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RE: Attraction - 6/29/2008 10:23:12 AM

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Sorry to all for the image, just an ex got back in touch with me yesterday so that the image Ive had all day :P

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RE: Attraction - 6/29/2008 10:29:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: colouredin

Sorry to all for the image, just an ex got back in touch with me yesterday so that the image Ive had all day :P

eww

- no wonder he is your ex!

I have discovered my brain can make the "oddest" looking man look beautiful, if he is there for me in other ways.

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RE: Attraction - 6/29/2008 10:44:47 AM

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Before I met my ex my criteria was 6'2", blue eyes, thick wavy blondish hair, average build, with a wicked laugh and deep voice. Those were my standards and I kept them for years.
I met my ex because I run a munch group. He contacted me online to get information and we developed an online friendship for months before we met. I had no clue what he looked like. Our relationship was strictly friends. We were slightly playful, non sexual, though we did discuss our views on life, education, and personal taste. We met once for dinner as friends and then it became occasional lunches, or shared shopping trips. We were buddies because we had a lot in common. We even ordered the same food, down to the side dishes and choice of drinks. He was not my standard. He was 5'8". His hair sucked! It was all there but very thin, straight and short. He had a bit more belly than other men I have dated, but still looked good. His voice was average and his laugh.. well.. it is sort of half done. But, he could control me. He could stop me in my tracks. He could reign me in, calm me, mesmerize me with his words and entice me to do what ever he requested.
Dominance takes more than looks. I was not attracted to him when we met. But I learned to love his looks. Even now years after our end, I tend to seek out men who look like him. *sigh*. He is still sexy.
Kyst

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RE: Attraction - 6/29/2008 11:03:45 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Before I met my ex my criteria was 6'2", blue eyes, thick wavy blondish hair, average build, with a wicked laugh and deep voice. Those were my standards and I kept them for years.
I met my ex because I run a munch group. He contacted me online to get information and we developed an online friendship for months before we met. I had no clue what he looked like. Our relationship was strictly friends. We were slightly playful, non sexual, though we did discuss our views on life, education, and personal taste. We met once for dinner as friends and then it became occasional lunches, or shared shopping trips. We were buddies because we had a lot in common. We even ordered the same food, down to the side dishes and choice of drinks. He was not my standard. He was 5'8". His hair sucked! It was all there but very thin, straight and short. He had a bit more belly than other men I have dated, but still looked good. His voice was average and his laugh.. well.. it is sort of half done. But, he could control me. He could stop me in my tracks. He could reign me in, calm me, mesmerize me with his words and entice me to do what ever he requested.
Dominance takes more than looks. I was not attracted to him when we met. But I learned to love his looks. Even now years after our end, I tend to seek out men who look like him. *sigh*. He is still sexy.
Kyst

THATS what i'm talking about!!

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RE: Attraction - 6/29/2008 12:25:05 PM

SkinnyDip

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ORIGINAL: colouredin
<SNIP>... smells vaguely of cheese...

Okay cheese is pretty much my favorite food so if a cock smelled like fresh parmesean, I'm ashamed to admit that I might not be too repulsed, however, on a serious note...scent is a HUGE thing for me. If someone is wearing the wrong cologne or doesn't smell fresh then it's a deal breaker. I think scent is actually bigger for me than what someone looks like.

Oddly enough, I remember people by what they smelled like. My favorite to date has been fresh laundry and limes.*swoon* I really enjoyed that blowjob, I think I enjoyed it more than he did.

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RE: Attraction - 6/29/2008 12:54:57 PM

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I need physical attraction to be romantically/sexually involved with someone. BUT, and this is the big but, as I get to know someone, they will become more or less physically attractive to me based on their attitude, intelligence, personality, etc. There was one girl I was very close friends with years ago who I had no real physical attraction to initially (she was pretty and had no trouble finding men, just not my "type"). As we became better friends, she became much more attractive to me. I've also met stereotypically hot girls who turned me off within minutes because they were egotistical or so dumb I couldn't stand to hear their lips flap.

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RE: Attraction - 6/29/2008 2:41:35 PM

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You tell us. Are you one of these people where chemistry grows as you like someone or is it either there or not? Because only you know how you work. Stuff that I find offensive I can't get over. I can like a guy with a shaved head but I won't ever have any chemistry or sexual attraction.

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RE: Attraction - 6/29/2008 2:47:05 PM

Firebirdseeking

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One of the most wonderful experiences is to have a close friend, someone I like and admire, and to one day realize that this is a beautiful man, and now I love and am attracted to a man I once thought of as "just a friend".

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RE: Attraction - 6/29/2008 3:08:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: barbiegirl1974

How important is physical attraction when it comes to you and your Master? I am in the process of being trained by the most thoughtful, strict and experienced Master I have ever met. I feel so lucky that this man wants to accept every part of who I am, faults and all. Yet, there are a few things about him physically that I am not attracted too.... Can one move beyond this?

Your post reminded me of story i read in a biography. In general, the story went something like this:

John met his friend Dave's finace, Ann. Dave was an attractive man and John thought Ann was very very plain. In fact John wondered why Dave had chosen Ann to be his future bride. John felt that Dave could have found a much more attractive woman. After getting to know Ann over time John finally realized that he now considered Ann to be one of the most attractive women he knew. In other words, her wonderful personality made her beautiful.

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RE: Attraction - 6/29/2008 3:13:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lumus

Ask Rain. I'm butt-ugly.

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We've seen your picture, you lie, obviously.
Yes, physical attraction is important to me. There's no certain "look" I go for, though, presence can override appearance.

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RE: Attraction - 6/29/2008 3:18:28 PM

Missokyst

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LMAO!!!!

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ORIGINAL: SkinnyDip

Okay cheese is pretty much my favorite food so if a cock smelled like fresh parmesean, I'm ashamed to admit that I might not be too repulsed,

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RE: Attraction - 6/29/2008 8:00:23 PM

lostgirl83

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I suppose it all depends on what type of relationship you are looking for... For me to be totally devoted to a person I have to have the whole package lol. I *eventually* want to settle down, and Ive already decided that I could never spend my life with someone who leads a vanilla lifestyle, therefore anyone I date has to be dominant, open minded, and physically and mentally attractive to me.
I have in the past just for the experience submitted to someone I wasn't particularly attracted to just because I knew I could trust the person, and that he could give me the experience that I desperately sought in a safe environment. I was perfectly capable of submitting to him sexually, but he never had me 100%

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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 5:59:07 AM

LadyRainfire

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lumus

Ask Rain. I'm butt-ugly.

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Ya, right..... *drools*

Not even close, Daddy, you're the sexiest, most attractive man on the planet for me.

nom, nom, nom, nom, nom, nom, nom, nom, nom....

OP, attraction is more than physical but it also depends on what the dynamic is with your Master. For me, all of my long-term D/s relationships started out as strictly friends and moved from there. They were men first who I came to be attracted to as I got to know them. With Lumus, the more I know him, the more I find him attractive beyond words. It's in so much of who he is and what he does. I'm blessed really to be able to live with him. I know that's not something everyone has. Look at the positives and see what you do like rather than focusing on something that might not be what you were expecting. Expectations can be tricky things, especially when you find someone who is not what you were expecting.

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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 8:15:45 AM

EponasChylde

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Eh, yes, and no.

I'm attracted to a type of guy that many don't consider 'attractive' but yes, it's important that a guy be my type. For example, I like husky/chubby guys and if a guy is too small, I'm not turned on at *all*.

Mostly thought, it's on a continuum, like the 1-10 scale. I'd love to have an 8-10, but if I meet a 5-7 who's got everything else I'm looking for, the physical appearance is not a big deal. I will become more attracted to him based on his skills in the bedroom and his personality. But if he's a 1-4, nah, I'm going to turn him down.

For example, in relation to body type, I prefer a man 5ft10-6ft1, and around 250-260lbs or so. I'm not going to turn down a guy who's 200lbs or a guy who's 300lbs. However if he's 125lbs or 400lbs, yah that's a little too far off my mark for me to take seriously.

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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 9:20:13 AM

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My favorite to date has been fresh laundry and limes.*swoon* I really enjoyed that blowjob, I think I enjoyed it more than he did.

I'm SO with you there! There's something about the smell (and taste) of fresh laundry that gets the juices flowing...if you catch my drift...

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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 9:47:07 AM

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Looks are not that important to me (if you saw my old nillia bf;s you would know that). Before i ever met Master or saw a picture of him i was very very attracted. Just his personallity. He was confidant had a great voice and we shared the same sense of humor. Even if he looked like a trolll i would have liked him. He is not troll like at all however he is a very handsome man. I got it all personallity and looks and dominance. What more could a girl ask for?

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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 10:09:07 AM

MissIsis

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You know. I used to think I was being shallow if I based wanting a relationship or not, on looks. I got involved with men whom I felt no physical attraction. That was then.

You know what I found out. I found out, I wasn't being shallow at all, & should have listened to that wee little voice in the back of my mind. The relationships didn't work out. In fact, I was sorry I was ever involved with them in the first place.

And now...... well, lets just say, I have decided if I am not attracted to someone then I will not become involved with them, unless, their other attributes far outweigh the looks part. I have decided that I can have it all. I can become involved with someone who is attractive to me, & has all the wonderful other qualities that I find desireable in a man. Why shouldn't I have it all? Why shouldn't we all, have it all?

I like a man with a little meat on him, but I certainly don't want to have to wade through globs of fat to find the place where he spits his brains out of, either.

Now, my idea of attractive isn't necessarily someone who looks like a Greek god either. It is usually something in his eyes. Sometimes it is big strong arms. But, I really hate it when I start to get to know someone & I think I have a general idea of what they look like by a picture, but when I meet him, he is much bigger than what his picture showed, & he is much older than what his picture shows. It is disappointing. I'll do the first real time meeting over coffee or dinner, but after that, I am pretty much done. In my eyes, it is equivalent to lying, & I generally don't want to have to deal with the drama associated with people who lie. They always have a way of bringing drama with them.

I don't expect a perfect appearance, but I do expect attraction & that he was honest about what he looks like. And I definitely want to know that he is supporting himself & anyone else he might be responsible for. I refuse to support grown men.

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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 11:53:18 AM

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if i had been hung up on looks, i NEVER would be sitting here with a brand new diamond ring on my left ring finger.

TheEngineer knows he isnt an adonis. but OH is he smart! and funny! and dominant! and dear gods hairy. furry even! *giggling*

but the sexiness comes from within. and so does the love.

kitten

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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 12:34:16 PM

MissIsis

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I've had 3 diamond rings with men who's looks I overlooked. Though things were great at the start, none of those diamonds were worth putting up with those men.

Diamonds are a bit overrated. There are much more important things, like waking up next to someone who you can live peaceably with.

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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 12:35:48 PM

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Diamonds are a bit overrated.

You're joking, right :-) ?

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