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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/21/2008 11:03:50 AM

babydriver

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ORIGINAL: Racquelle

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Original: Pinnipedster My only objection to pro Dommes is that they charge more than I can afford.
And therin lies the real reason many subs "hate" professional dominants.

I wouldn't use the word "hate" really. Fact is though that the average person cannot afford a professional unless he's the CEO of a major corporation.

And I won't even touch the irony of a dominant providing a service to a submissive (I always thought it was supposed to be the other way around).

But as far as the original poster is concerned, as the saying goes, a fool and his money were parted.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/22/2008 9:57:48 AM

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If you are wealthy and never had the chance to serve someone (e.g dominatrix) and it's something you wanted to try thats one thing. But the way you present it seems a bit "stupid" excuse my language. She is using you, what normal person would do such thing. Dump her!

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/22/2008 3:47:48 PM

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The vanilla id's always fascinate Me when they post to the boards just to stir up some responses.

What a stupid post.

Only you can decide whether what you received in value for the money you spent was worth it or not.

If not, you don't need us to tell you what the gig is.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/22/2008 5:34:41 PM

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Chalk it up to learn from your mistakes and go forth. A person who does that to another is only in it for the money and not for the pleasure it brings to themselves or others. They tend to be very selfish and not sure about you, but that type of relationship never works, unless you like divorce court.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/23/2008 3:08:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: babydriver

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ORIGINAL: Racquelle

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Original: Pinnipedster My only objection to pro Dommes is that they charge more than I can afford.
And therin lies the real reason many subs "hate" professional dominants.

I wouldn't use the word "hate" really. Fact is though that the average person cannot afford a professional unless he's the CEO of a major corporation.

That is not a fact at all. I could afford a prodomme--if I had any interest in that sort of thing.

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And I won't even touch the irony of a dominant providing a service to a submissive (I always thought it was supposed to be the other way around).

I've always been amused by that myself. I can understand how using a prodomme could work for a fetishist, or a bottom who craved a specific physical sensation, or someone who enjoyed the act of paying for whatever. But it seems that pay-for-play would create a power dynamic that would not satisfy what many/most submissives want.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/23/2008 9:24:40 PM

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That is not a fact at all. I could afford a prodomme--if I had any interest in that sort of thing.

Really? Well then you must be making a lot of money because the hourly rate which ranges from 200 -300 per hour is about equal to a monthly car payment. I know I can't afford it. Us middle class folk are effectively priced out of the market

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I've always been amused by that myself. I can understand how using a prodomme could work for a fetishist, or a bottom who craved a specific physical sensation, or someone who enjoyed the act of paying for whatever. But it seems that pay-for-play would create a power dynamic that would not satisfy what many/most submissives want.

Exactly my point. Thanks for expressing it.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/23/2008 9:56:27 PM

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I used to hear these kind of stories all the time when I was pro domming. It does indeed make the rest look bad. Unfortunately, some subs/slaves become so desperate for the attention that they temporarily lose their common sense.

I always kept my tiribute very reasonable and stated it up front. I also provided the dungeon with all the equipment, including costumes - their's and mine. If I met someone in a hotel, it was by HIS request. Sometimes they are traveling through on business. Even so, I would bring as much equipment as I could discretely smuggle into the room.

Whenever a submissive could not afford me but could provide a service such as painting or landscaping, I was always willing to make arrangements that didn't involve monetary tributes.

Sorry, but it looks like you were taken. Next time look for someone who's upfront and if the story starts to change, leave immediately, preferably with your money.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/24/2008 1:08:04 PM

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That is not a fact at all. I could afford a prodomme--if I had any interest in that sort of thing.

Really? Well then you must be making a lot of money because the hourly rate which ranges from 200 -300 per hour is about equal to a monthly car payment. I know I can't afford it. Us middle class folk are effectively priced out of the market

No, not particularly. And of the people I've met who have used prodommes, not one is "the CEO of a major corporation," or of any corporation, in fact. Of course, they tend not to be impoverished either, but many have solidly middle-class incomes. It's all a matter of priorities; I know many middle-class people who spend that much on toys, clothes, various hobbies, etc.

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Exactly my point. Thanks for expressing it.

Anytime.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/24/2008 6:38:50 PM

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Basically, it seems like she's testing limits. If you keep paying, then why wouldn't she keep asking? There are a great many slaves who don't mind giving financial tribute. If that isn't something that you are comfortable with, then say no next time. Her reaction should give you an indication as to whether you can continue seeing her or if it's time to start looking for a new mistress.

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RE: Mistresses and tributes - 6/25/2008 2:10:13 AM

alison2603

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as a Pro Domme
i do partake in financial domination, but do it through forced intox, games etc, not just meets, or demands, if this girl is pro and you are willing and able to pay then fine, but if not break ties, and seek a pro
have a nosy over my profile and message me if you wanna chat, but at the end of the day this is up to you, but truthfully i think she is just wanting to take you for a ride

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