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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 7:21:53 AM

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I've come to the conclusion that I really don't care about age at all. My pervy side has a certain thing for young women in their 20's sometimes, but I find qualities that attract me in people of all ages.

I think that for me, the key is that, I don't expect one person to meet all of my needs. I am talking to a 20 yo slave right now. I don't think I am going to have alot of deep intellectual conversations with her. I don't need to. There are qualities about her that compliment some of mine.

My youngest child just turned 27. I am a grandmother of 2, soon to be 3.

Call me sick and perverted but I am going to live my life as I see fit. I have different things to offer different people in my life and different needs that can be fullfilled by different people.

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 7:28:15 AM

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Put me in the "can't get past it" camp. I just can't. I have two grown kids, 22 and 23, and if approched by anyone their age or younger I just imagine that they could have been in class with my kids!

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 7:54:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: SweetNika

A friend and I were talking today and some thoughts came to mind regarding age. Logan it's all your fault your thread spurred these thoughts.

I have 2 ums one of which is a teenager. I have been approached by doms who are 18 years old. I don't ever assume age defines life experience or life knowledge,however; my 1st thought is "Damn he is only 4 years older than my daughter." I seem to do this anytime a younger dom approaches me. I also worry about if I do get involved with a dom that young if my daughter would be uncomfy with it or if my coworkers would take issue with it (I am a teacher).

Im a singlemom Myself, and no matter how I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. I always say, yes this youngone is really truly sincere, he is different you'll see... and it just shows that they so arent ready to submit, because they are so busy with themselves. So I stick to My opinion, No youngonce for Me, simply because they can't give what I want.

On the other side of the spectrum I have doms who are in the late 50's early 60's that approach me and my thought is usually, "He is old enough to be my father." Yes I understand fully where you come from. I've to be atracted to that mature person, or nothing with happen for Me. And No not too old... around My age is the best, to have lived life, and know something about it too!

I wish you enough.

Warm Greetingz

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 8:00:59 AM

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Yeah, I feel the same way about older woman.

The wrinkling skin, the grey hair, the stretch marks, the misportioned bodies....they are past their prime and I am not. I don't think it's unfair for me to want to enjoy the youth they have lost.

Who would want a partner anyways who just falls asleep on the couch, knitting, while your still going strong?

I mean, if they are done after round 2 and I can still fuck all night, that's a bit unfair to them as well.

I doubt I would ever let an old woman submit to me. It's just personal preference and no one should feel bad for having standards and specifications for the person who is going to be your companion.

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 8:40:10 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetNika

A friend and I were talking today and some thoughts came to mind regarding age. Logan it's all your fault your thread spurred these thoughts.

I have 2 ums one of which is a teenager. I have been approached by doms who are 18 years old. I don't ever assume age defines life experience or life knowledge,however; my 1st thought is "Damn he is only 4 years older than my daughter." I seem to do this anytime a younger dom approaches me. I also worry about if I do get involved with a dom that young if my daughter would be uncomfy with it or if my coworkers would take issue with it (I am a teacher).

On the other side of the spectrum I have doms who are in the late 50's early 60's that approach me and my thought is usually, "He is old enough to be my father."

Both of these thoughts seem to stop me from truly looking to these men as possible doms for myself.

If you have these thoughts how do you get past them when speaking to a dom or do you?

Blessed be,
Nika

Judging from my email lately, i am the darling of 20-s'thing Doms. i have trouble understanding why A/anyone would seek out a D/s relationship in which the partners were so far apart in age that T/they could be compared to a mother and son.

Frankly, it creeps me out.

i blame a lot of this on pop culture. The terms 'MILF' ('Mother I'd Like to F**k') and 'cougars' have entered the lexicon in the past few decades, though the kink itself is probably as old as the cavemen.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships

Even Dr. Phil just did a show on 'cougars'.

http://www.drphil.com/shows/show/790

i try not to judge O/other P/pl's kinks -- i really do -- but i just don't see what possible healthy motive there could be for 20-s'things to pursue 'mature' submissives.

i'm sure i'll get a reply disagreeing with me, but that's how i feel about it now.

pinksugarsub

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 9:11:02 AM

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(Veers slightly off topic):

I worked out a while back that I couldn't change my age. (Quel bummer! But honestly, I found it's true). And although I don't really register a person's birthday age - it's who they are that's far more interesting - I vaguely wondered if fun with girls would soon cease.

But it's amazing how many charming young ladies also see no problem with age. Some - quite sensibly - do and some - quite sensibly - don't. And it's a funny old world; like a lot of people, I don't think of myself as attractive in the least - never have. But it seems there's always someone around who disagrees with you.

And how hugely enjoyable it is to spend time (incl bedroom time) with a young girl whilst enjoying the upside aspects of maturity. "Cake" and "eat it" comes to mind (albeit slightly misinterpreted).

So thank you, all young girls who like older men. Thank you

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 9:18:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

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ORIGINAL: SweetNika
If you have these thoughts how do you get past them when speaking to a dom or do you?

I don't get past them. Call me shallow, judgmental, close-minded, whatever. I have found that if they are young enough to be my child, I can't look at them "that way". And I'm not sure why, but for me, age seems to stop mattering if everybody is over the age of 30. Well, okay, I sort of know why, but it's hard to explain, and it has to do with figuring out that I had to "grow up" by the time I turned 30.

Cali

Huh! She's done it again.

So often I read Cali's posts and they make me think "how true - she's right - why didn't I think of that".

I'd never thought about it before, but I too almost subconsciously divide the world into just two categories - under and over 30 or so (even though I like both categories).

(But I don't find, Goddess, that I can't think of under 30s in "that way". I seem to spend half my life thinking of most girls in "that way").

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 9:21:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

Yeah, I feel the same way about older woman.

The wrinkling skin, the grey hair, the stretch marks, the misportioned bodies....they are past their prime and I am not. I don't think it's unfair for me to want to enjoy the youth they have lost.

Who would want a partner anyways who just falls asleep on the couch, knitting, while your still going strong?

I mean, if they are done after round 2 and I can still fuck all night, that's a bit unfair to them as well.

I doubt I would ever let an old woman submit to me. It's just personal preference and no one should feel bad for having standards and specifications for the person who is going to be your companion.

ROFLMAO. MadRabbit, maybe You should get out more. 'Mature' women aren't what they used to be. My girlfriends my age are The Bomb!

Peace out.

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 10:39:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub

quote:

ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

Yeah, I feel the same way about older woman.

The wrinkling skin, the grey hair, the stretch marks, the misportioned bodies....they are past their prime and I am not. I don't think it's unfair for me to want to enjoy the youth they have lost.

Who would want a partner anyways who just falls asleep on the couch, knitting, while your still going strong?

I mean, if they are done after round 2 and I can still fuck all night, that's a bit unfair to them as well.

I doubt I would ever let an old woman submit to me. It's just personal preference and no one should feel bad for having standards and specifications for the person who is going to be your companion.

ROFLMAO. MadRabbit, maybe You should get out more. 'Mature' women aren't what they used to be. My girlfriends my age are The Bomb!

Peace out.

pinksugarsub

I'm just having a little fun. It's not my real opinion.

I'm attracted to women who are younger than me. It's just the way it is with no real reason assigned to it.

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 10:59:20 AM

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I decided not to look for anyone over 30 because I find we never have anything in common. Its hard to chat about the things that matter in my life with people who's prorities are so different.

I'm 25 and completely immature for my age. I have an insane sense of humour and I very rarely 'click' with people. So when I found myself enjoying quirky chats with someone almost twice my age, I thought what the hell! Its still early, might go either way, but I've found a 43 year old I can have a decent conversation with.

But younger, no. So far no good experiences of anyone younger.

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 11:10:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

.... Until! Women get old and are so lonely that they put on short skirts and cowboy boots and go to a bar and hope that some drunk picks them up.

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i can assure you sweet Raymond that you will never catch me in cowboy boots so lonely that i am hoping some drunk will pick me up! That is what an Hitachi is for...saving the dignity of older women everywhere! LOL!

Seriously though, i do seem to cultivate a "Mrs. Robinson" persona around younger guys - or so i have been told. i am not even famliar with the character!

And to MadRabbit: you, dear Charleston, will never see me knitting on the couch! One does not prepare for hiking the Continental Divide trail by twiddleing their fingers! Don't let my white hair fool you - it is merely a gift of genetic inheritance! LOL!!!!

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 11:30:15 AM

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go Dawn, go Dawn, go Dawn!

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 12:51:18 PM

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I married my dear first husband one week after my 18th birthday, our six month old daughter in attendance on her Aunt's lap, her younger brothers also in attendence, although it would be the next week, on our honeymoon, before i figured that out, commenting, 'gee, i thought the premarital jitters would go away after the wedding. And they always seem to be in the morning....'
I have heard that comment 'But... but... He's old enough to be your father!' (actually, he was 5 years younger than my grandmother, so she would have had to start rather young for him to be anywhere near my father's age.)
Now, I am a big fan of Miss Manners. And, while I was quite young, raising those four beautiful children and living in marital bliss, someone else wrote and asked Ms. Manners how to deal with that comment. And Ms. Manners said - when they say that, they are trying to make you feel guilty by implying a insestious relationship for you to be ashamed of, even though one does not exist. But, of course, since they are only implying it, they will deny it if called on it to bluntly. She said - call them on it anyway, but not so bluntly that they can deny their intention. Just look them strait in the eye and say, 'Yes, but i am soooo glad he isn't!' and watch them blush.
On the converse, a few years ago, my master at that time and i, dated a young woman who happened to be the exact same age as my daughter. Now, i don't know how much i would have struggled with that, but...
Her and my daughter were in the same year in college, albiet at different colleges in different states. But they had the same career asperations, and therefore the same major. And, oddly enough, the same minor. And, odder still, they occupied the same post, did the sqame duties, for the same extracurricular club. and... and... and....
and, yes, i found it sometimes challenging. But, the truth is, that young lady, (and my own daughter, as well) were adults who were perfectly capable of making their own choices, and i did not feel either choice was 'wrong'. I joked about it, i accepted it, and i moved on. I tried to treat her the way i would want someone to treat my own daughter - but that is the norm for me. When dating a woman, i try to behave in such a way that, if and/or when we must part, break up, whathaveyou, i will have marked their life permanently by raising their standards, so they know what kind of treatment they deserve to expect.
Don't try to pretend it is not there - talk about it, joke about it. things surpressed tend to grow. But, really, it is as much of an issue as you make it.

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 1:19:14 PM

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I think it determines what type of relationship you want to have with them. If it's just play, you want someone who is skinny and energetic enough. If it's a real serious relationship you want someone that already knows who they are, has their life together, and isn't still "growing". If you want a real serious relationship where your partner compensates for your shortcomings (like feeling like a REAL man, you get someone who's like still growing and you couldn't possibly have a real relationship with just over jail bait).

When I was in my early 20's, I was still growing. There was no way I wanted to settle down. Plus, I was financially secure, and didn't need to pretend liking an older guy, just to reap the financial benefits... LMFAO.

The guys who were approaching me that were in their late 30's early 40's, were like a joke to me. Like what? I don't want a father, I already have one. I don't need money, my dad gives me some. And, you're so old, why have you and settle down when I don't want to settle down yet and can hang around people closer to my own age at my own stage in life?

Just creeped me out, older guys who wanted to hang around the young'ens. Kinda like a child molestor hanging around the playground. Really disgusting. Maybe the child molestors aren't mature and never will mature, and need to have a relationship with a kid. ... who knows

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 2:28:53 PM

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I think it determines what type of relationship you want to have with them. If it's just play, you want someone who is skinny and energetic enough.

Well I guess this fat old broad will never get any play ever again. Might as well park my fat old ass in my rocking chair and knit socks.

Cali

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 2:40:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

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ORIGINAL: chickpea

I think it determines what type of relationship you want to have with them. If it's just play, you want someone who is skinny and energetic enough.

Well I guess this fat old broad will never get any play ever again. Might as well park my fat old ass in my rocking chair and knit socks.

Cali

You, me and a fair few others if those are the criteria I'm willing to bet. Although I have got some fabulous sock patterns (I kid you not!)

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 2:47:47 PM

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Finally a post instead of reading? Age is less important than wisdom. But age is a factor. I retired at 45, and usually look within 20+_ years of my age, but my recent 19 year old did not give me age problems. I enjoy her culture and outlook on lfe. She was confused about what she wanted and required more supervision that someone who was secure in her self knowledge, but that seemed less an age factor and more a problem that people of all ages can face. Age is a number, but maturity is important and wisdom is required. Some gain this early and some never get there. As a Paterfamilius to all in my household, I act as Father and Owner, not just Master, whether my slave is 19 or 59. As someone who worked in the military, corrections and education, I don't have an age bias, just an attitude bias. The right personality will always get my attention, while someone that requires lots and lots of effort will be gone, no matter their age. Roman slavery at its best. I have seen young people die and old people keep on living, however you define that term. The age that counts is the age you are now, and the persons you choose to share your life with at that moment.

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 2:53:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

quote:

ORIGINAL: chickpea

I think it determines what type of relationship you want to have with them. If it's just play, you want someone who is skinny and energetic enough.

Well I guess this fat old broad will never get any play ever again. Might as well park my fat old ass in my rocking chair and knit socks.

Cali

I hope you don't park it in a chair unless it's bight red first. You have the wit with just the right amount of bratiness that makes me smile and is the number one requirement of anyone I ever had a good relationship with. And you're a coder! Don't make me go over there young lady.

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 3:01:37 PM

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Have some issues there chickpea? I think this is the part that's always difficult. I have a hard time when someone has to label you and judge you for what is working in your life without even talking to you or getting to know you.

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RE: But your only 4 years older than my daughter! - 6/10/2008 3:05:39 PM

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Well, I could have said this instead:

10 INPUT "What is your age?", A
20 FOR X = 1 to A
30 PRINT "Kiss my fat old ass"
40 NEXT X
50 END

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