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ORIGINAL: SadistCpl4fslv

Thanks for your advice thus far..........

Yes I have talked to her about changing her accounts but that would mean her having to make all those she wishes to keep contact with aware of the change and causing them to wonder why the change. 

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And to be honest I don't think she is really emotionally up to that as well. 

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 The point I guess I keep coming back to is why should she even have to resort to something like that in the first place. 

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 However, if that is the only solution then the advice is well worthy of more consideration and possible action.

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On the point of turning off the computer this would be totally unexceptable unfortunately because except for telephone that is the only means of communication she has with myself and other members of her family and its just too risky.  Once again for matters of privacy I won't go into why this is just trust me that it is.

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ORIGINAL: SadistCpl4fslv

Ok so I am starting this thread out of reluctance and without giving away too much information for privacy issues but also in hopes of getting some real meaningful advice because I find myself at wits end over the following situation.

Here is the scenario:
A girl places a profile on CM because her Dominant which she has already known and been collared to for a good bit is here.  After a short period of time she closes her profile because of the creeps that can't get it thru their minds that she belongs to someone else and won't leave her alone about it.  Since that time the girl goes thru a series of bizarre and tragic circumstances in her personal life the likes that very few would be able to endure without totally cracking up.  She also becomes gravely ill, literally undergoing numerous operations and fighting for her life for several months.  She endures all of this most couragesly and the result of which brings her and her Dominant to such a close bond and connection the likes as neither ever expected and also causes the same bond and connection between her Dominant and her family.  However, along the way a few so called Doms and Domme's from CM contact her Dominant under the guise of simply wanting to know how she is doing but under false pretences are really wanting to try to wrench her away from her Dominant for themselves.  They request personal contact information from her Dominant and as she tells her Dominant she is just not up to renewing old contacts he forwards the message to them.   They end up contacting her secretly and even after she has told them she is not interested nor is up to continuing conversation with them, they continue to harras her via email and other messenger services.  When she blocks them they  continue to harras her establishing new addys as soon as she blocks them and even employee partners, submissives, and associates to do the same.  Even after her Dominant and members of her family try to reason, warn, and even threaten legal action nothing seems to work. One of these dominants is of a different sexual orientation and is even trying to force her to change her orientation simply to satisfy her.  Now for a few disclaimers:  Her Dominant is not afraid that somehow they may convince her to leave him......the bond is too strong and too deep for that to happen.   Nor is he suspicious that she might be doing something with them behind his back.  He has complete confidence in her honesty and knows by the continued behavior of these people that is not happening.  What he is afraid of is the fact that her physical and emotional condition is very very fragile and frankly this is stress that she doesn't need.  It's unwanted, irresponsible and to be honest dangerous to her recovery at this point.  These people have shown that they have no interest in her recovery or well being and are selfishly and delusionaly only trying to get her for their own use without any regard as to what she wants, what this is doing to her and to her family.  Even simply ignoring them is not working.  This whole situation has esculated to what is tantimount to cyber stalking and harrasment the likes I have never seen.

Now I desperately need some advice if any of you have dealt with this before.  I have had some experience with this sort of thing but it always died down fairly quickly.  However, in this situation these people just can't take no for an answer and seem to be set on making their lifes mission to make her life hell on top of what she is dealing with since she won't give into their demands.  I also have to give a little rant at this point for my own piece of mind.  There was a time when within the BDSM community this sort of activity was looked on as being entirely sleezy and this type of scummy behavior was shunned.  The idea of Honor, Respect (including respect for what others had) and most of all Consent were paramount and guarded by the majority of those in the community.  At least those I have always been associated with.  However it seems those attributes especially Consent has gone out the window for an ever growing number of sleeze balls prevading this site and the community at large.  In my opinion, and Im not making this as a blanket statement, but it seems more and more the philosophy of choice is all about what "I" want and getting it any way "I" can with total disregard as to consent, consequences and even legal issues.  Maybe I am a bit too idealistic and this is just the way it is but personally it stinks and only serves to undermind the legitamacy and integrity of the BDSM community at large.  

Thanks for reading my post and please help with constructive advice on this issue.

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick
there is something going on somewhere that we're not being told

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ORIGINAL: SadistCpl4fslv

I never did give out her personal info, I was only asked for it.

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If you don't think "conspiracies" such as what I am describing can possibly happen all one has to do is spend a day in BDSM chatrooms on servers such as bondage and see that this happens all the time at least in a cyber way.

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

You're still making this too complicated.  If it's yahoo messenger, all she has to do is block and delete, and make her settings to ignore messages from anyone not on her friends list.  The other messengers have similar features, I just can't remember what terms they use for it.

For email, set the filters so that anyone not in her address book goes to bulk mail.

Cali