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Somebody please tell me - 6/21/2008 11:05:52 PM   
boundinside


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Status: offline 		If you are a Mistress and you want someone to buy you things and spoil you, why don't you put that in your profile.  I was rejected today because I did not want to renew a woman's membership for an online website that I have never even heard.  Now I realize that there are a few clueless guys out there who might actually be willing to do something of this nature.  But for the real people who earn their money, why would you base whether or not someone is qualified based on money.  Money is only 1 percent of happieness, yet half the profiles on here for female dominants are telling you to spoil them and buy them this or buy them that.
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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/21/2008 11:07:38 PM   
Leatherist


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Status: offline 		How do you know it's even a woman?

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/21/2008 11:07:46 PM   
devoutHeretic


Posts: 59
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Status: offline 		sub dont mean spineless.


have thanks that you know that.

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/21/2008 11:51:51 PM   
shivermetimbers


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Status: offline 		Concentrate on the other "half" that doesn't ask for money or to be spoiled. 

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 2:13:12 AM   
MmeGigs


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Status: offline 		I went out and looked at a dozen femdom profiles.  I looked at the first twelve I saw that had pics - I fgured that would provide a good sample.  It really wasn't very difficult to tell which were likely to ask for "tribute".  One was a pro and made no bones about it.  Two were looking for men (plural) and their profiles spoke of the excitingly evil things they would and wouldn't do in a style that was remeniscent of bad porn.  I suspect that these girls would ask for money or gifts.  One was looking for play with no commitment which is a bit of a red flag, but she was rather specific about some non-sex, non-kink stuff, so she could go either way.

Seven of the femdoms didn't have a lot to say that was excitingly evil.  While the amount of detail they provided varied a great deal, all of them were pretty explicit about what they were looking for in a relationship but talked about kinky play and sex in general terms if at all.  Most of them described their style of domination and what they expected from a relationship, again in varying amounts of detail and with little attempt at tittillation.  I'd guess that few of these women ask for money or gifts. 

Eight of the twelve femdoms' profiles contained a reference to one or more things they didn't want to see any more of - wannafucks, cheating men, boilerplate, etc.  One profile was almost completely devoted to bitching about the emails she doesn't want to see any more of.  I know that a lot of guys out there find that rather bitchy and a bit of a turn-off, but if these ladies' CM inboxes are anything like mine, maybe one in ten of the emails they receive is worth answering.  Most of them are from fellows looking for the services of prodom without the fees, which I will admit colors my attitude about the fellows who complain about being asked for money.

If you want better results, think about what it is you're looking for (long term relationship, friends with benefits, casual play with a stranger?) and about the kind of profiles you're responding to.  If a guy is looking for a long term or friends with benefits relationship with a dominant woman, he'll do better if he avoids the porny sounding profiles and looks for someone more down to earth whose criteria are a reasonable fit.  

If a guy wants casual kinky play with anyDomme who's willing and won't charge him, he's got to understand that he's looking for a pretty rare commodity and it will take a lot of persistence to wade through the come-and-get-me profiles to find her since most of these probably are come-and-get-me-and-bring-cash.  There are quite a few femdoms and femtops who play casually for fun, not for money, but they don't play with strangers - they play with people they know and like. 

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 8:47:03 AM   
goodpet


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Status: offline 		They do it because many men will pay just on the hope and slim chance they might someday get play, sex or even just the emotional domination they crave.  As long as some men pay, women will keep asking and telling.. It is easy to string some guy along and make it appear that the carrot is in reach but they need proof the men are serious and what better way to prove it then to put your money up front.. so they do. and often the carrot (and profile) disappears..

Hmm since it does work....

Ok you subbies type men.. Pay not attention to the short heavy old lady in my profile, that's just a filter picture,, I'm really a tall, 5' 10", sexy, long legged, 125# 36-28-34  double D, wearing leather hip boots and corset. my long red nails will look so good wrapped around that cock of your,.. so send me a million dollars, since I so deserve it. and I’ll send you that dirty evil sexy message you want...  no million dollars - no message and you'll never hear from me again..

I'm waiting......

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 8:54:35 AM   
Lynnxz


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Joined: 10/3/2006
From: Atlanta
Status: offline 		Another one? Jeebus, the 'do me' wankers are out in force this week.

Just because you joined a free website, and threw 15 minutes into making a profile, does not mean you suddenly get a bucket of dommes thrown at your feet. Yes, you will have to sift your way thought the scammers. There are lots of them-this is a free site. There are also lots of pro-dommes, who do what they do because it pays damn well, regardless of whether you like it or not. There is never a shortage of right wing conservatives willing to shell out a couple hundred to go get cockslapped for an hour, and your bitching is not going to change that.

Just a note, if you limit your search to tiny dominant girls, 18-20, with only a hot bikini picture... I'm going to go out on a limb and say that most of those are fakes.

If you want hot casual play, with a domme who's entirely no strings attached... you might want to look around in rl, as I don't see you having much success on the net.


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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 9:11:17 AM   
faerytattoodgirl


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Status: offline 		i have stopped looking at profiles that are not from the forum.  chances are the ones not from the forum are pro's...so why bother?

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 9:13:00 AM   
faerytattoodgirl


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Just because you joined a free website, and threw 15 minutes into making a profile, does not mean you suddenly get a bucket of dommes thrown at your feet.


crap...what if you took 60 minutes to make a profile??? with a hot video???


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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 9:33:36 AM   
MySweetSubmssive


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From: Lehigh Valley, PA
Status: offline 		MmeGigs,

Your post is now in my top 10 favorite posts.  I'd love to see it posted regularly in the "Ask a Mistress" section.  It's an incisive look at the politics of CM and how people look for what they want.  Amazing!

Mss

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 9:50:19 AM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		it's probably the same reason why many submissives are looking for 24/7 but are in fact, looking for a sugar daddy/momma to support them, yet, they don't write it in their profile either.

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 10:43:25 AM   
boundinside


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for the responses...all have been helpful in one way or another.  Even complementry by placing me in the top ten of her favorite posts.  I am not sure the exact length and time it took me to create my profile, however everything I put in my profile is straight forward and to the point.  I expand my search to Domme's on here as I do not want to limit my resources.  I seriously doubt I will find success on the net, I have made that known before.  But you never know until you try.  I realize that this is a free site and with that comes the downfalls of the lfestyle (the people who try and take advantage of a good thing).  I seriously doubt that I would ever tribute to a Domme that I barely meant online via enternet.  So I realize that none the fake Domme's probably look at the forums but for those that do.  If you tell me no money=no communication, well that is too bad because you are just going to have to find someone else to pay your bills.

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 10:44:34 AM   
GreedyTop


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Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline 		Actually, it was MmeGigs post that she put in her favorites.

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 10:47:01 AM   
Aine


Posts: 820
Joined: 4/12/2005
Status: offline 		Why does anyone not disclose something at any given time?  And to be perfectly honest.....is it really worth your energy to get all worked up an yer panties in a wad over someone who apparently doesn't fit your parameters?  Ehhhh no.

People let things bother them all too often, and all too much.  It's called patience and acceptance that there are twats out there. :D

Brush it off, go on about your day, and have a positive attitude.  The more people see a negative attitude, the more likely they are going to pass someone up.


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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 10:48:53 AM   
MissNan


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Status: offline 		Great topic!  MMEGigs, Lynnxz, & daddysliloneds - Great answers!!

Even with me being new to all of this... I'm being inundated with people wanting my time.  My time with them takes me away from my real life job and family.  And while I thoroughly enjoy my time with submissives... why should I not choose to charge them for my time?... the time I am not spending with my business (which brings in money) and my family (my #1 priority) whom I am partially responsible for supporting.

I'm actually thinking, if it's possible... to do this as a business... to give the subs what they crave, a connection, a hug, a flogging or more.  They want a "relationship" without strings... they can be a repeat customer.  ;)

I've heard it said, "if you enjoy what you do, you'll never have to work a day in your life." 

So why not??!!

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 10:50:17 AM   
boundinside


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Status: offline 		not negative attitude, opinionated

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 10:52:41 AM   
TheGaggingWh0re


Posts: 222
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Status: offline 		I have to actually give kudos to those who can swindle others into giving them money. If all I had to do was say, "Here is my website, give me money", I would not care what other people said if I made 10k a month!

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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 10:54:37 AM   
Lynnxz


Posts: 4813
Joined: 10/3/2006
From: Atlanta
Status: offline 		O, snap, I forgot.

It is a PAIN to put in your profile that you are a pro-anything. I used to have that I was a pro sub in my profile,  and it was yanked several times. Now, it is NOT against TOS to say you are a pro... I just don't think you are supposed to link your website or something. Financial domination is also a no-no.

After the 6th time my profile was jerked down, I sent a note off asking if the mods could check out my profile and approve it. They did, and I haven't had any problems (<3 mods). However, angry wankers who are pouty because they can't get a free piece of kinky ass, are probably your main cause of women hiding the fact that they are pros.


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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 11:52:09 AM   
MistressSybella


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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

i have stopped looking at profiles that are not from the forum.  chances are the ones not from the forum are pro's...so why bother?


Has anyone else noticed that faerygirl usually posts on a new thread 5-6 posts in and her words almost always comes out sounding like Eeyore's? LOL!

Miss 'Bella
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RE: Somebody please tell me - 6/22/2008 3:07:06 PM   
faerytattoodgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressSybella

quote:

ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

i have stopped looking at profiles that are not from the forum.  chances are the ones not from the forum are pro's...so why bother?


Has anyone else noticed that faerygirl usually posts on a new thread 5-6 posts in and her words almost always comes out sounding like Eeyore's? LOL!

Miss 'Bella
ServeMeWell



sometimes im lucky and i get the 1st reply!!!!


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