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pinksugarsub -> RE: Are Labels Helpful to U/us? (6/14/2008 10:05:18 AM)
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ORIGINAL: colouredin
Part of the human condition is to put things into boxes, judge and label its just the way that we are, even when people say they dislike labels they still apply them to themselves.
i agree with you -- that makes sense.
I think it depends, I think that because of our nature labels can be great ways of organising things, like i said on another post labels are used in all aspects of ourself daughter, mother, friend, lover etc etc there are loads, the problem often comes when we think that labels mean the same to everyone or that to call yourself something means that you always act a certain way, its impossible for that to be true.
Do you feel that the labels W/we use on the boards lack any generally-accepted meaning?
You are one person with all the aspects of yourself all the time, sometimes they are more prominant than others but they are always there.
True enough. i'm always a mom, a friend, a taxpayer, a voter, etc., in addition to any D/s role i may play.
If you disregard someone because of the label that they choose to apply to themselves you may be missing out on something fantastic...
I disagree to some degree. When i receive email from male subs, Dommes, switches, etc. i generally respond that i'm not interested (except possibly in friendship) because i'm seeking a Dom.
i've not always done this. In the past, i've responded to emails from male subs and switches, especially if in the email T/they said 'I want to be your Dom' but i have stopped doing this, as i have never found it to be fruitful.
....but at the same time it is you that misses out and therefore maybe your own labels can help to weed out the people you wouldnt want in your life anyways.
Well, i might want T/them as friends, but not as a D/s partner.
We can debate their merit till the cows come home but they are never going to vanish because its simply who we all are, we just have to make sure that we try not labelling other people because that can have very negative affects.
Do You see a problem with phrases in a profile such as 'seeks a Dom'? Or did you mean s'thing else? Could you please expand a little on this point?
As you said people clarify what their labels mean to them and surely thats the most important thing, of course we may not agree with their own assessment of themselves but to be honest who cares.
O yes, i completely agree. It is self-defeating and presumptuous not to accept O/other P/pl's self-assigned labels.
Thank you for your post.
pinksugarsub
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