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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

This Question is primarily for the Single Crowd.

~~Does what you are looking for, what you refuse to settle without, what you require in order to commit, that picture perfect image in your head, Does it really even exist?~~

Now a Little back ground.

I was going through some one my C-Mails and I recieve a lot from people who choose not to comment on the thread but ask me questions on the otherside on what I have posted. I know that I can at times be an opinionated Ass but on the Trust thread I started awhile ago I got the most amount of other side replies than any other thread and I started going through all thier Profiles and checked to see where they are.

See most of the people who wrote me were dealing with the Mistrust or Distrust of the opposite sex or chosen partnership because of bad experineces and so they had come up in most cases this idea that before they got involved in another relationship that they were going to make sure thier next mate could live up to what in most cases I considered unrealistic expectations as they failed to account for the Human Factor that most people have faults.

The Main point I noticed with all the them is that what they wanted seemed to go against what they said that they enjoyed. They would say they wanted a Master who would respect them and love them and never treat them like dirt and yet want humiliation and degrading sex, or that they wanted a submissive with a mind and an opinion who follows all thier orders without question or complaint. Now I have gone back and checked all these profiles and although some of them have had some luck in finding a potential partner all were Long Distance or Not an actual relationship like they had been looking for. The rest were all still single and in some cases more Jaded than they were before.

I am in a relationship today and I am very happy. Is it the relationship I always saw myself as being in? Are you fucking kidding me? NOT EVEN CLOSE! but I am more happy today than I have ever been with a woman who loves me more than any other woman has (That I know of, I once had a stalker) and today I have also learned that what I wanted never would have made me happy.

I found that what I was looking for was just a way to keep people out no matter how much I said I wanted to be in a relationship my unrealistic expectations were always keeping me from getting in responsible relationships due to the reality that the only reason I had such expectations was to keep from getting hurt.

I subconciously yet intentionally passed up possibly wonderful relationships all because I was afraid to get hurt and rather than accepting a possiblity of happyness I stuck with a Guarantee of lonliness.

So what changed? I stopped saying no. I stopped passing girls by. Did I get Hurt OH HELL YEAH. But I never died and I learned a lot about myself and today I'm with a woman who at times DRIVES ME FUCKING INSANE, but I wouldn't want it to be anybody else but her.

Know what I mean?

So in case you forgot the question:

~~Does what you are looking for, what you refuse to settle without, what you require in order to commit, that picture perfect image in your head, Does it really even exist?~~

Steel

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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

no...the hot goth girl/sugar mommy/mistress  does not exist 

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~~Does what you are looking for, what you refuse to settle without, what you require in order to commit, that picture perfect image in your head, Does it really even exist?~~