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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/16/2008 7:26:46 PM

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/16/2008 7:39:16 PM

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she sounds like a money pig to me

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/17/2008 12:23:05 PM

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I concur with the majority here. If you aren't fulfilling some need within yourself by shelling out money and are now uncomfortable with it, don't do it. You made a choice to "pay" her and you can choose to find a different Domme.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/17/2008 12:53:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: SissyChrissy2
Is this normal or am I being taken for a ride?

You are being taken for a ride.

To pay for dominance is a choice. There are women who seek BDSM as a social relationship. And there are women who provide dominance as a professional service for a fee. She appears to be neither and is scamming you.

How can you possibly believe her when she says the next time will be the last when she has said so multiple times before? I think you should cut your losses.

Hypothetical dialog:

ThatWoman: Why haven't I heard from you, slave? I want you to book a hotel room again.
You: Sorry, but no can do.
ThatWoman: Excuse me?
You: I am not booking a hotel room
ThatWoman: What insolence! Deposit a 100 pounds in my account right now!
You: I am afraid I have the same response for this demand
ThatWoman: That's an order! It's not negotiable!
You: I am no longer taking orders from you. You have been scamming me. I have demoted you from the status I had given you to an ordinary citizen. In fact, I have demoted you to a scamming ordinary citizen.
ThatWoman: You are not a sub
You: I am indeed a sub. However, I am not a sub who will continue to be scammed by you
ThatWoman: You will never find a domme
You: There are plenty of women out there who are not scammers. And there are plenty of legitmate professionals also. I will be just fine. But thank you for the vote of confidence. I must be going now.

And if she gives you another bill to pay, you could just let the due date pass ;-)

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/17/2008 1:14:19 PM

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I've never known a domme to come up with all these random payments like that... Then again, most people would realize they were getting ripped off.

Find a domme who's up front about what she charges.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/17/2008 2:03:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: SissyChrissy2

not £2Ks worth but she has other subs who seem to still give her praise on her profile after a long time. Could it be a short term test or am i living in hope?

And you know these are real people and not sockpuppets? Why?

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/17/2008 2:26:41 PM

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/17/2008 3:47:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: SissyChrissy2

Hi,

I've recently been in touch with a mistress who I met, before we met I put £100 into her account as a tribute. I then booked a hotel room and on the day I was informed I was to give another £200. By the end of the evening I had spent £1300 including hotel etc. I was told however it would no longer be financial and I was done for 12 months.

The next day I was told to pay a bill of £150 and that it was the last time to prove myself.

Just over a week later she says she wants to meet me again and to book a hotel and bring £200. When I get there I am ordered to pay another £200.

All in all I have paid approximately £2,000 in two visits. Should I dare to see this woman again? Is this normal or am I being taken for a ride?

Yours,

Sissy Chrissy

I hate to sound uncharitable, but you got what you deserved. Anyone asking for a one off payment, then asking for another, is obviously scamming you. You had already paid twice before that, with the initial fee, and again at the hotel. This makes three one off payments already.

My advice would be to go to a real ProDomme, there are several web sites for such services. At least you are less likely to be ripped off than by giving a total stranger wads of cash.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/17/2008 4:14:26 PM

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And to think, I felt so guilty about making my boy drive three hours and pay for a hotel room that I bought his dinner and took him to the movies.

A relationship is a two way street. A Professional states her prices for a service and then provides it. Sorry that you got taken.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/17/2008 7:26:57 PM

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Sounds as tho she is giving the rest of the Pros a bad name.......

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/18/2008 4:25:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: undergroundsea

Hypothetical dialog:

ThatWoman: Why haven't I heard from you, slave? I want you to book a hotel room again.
You: Sorry, but no can do.
ThatWoman: Excuse me?
You: I am not booking a hotel room
ThatWoman: What insolence! Deposit a 100 pounds in my account right now!
You: I am afraid I have the same response for this demand
ThatWoman: That's an order! It's not negotiable!
You: I am no longer taking orders from you. You have been scamming me. I have demoted you from the status I had given you to an ordinary citizen. In fact, I have demoted you to a scamming ordinary citizen.
ThatWoman: You are not a sub
You: I am indeed a sub. However, I am not a sub who will continue to be scammed by you
ThatWoman: You will never find a domme
You: There are plenty of women out there who are not scammers. And there are plenty of legitmate professionals also. I will be just fine. But thank you for the vote of confidence. I must be going now.

And if she gives you another bill to pay, you could just let the due date pass ;-)

Cheers,

Sea

I wouldnt have worded that so nicely Sea, but I think this is perfect, if you ever have contact with her again. Personally I think you are living in hope Sissy, Im sorry for that, and wish you luck finding a good Domme, pro or not .
If its your kink, and the visits were fun and worth it in your eyes, thats completely up to you, but be aware of the less than professional ones, there are some wonderful pros out there, ultimately you make the decision on wether its worth it for you.
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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/18/2008 4:30:20 AM

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I am confused - why did you pay her in the first place and think she would not then keep charging you?

200 pounds an hour sounds right for a good UK pro-domme. Why did you think she would see you for free?

I don't understand why you gave her the money in the first place, much less kept paying. What made you do that if you cannot afford it? Why not just say "no"????

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/18/2008 4:37:48 AM

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You know, I really don't want to do this but you seem like a nice guy, I have this bridge in London that has been in the family for years, I'll let you have it for 1500 Euros.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/18/2008 4:45:09 AM

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When are you people going to start proving yourself to me. Sunshine no monolopy money.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/18/2008 4:59:47 AM

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Original: Pinnipedster My only objection to pro Dommes is that they charge more than I can afford.

And therin lies the real reason many subs "hate" professional dominants.

Of course you can't afford it - sea lions don't have pockets to carry money in. But they DO have monster schlongs - so perhaps it evens out.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/18/2008 4:43:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne

200 pounds an hour sounds right for a good UK pro-domme. Why did you think she would see you for free?

I have a hard time believing the 200 pounds per hour rate. Is this true?
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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/18/2008 4:53:14 PM

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I wouldn't call this person a professional anything except scam artist who can tell when someone is a bit too hungry. Too hungry comes in many forms, from attention to needy for kink or love. The woman is wrong to do what she does, but how wrong is it to let her and not call everything what it is? It is what it is. Whatever place one finds themselves in, in the lifestyle... doesn't negate personal accountablity, awareness and common sense.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/18/2008 5:26:23 PM

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Dude,
You got taken for a ride before you even got to the park.

This is exactly the type of person that gives all pro-dommes a bad reputation. With a pro-domme, you pay for a service they provide. Simple transaction. You pay, they provide the service. It's done. You dont pay thousands to "prove yourself."

If you arnt looking for a pro-domme, than any profile that starts talking about money....hit the next button. Because 95% of the time...they are a scam artist.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/18/2008 8:37:09 PM

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You sold yourself far, far too cheaply. If it's a professional domme you want, you can probably find referrals for the talented, quality, honest ones who give these women a good name. Any worth the title will state their fees up front.

Tribute Dommes get a little more nebulous for me to define, though I've noticed several have wishlists online so that (potential) submissives can get some idea of how much they'd be spending to keep these dommes happy. I'm assuming that the respectable ones negotiate a minimum tribute rate schedule and keep their promises regarding contact and play.

Scam artists don't cover either of these, and you found yourself one. Given how much folks like you fork over, she no doubt has plenty of fee time to make up multiple profiles on certain sites and write positive comments about herself under other usernames.

Better luck next time. yeek.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/19/2008 8:25:01 AM

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Needless to say, but willa say it anyway tis a scam.
Is she a pro-domme..??
What does she do for £2,000 in a hotel room - has she not got a dungeon..???
Or are ye hoping for more than a pro-domme, client relationship..???
This not be de first, many years back, there was a scam, where so called pro-dommes would place an ad,
box number reply, ye would write to box number and they would reply nd ask ye to send £5.

Then would offer to send ye some of their poems or essays and would then `ave to send £10,
then would send a photo and would require £15 and soo on.
This is de new, revamped cyber version except on a grander scale.

Let moi tella ya something andor others, de ladies who are expert.. do not charge £2,000
for a night in a hotel.. many of them do not charge- they are not pro-dommes and use that word,
professional with caution..

Example, there be a lady in Europe, where can stay for 1 week, the cost is 800euros plus expenses
which would be somewhere around 1,400euro.
That is approx £1,000 for a week - serving her, in a full dungeon and trips to clubs and play
and de rest.
No one is worth £2,000 for an hour.

Look at it thus, fool me once shame on ye...fool me twice..shame on me..

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