and I would fire up the laser printer for them. Later they can buy their own paper and get me a toner cartridge, but for now it would be a leg up. After that it would just be the cost of doing business, like the scooper and rubber gloves for the shit shoveler.

Then there's the can kid. Owns a house and a nice truck. Has a job yes, but doesn't have alot in the way of skills so he doesn't make all that much. He augments his income with the cans, and he has turned it into a business. Goes around to the local bars and everything.

So I do agree with DA to that extent, as long as one is able bodied there is something out there to do. Which brings us to the rest, that 10%.

Able bodied means alot more than just to be able to walk and talk. It means that you can get yourself to work. It means you can find someone you trust to watch the kids. It means being able to actually get the job in a market like this.

In the old days, Ford would teach you the skills needed to work on the line, and paid unprecedented wages. The work was hard, some people died trying, literally. But those who made it through lived a pretty good life, they were making it, no matter if they had dropped out of school or had other problems. As long as you could do it you had a job.

Well those days are over. We moved to a service based economy and those opportunities of yore are all but gone. It used to be that if you were willing to work you could find something, but things have changed.

Now one needs skills to do well. Sure you could do something, but if you want to make ends meet you need something lucrative. In today's economy if you are not taking home twenty bucks an hour you are poor. That is different than living in poverty. Poverty is like in Bangladesh etc. Being poor here is a different story. My opinion of being poor is being unable to provide for your own retirement. You just can't do much making thirty grand a year. Yes you can get a house and a car, yes you can have a TV and internet, but when you retire you are going to be dependent on a social security check that might not be forthcoming.

Saving your money is worth shit unless you do it in foreign currency, not everyone has the means to do that.

So by my standards there are alot more poor people in this country than one would think. It's not that they are living in poverty, but one day they probably will.

The other 10% includes alot of things. Many things people don't realize. Get T boned in your car and do a year in a hospital. That'll squash those annual gambling junkets. Get your house taken by eminent domain when you have little or no equity in it. Have a few thou in the bank and have the transmission go in your car. Or your car simply gets stolen and not recovered, your only car.

That other 10% counts, and must be considered before becoming judgemental. The examples I have given are only the tip of the iceberg, there is alot more. Go blind. Catch cancer. Try that.

But that notwithstanding, circumstances. Remember the movie Other People's Money ? Well I have an increasing share of a shrinking market. It is coming to me and I hope I have the wherewithall to survive it. If not, been nice knowing you.

If you are reading this you have survived so far. So far so good. But don't count on things lasting forever. They don't. Strife can come to anyone, and I will say that 90% of the time they brought it on themselves, but the way this economy is, that figure may need to be revised.

T




NorthernGent -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 7:06:56 AM)

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ORIGINAL: orfunboi

Yup, being poor can really suck



Poverty can be a matter of life and death.

It's well documented that, in England, in the early 1990s, in excess of a hundred pensioners died in a year for want of not being able to heat their homes.

'Not very impressive for a supposed civilised nation.




SeeksOnlyOne -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 7:14:40 AM)

i have thought about being poor more since mom died....i dont know about for others, but for me, when i lost my second parent, a feeling of impending doom hit me for a while.  i felt like an orphan, no one on this earth who would take me in, no one i could run home to if things got horrible.

it still hits me sometimes, but i dont let it rule me.  but i am aware that i could be one disaster away from being in a helluva mess.




pahunkboy -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 7:15:20 AM)

It is true about working for other people, as in person, not entity.   I grabbed 2 men from the homeless shelter to help me move. Paid them each $20-30.   When I was a kid we used to knock on doors- I mowed grass, cleaned basements, pulled weeds, waxed floors, washed dogs.   Now- as a youth- I did not demand a certain amount. I let the adult determine the pay. I recall mr Fs lawnmower. One had to hit a screw driver to the spark plug to make it start.  Of course the yard was on a steep hill, and 4 huge weaping willow trees were cutting off the mower.  I earned $3.35 each time.

After I moved- then - I poped into the public housing project. I asked around about hiring someone to paint my apartment. 2 folks were very interested.... until they seen I seriously meant paint my apartment.   So even tho it was cash under the table- albiet a low amount- working- swaeting toiling was beneath them.  They werent hungry enough.

I then made the off to paint my place to a pan hander who held a big sign on the highway.  He promised to work. [sign said "will work for food"]

Then I asked a guy from free cycle. He was eager, but then his dad got involved and all kinds of parameters were meantioned. must have this that- materials..  and talking it was more laborious then DOING it!

Then consider how many grunt jobs are -well the worker is treated not the best.

Will work for food?  bull.  I seen the SOB week after week with that sign.   Then after 6 weeks- I myself, painted my apatrtment.




pahunkboy -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 7:20:16 AM)

on 2 diff occassions, i wanted muscle to get rocks from mountain side for my rock garden.  found a guy who helped- maybe it took 20 minutes.   he got $5.  which he used to buy cigarettes.  i was happy, he was happy.




Leatherist -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 7:32:03 AM)

It's not being poor that sucks the most.

Being judged as morally inferior by yuppies due to your circumstances is worse.




Sanity -> RE: Being Poor... ( discuss ) (6/8/2008 7:37:12 AM)

Think about that the next time you hear the Global Warming radicals preaching how they'd love to see even higher energy prices so as not to inconvenience a herd of caribou or possibly cause the planet to warm up a fraction of a degree...

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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

Poverty can be a matter of life and death.

It's well documented that, in England, in the early 1990s, in excess of a hundred pensioners died in a year for want of not being able to heat their homes.

'Not very impressive for a supposed civilised nation.




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