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mnottertail -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 5:11:58 PM)
Mayhaps I was a little too rude in my first post. Now, I do a poor imitation of LRODANDMASTER but; I think he might say something along the lines of ... IF YOU WANT TO FUCK AN ELEPHANT, GO TO WHERE THE ELEPHANTS FUCK. GET OFF THE GODDMAD INSTYCHAT, READ AND POST IF YOU GOT LETTERS LEARNED. ELEPHANTS DONT FUCK ON INSTYCHAT. then again, maybe not. so read some, post some, become more dimensional than the chatrooms. I see you call yourself new, and you got a year here and claim three, this don't bode well. Additionally, your first post to the boards was not thoughtful or enchanting in any way. I would think that nearly anybody here will tell you I am a rude bastard, belonging to the heap of fools. But every once in a while, I can float one. It seems to me that out of say 50 letters you got a 10% answer rate, if it is 100% ... still 5%. So what happened to the 5? Do you still correspond as friends from time to time even tho they were not fits, or what? As others are saying, maybe you re-assess your gameplan, your desires, your outlook and your methods. Fifty million Frenchmen can be wrong, but ever so often they ain't.......... Consider this as kind advice my friend, you will do well. Ron edited to add it occurs to me that in two hours of your FIRST POST you have twenty replies.............don't 'cha wish it would have been a charming one? LOL See? You got it in you brother!!!

Aileen68 -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 5:16:41 PM)
Some people walk through the pearly gates of collarme and expect this whole world of bdsm to somehow be different from real life...from their vanilla world. You still have to wade through a whole bunch of bull just like anywhere else. Accept that the end result is usually a direct result of your own actions, attitudes and choices and you'll find that the world suddenly opens up for you. It's what you make of it. If something doesn't work...then try something else. Try until you find what does work. If you want it bad enough you will.

KittenWithaTwist -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 5:24:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rubberservitude Oh really? Then how come every other profile starts like this.....? NO MEN. NO LOSERS AND WANNA-BES MEN ARE ONLY AFTER SEX and MEN are "this " and MEN are "that"? It really doesnt matter what you write in your introductory letter because the female dominant is going to decide in about 2 seconds if she thinks she can get what she wants out of you. Thats just the way it is. Most of the time its ignored anyway. Many profiles start with no men, because they aren't looking for men. I'm not looking for men. I've written three times on my profile that I'm not looking for men. Guess what? They still send me messages. I'm not a man-hater, I'm just not interested in finding a man for a LTR. What's wrong with that? As for losers and "wannabes", I'm not sure why anyone would look for either of those traits in a person of any sex. So there ya go. Lastly, the men are only after sex rule...Well..this is online. Most of the HNG (horny net geeks) have a penis. At least, that has been my experience. If someone says on their profile, "no men" and men send messages anyway, they're probably HNG's.

rubberservitude -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 5:37:45 PM)
It wouldn't be a bad thing if there were only a few profiles like that. That simply isn't the case. If you don't see that...that's fine. It's terribly obvious.

girl4you2 -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 5:57:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rubberservitude It wouldn't be a bad thing if there were only a few profiles like that. That simply isn't the case. If you don't see that...that's fine. It's terribly obvious. well, i just did a read of all the profiles of people who have responded to you here (you can do the math) and not one said NO MEN etc. so you came to a place where you coud have been batting way up there. go figure. slow down, reflect, and start again when ready with an open mind.

theRose4U -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 5:58:15 PM)
quote: It wouldn't be a bad thing if there were only a few profiles like that. That simply isn't the case. If you don't see that...that's fine. It's terribly obvious. (in Have to say that for someone with a new profile you have some rather strong opinions. Would be willing to bet that your negativity comes through in other writing. Have you even POSSIBLY considered that your tone and actions that MANY Dommes read might actually be making your odds WORSE by the minute?

Phoenxx -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 6:13:25 PM)
Over the years I have seen many very MANY people do the dramatic exit. And it doesn’t have to be from BDSM. Most times it seems to be a way to get attention. Could there be an underlying problem? Or just a drama queen exit. There are a lot of ads that say no men, no wannabees, no whatever. The fact is if someone isn’t interested they don’t have to be. All it takes is one or maybe two ;-) If your looking for someone also try seeing if there are any groups in your area. See if there are munches, fetish parties etc. But whinnying and saying I’m leaving really closes the door. Either you have to leave and not come back, or everyone thinks you’re a drama queen. LOL now if the OP posts… we know they haven’t left….. Tony

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 6:20:23 PM)
quote: I have to agree with the first poster. Seems like one big man hating club to me. How would people hating men here affect you since you look like such a pretty girl? You would do much better with someone like me if you actually presented self as a man, and not your kink... I don't mean to say that your kink is not okay, but if you're here to judge, shouldn't you first check yourself? M

ehlovindom -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 6:21:34 PM)
You mean I only have 1.5 years left to be here?

rubberservitude -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 6:22:27 PM)
quote: Have to say that for someone with a new profile you have some rather strong opinions. Would be willing to bet that your negativity comes through in other writing. Have you even POSSIBLY considered that your tone and actions that MANY Dommes read might actually be making your odds WORSE by the minute? Wow..the truth hurts for some I guess. I know I'm right. I'm not new to "the scene" either. Not to worry though..Just thought I'd like to let the original poster know he's not alone in his feelings. Demonize him all you want. As you were.

rubberservitude -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 6:25:40 PM)
quote: How would people hating men here affect you since you look like such a pretty girl? You would do much better with someone like me if you actually presented self as a man, and not your kink... I don't mean to say that your kink is not okay, but if you're here to judge, shouldn't you first check yourself? M Well gee...if you took the time to look at my profile youd see that I have a picture of myself "presented as my kink" as you say..and my daily appearance. But whatever. There IS a lot of man hating/bashing in peoples profiles here...If you can't see that..you can't read. Nothing personal to you. Even though you are getting personal with me.

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 6:28:09 PM)
You have a nice profile. You should have begun posting on the boards long ago, you'd have at least made some friends, and not have grown this bitter. I cannot say I've met my one servant/lover yet, but have met decent human beings here. Wish you well, M

onceburned -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 6:34:21 PM)
Rubberserveritude, since you enjoy housework and love serving as a maid, I think there are women here who would be pleased to make your acquaintance. Why don't you spend some time reading and posting in the other forums? Its a great way to get people to look at your profile! [:)] Although M has a point about leading with your fetish.... it does bother some potential partners. And they won't get around to looking at your other photo.

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 6:36:52 PM)
quote: Well gee...if you took the time to look at my profile youd see that I have a picture of myself "presented as my kink" as you say..and my daily appearance. But whatever. There IS a lot of man hating/bashing in peoples profiles here...If you can't see that..you can't read. Nothing personal to you. Of course it's personal... I understand there are a lot of frustrated people spewing out everything that has ever gone wrong in their lives in hopes of preserving selves from pain... In my opinion, if you read a profile that is 100% negative and hateful to you, you simply click next; Sorry but I cannot believe most people are homosexual women (who may or may not have use for men in their intimate relationships), and even if they were, that would not mean they hate men. I would dare say your perception may have something to do with what you're seeing?? A case of self fullfilling profecy? I personally love men, especially if they only dress as women when I order them for my amusement. Don't want to fight with you rubberservitude, but simply wanted you to consider the idea of attracting more bees with honey... M

Delvin -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 6:40:53 PM)
amazing, 34 posts to this as of this one... Well, if your viewing this, then I am guessing you got what you wanted.. D

mnottertail -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 6:47:24 PM)
Now I don't speak for BlkTallFullFig, but we are passable friends, she can defend her own positions quite well. But I have read her profile many many times, and unless SHE HAS FLIPPED THE FUCK OUT........ There is none of the .... No MEN NO MEN NO COCKS, in fact on this site we generally refer to them colloquially as lesbians whether they like the term or not. She actually gave you a nice compliment or two, made a general and I believe incisive comment about how you lead off... and its effect on the Dommes here as a whole. So then you procede to beat the shit outta her, tell her that she is taking things personally (which I can nearly guarentee that she is not) and generally chew her ass.. I am thinking this ain't gonna get you alotta girls in any genre, pal. Think about it, you got time. Mystified, Ron

rubberservitude -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 6:55:05 PM)
Hey Ron...Im not going to turn this conversation into an Egofest for you so..Ill be on my way now. Iv'e been driven out of Collar Me forums before. People here just don't want to listen to what people have to say, especially if they deem it so-called "negative". They get totally shat on.

stef -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 7:09:20 PM)
Back in the forums for one day and you're already playing the victim? The more things change... [sm=rolleyes.gif] ~stef

rubberservitude -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 7:11:14 PM)
quote: Stef: "The more things change..." Yup, I see you are still crapping on those who don't share your same viewpoints. Indeed, the more things change...dot dot dot. Not to worry Stef..I'm leaving.

OscarHargraves -> RE: Giving up (11/6/2005 7:24:48 PM)
Does the term 'sour grapes' mean anything to you? There are a lot of really nice and intelligent people on this site. I doubt that they will be too upset at the loss of someone who blames others for his own failings. Oh, and would you like some cheese with that 'whine'?

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