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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 6/30/2008 10:03:21 PM   
SocialPerversion


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Hell no! *shiver* I am still paying my lawyer from my LAST attempt at a vanilla lifestyle!

**NOTE** Wow, the above line could be read totally wrong, and I can not edit it now so I just wanted to add "she got half" and hope that clears it up to a normal situation and not something really wierd...

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/1/2008 10:21:35 PM   
Sorcierelouest


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Status: offline 		I have made a conscious choice to explore a dorment part of me that has been aching to be set free since I came into existence.  I would rather be a true sub than a fake 'nilla wafer.

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/1/2008 10:35:06 PM   
SurrenderForMe


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Status: offline 		I can't go back, I was never there.  I am kinky.  Anyone in a relationship with me, is with a kinky person.  I don't turn it on or off, just up and down.

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/28/2008 10:48:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		...basic problem for this male sub is that most of the women i 'desire' to submit to tend to be vanilla-ish for whatever reason (though certainly not all), while it seems that most of the Dommes who wish to Domme me, i find the general chemistry lacking for a total relationship--- an on-going quandry it seems.  Never am satisfied with vanilla but also have trouble finding good overall relationship matches with La Gang Kinky----

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/28/2008 11:21:31 AM   
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I think in order to go "back" you have to have been somewhere. I've been strange my entire life. Most people assumed that I was adopted, since I was so far off kilter from the rest of my family. I've calmed down as I aged, but I doubt there will ever come a day when I could even remotely be classified as "vanilla"... I think the closest I've ever gotten is "Vanilla latte"... that lasted 13 years (not bad, actually), and he knew about my 'strange' side before we started... so it was no surprise to -anyone- when the strange took over again and I could no longer suppress well enough that he wasn't constantly miserable or worried about who would 'notice'. I still love him, though. He is a good man, and he did try hard to accept my strangeness -- I just couldn't -not- let it show... it popped out at the most awkward moments (like during verbal sparring matches with his First Sargent).

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/28/2008 11:23:56 AM   
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Could you ever go back to vanilla after experiencing what BDSM has to offer?

Yes I could. BDSM is only an icing on the cake of life for me, my life doesn't revolve around it and there are many other sweet icings I have that could fill the kink shoes.

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/28/2008 11:25:54 AM   
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Could you ever go back to vanilla after experiencing what BDSM has to offer?


For me the answer would be like asking, "Could you return to the womb?"



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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/28/2008 11:57:39 AM   
nwcutie102


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Status: offline 		yes, yet.... only if there was an awareness and at times, play. this would suit me as i do believe i am a "bedroom" submissive.

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/28/2008 7:55:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		I could, and have done it.  However, it's singularly amazing what the human mind can alter in terms of perception of experience.  In times of... erm... drought, if you will, my mind can turn a vanilla experience into a kinky one (at least in my head) by simply altering the way I perceive things.  Undressing your partner, giving a massage, stripping, even rough vanilla sex will all take on a different meaning depending on how you perceive them.

I certainly wouldn't wish to do without, but when all you can snatch at are crumbs, the crumbs are certainly better than starving.

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/29/2008 2:41:04 AM   
silkncarol


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Status: offline 		That's exactly how i feel too Nakedonmychain.....but when i reach a point when i really need the BDSM play, my mind will wonder down the friends list and see who i might bottom to.......it does get you through a drought. and meet a need until i find someone to do a D/s, kinky and BDSM relationship with.....

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/29/2008 3:02:17 AM   
julietsierra


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Status: offline 		I recently wondered that when someone contacted me on a vanilla site. So, I struck up a conversation. We only talked online and we only really talked for about an hour all told. And in that time, I knew.

Vanilla is one thing.

Someone else who can't decide his way out of a paper bag is quite the other. Someone whose idea of solving problems is "well, I usually just let it go since it's probably not that big anyway" is someone I would never want to be involved with.

And I was very grateful for the person who contacted me. I was able to say "no thank you" and recognize that I am very fully on the kinky side of the vanilla/kinky fence. I'd always wondered.

Now... if my Master were to suddenly decide he wanted a more vanilla relationship...well... he's my Master. And like always, I'd be doing what he says - but I'd sure miss this.

And yes, my Master knows I talk to people online - all sorts of people... including those who might have an interest in me. He knows that I know who I belong to. So it's not like having a conversation with someone is somehow a betrayal of my relationship - for those who will or may question why I was talking to this person in the first place.

It was an interesting experiement though.

juliet

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/29/2008 4:11:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		NO!!!!no , no , no. all my sexual life i dreamnt of a man doing what Master does to me. without asking without directions. (it always lost something in the translation). obedience without question. feeling of total belonging. luckily Master has told me i will be owned forever and dont ever have to face vanilla again.
if for some reason i were to be free i could not serve another either. i have given Him my heart my body and soul completely.
it would take longer than i have left to live to forget or get over this Man.

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/29/2008 4:39:09 AM   
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NO, I could not and have not gone vanilla. 

I have gotten old and jaded. I crossed the line somewhere and I can’t go back.  I lost a beautiful woman that had brought 2 wonder kids with her into my life and we were very much in love for 2 years.  She went vanilla… our relationship ended because I “have not the ability to love or use for a woman that is not a slave”.  I lost a family that I loved with all my heart to vanilla in Jan of 2007. 

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/29/2008 6:11:13 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		yes i can. i'm already vanilla with a spicy kick to my life.

that's how Daddy and i describe our BDSM style.  we function in both (nilla and kink) knowing one cannot survive without the other yet it doesn't mean we submerse ourselves in the kink 24/7.  for us it would be old and boring ...for others it wouldn't.

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/29/2008 9:23:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sometimes you dont really have an option. I've given up the lifestyle so far at least.
Its far more realistic to just let go of your illusions than to think it can happen.


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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/29/2008 10:13:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		You know I'd fuck a knothole everyday and love that ol pine board fence no matter how many splinters my pecker picked up along the way - even if it looked like an ol festered pork e pine.  But if there was a piece of dark walnut that had a pecker size knot in it..... eventually I'd have to fuck it to even if there was a pit bull on the other side of the fence. 

I'm sorry it's just the way I am.

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/29/2008 10:27:22 AM   
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Could you ever go back to vanilla after experiencing what BDSM has to offer? I have found vanilla sex singularly unsatisfying after all the kinky play I've enjoyed.  But I still enjoy the time I spend with someone I love and sexual and sensual play with her, even if not kinky time or actively doing a scene.  How about you?


Not "no" but HELL NO!  I will always be weird.  For my entire sexual life, it was only satisfying if there was some form of kink involved, i.e. public, being forced, breath play, etc.  Needless to say, much of the time I was not a happy camper.  Besides the kinky sex, I need a man who loves to be in control and be responsible.  I left an 11-year marriage due to the sheer frustration caused by his unwillingness/inability to dominate me not only in the bedroom but in everyday life as well, and I did it before I knew anything about the lifestyle.  Dating in the vanilla world after embracing kink turned out to be a lesson in disaster since men will say anything to get you in bed, but when you actually bring out your little bag of tricks, they totally freak out.  I've been told that I'm sick, twisted, a pervert and crazy.  I've also been told that nipple clamps aren't sexy, vibrators aren't needed when I have a boyfriend, and gentlemen don't hit ladies nor do ladies hit gentlemen.  I have since found where I belong, and I have no intention of leaving.

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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/29/2008 12:48:38 PM   
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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/29/2008 7:18:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think I've ever truly only done vanilla sex... in my mind at the very least I was always the dominant one.


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RE: Could you ever go back to vanilla... - 7/29/2008 7:19:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		I never could go back.

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