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But myy question is: what would the term years of experience mean in a submissive's profile? For me my body is my instrument as a submissive. I therefore cannot truly say when my submissive nature started and really couldn't state my years of experience. This would be similar to stating how many years I had been willing to have my body used.
This is also a problem for many dominants, one that I run into. The example of flogging or using of equipment has been used, but that's not a guide for dominant experience. Experience in X type of topping, yes, but not for the trait of dominance... or for experience in Y type of topping. Heck, many of us tops/dominants, while experienced and skilled in some equipment-using topping largely focus on the hands/feets/body type of topping. Some have zero interest or experience in any equipment-use topping.
So years of experience dominating can be just as vague or difficult to nail down, since it's a relationship role and style of interaction. Some people come to a realization of submissiveness or dominance at a clear point in their lives, others have no clear starting point. I can't state for sure when I "became dominant" because it goes as far back as I can remember clearly. Depending on what situation I'm speaking to, I either use the vagueness of "10+ years" or "more than a decade" because that's roughly how long I've been over the age of majority; other times I pinpoint my first clear and distinct role as a dominant in a D/s relationship as starting in 2nd grade.
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So; what meaning does it have for you as a submissive and how would you measure it?
I sub and dom, both as mentioned above have been inherent parts of my nature in response to others as far back as I can remember, with dominance being my everyday, primary personality type. The answer to this question for both I basically covered above: Depending on what's and where the conversation is taking place, I use my became-fully-legal age or my first clear relationship as the marker.
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How useful is it to know this about a submissive if you are a dom(me)?
Very, when teamed with a good idea of what that experience type has been and where they're coming from on it.
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Do you value innocence or experience in a submissive?
Generally speaking, I prefer those with experience. But, I don't use experience amount to decide if I want to pursue things with a person...that's much more decided by how they relate to me, no prior experience or plenty, and are willing to actually follow my lead. Those with a lot of experience can have their preconceptions from past relationships that they apply to me. Those with little to no experience can have their preconceptions from the lack of real experience and fantasy, mixed, that they apply to me. So with either their can be issues, and with either they can be coming to me without them to find how *we* work.
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RE: Submissive years of experience? - 
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", its nice to know how mature that person will act and it gives you a good idea how they will speak about you as long as you both end things honorably. 
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