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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 12:49:56 PM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: MetalCouple

barbie, if you can't respect him, move on. Attraction is part of it, sorry. How can you serve someone that you think is unattractive, etc. I understand its Iowa and that these slaves should be happy they aren't being forced to do livestock, but goodness, I am sure there are strong sexy men you can respect.


What part of the OP said anything about respect? I will ignore the slur on Iowa and it's livestock. Trust me, there are many 4 legged creatures much prettier than the 2 legged human ones.


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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 12:52:37 PM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: kittinSol

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ORIGINAL: MissIsis

Diamonds are a bit overrated. 



You're joking, right :-) ?


Keep the rocks........ditch the men. Problem solved!


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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 12:54:21 PM   
MissIsis


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Status: offline 		yes, I am kind of joking.  But, I prefer to purchase my own diamonds.  It is a much lower price when one purchases their own. :)

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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 1:02:31 PM   
TwoNYCDommes


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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel
I'd ask you to look at what you wrote - that he is an amazing man who has accepted you, faults and all.  Yet you are having difficulty in accepting him, because of superficial things.

Now I understand completely about physical attraction.  I need to be physically attracted to someone to be in a relationship with them. 


I find physical attraction to be necessary for my sexual relationships, but not necessarily for my D/s relationships.  Of course, some relationships are both.

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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 1:53:24 PM   
candystripper


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ORIGINAL: barbiegirl1974

How important is physical attraction when it comes to you and your Master?  I am in the process of being trained by the most thoughtful, strict and experienced Master I have ever met.  I feel so lucky that this man wants to accept every part of who I am, faults and all.  Yet, there are a few things about him physically that I am not attracted too....  Can one move beyond this? 


Maybe -- maybe not.
 
The fact is, I need to feel sexually attracted to my Dom, and while sexual attraction is a mix of many things, there remains the fact that there are terrific men I just don't find attractive.
 
Only you can answer whether more time will give you an opportunity to feel something you don't feel today.  IMO, chances are against it, and it's best to be honest with him now.
 
Not everyone feels attracted to everyone else.  Not even movie stars are everyone's cup of tea.
 
Sexual attraction is a non-negotiable item for me; I'd need to feel both desire and desired before I could accept a collar. 
 
candystripper

< Message edited by candystripper -- 6/30/2008 1:54:48 PM >

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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 5:16:25 PM   
NeedingMore220


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ORIGINAL: colouredin

Sorry to all for the image, just an ex got back in touch with me yesterday so that the image Ive had all day :P


oh, my ... You poor thing you!  Glad he's an ex ...

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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 6:06:33 PM   
pixidustpet


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ORIGINAL: MissIsis

I've had 3 diamond rings with men who's looks I overlooked.  Though things were great at the start, none of those diamonds were worth putting up with those men. 

Diamonds are a bit overrated.  There are much more important things, like waking up next to someone who you can live peaceably with.



i wouldnt say i "put up with" him, not at all.  he makes me happy, and we've years of friendship and caring about one another to build on in startin the live-in part of the relationship.  so that gives me hope.

and yes waking up with someone that you *want* to spend your life with, and can agree with, is a very special thing indeed.

kitten

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RE: Attraction - 6/30/2008 6:22:19 PM   
silkncarol


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Status: offline 		I believe physical attraction is important, but i've found over time so much more attracts me to a person other than their outward appearance....their confidence, kindness and sense of humor are major draws to me.  After awhile they change before your eyes and become the person your heart sees.....after all, love is blind and beauty is in the eye of the beholder....more than mere cliches

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RE: Attraction - 7/1/2008 2:24:32 PM   
Daes


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Status: offline 		Initially, trivial things, such as appearances - become a concern. But you can move past it with a little time. When you learn to love someone as they are, you don't care about the things that don't compare to the greater picture, you start noticing their qualities over their faults and cherish them for it. Or you just stop caring or simply stop noticing any of the things that may have bothered you before.

I can admit (reluctantly) that I was a little put off by how much older Sir was than me when we first met in person - but during our time together I started noticing things I found attractive and sexy XD I've always cared for him deeply and that wasn't an issue - when we saw each other the second time I was more madly in love with him than I ever have been. I love him as the man He is and I don't ever want him to let me go.

Everyone has standards if its really an issue, but most of the time we look past those things and forget them, then we find the things that Truly matter.

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RE: Attraction - 7/1/2008 2:42:55 PM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		For me attraction was very important. I was attracted to him physically before we were in any sort of relationship and the more I knew about him the more attracted I was to him.

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RE: Attraction - 7/1/2008 4:23:13 PM   
whenstarscollide


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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Physical attraction is a must for me and the first filter. If I like how they look then I move on to other factors such as intelligence, personality, kink, etc. to see if we gel.



i'll second that opinion.

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RE: Attraction - 7/1/2008 5:12:49 PM   
angelslave77


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Status: offline 		physical attraction is vital, does it matter whether it is instant or grows over time....No i dont think so....

As long as it is there,  if it isnt forthcoming and isnt likely to then at some point it will become an insurmountable obstacle.

Nor does physical attraction mean being attracted to "physical perfection" the two are very different and i believe being attracted only to physical perfection is a mite shallow

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RE: Attraction - 7/1/2008 6:40:14 PM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		of course you can move beyond it.  want to know how?  the more you spend time with them, the more you're attracted to them, the more those flaws tend to fade away and the more they become the perfect picture in your eyes.

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RE: Attraction - 7/2/2008 8:49:50 AM   
littlewolfe


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Status: offline 		this one looks what inside and not what is on the outside   the inside should make it easy to overcome the outside   repectfully littlewolfe

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RE: Attraction - 7/3/2008 12:25:52 AM   
summersprite


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ORIGINAL: myotherself

From a personal perspective, I need to find a man attractive if I want to have any kind of emotional relationship with him, whether vanilla or D/s.  I take my time to find someone who I find physically, emotionally and mentally attractive.   He doesn't need to be a muscled Norse god, there just needs to be something about him that makes me think 'wow'.  I'm not perfect either, and I'm not looking for perfect.  But that 'wow' needs to be there, and so far I've managed to find it.










Oh..... ditto

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RE: Attraction - 7/3/2008 1:16:25 AM   
lally3


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Status: offline 		if youre attracted to a persons personality on line and on the phone, which is basically all youve got, cos some people are photogenic and some arent, the physical side, for me anyway becomes 'almost' irrelevant - i say almost, because there have been a couple who i just could not have gone there with atall.  but usually that was because in real life they just didnt come across as sexy to me.  but sexy is a personal thing and has an awful lot to do with a persons confidence, aura and attitudes.

there have been a couple of guys who approached and one look at the photo told me it wouldnt work, not because they were horrendous to look at, cos really, i dont think there are that many people who are that hideous, i just wasnt attracted to the way they cut their hair, the clothes they wore or the persona that came through.

as for cheesy cocks - yuk, give me a circumcised guy every single time! - i was with a guy for 8 years who was totally drop dead georgeous but his willie just wasnt suckable.... show me their willie and ill be able to make an immediate decision right there! (kidding!)

< Message edited by lally3 -- 7/3/2008 1:18:05 AM >

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RE: Attraction - 7/3/2008 8:40:02 AM   
SilentTigresss


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Status: offline 		Hmm, i am a little surprised reading some of these replies. Sometimes it is worth it to look inside of someone, or even let yourself challenge their intelligence..you may like what you find. i remember getting an email from a man who immediately touched me with a picture he sent with the email. i looked up his profile and really wasn't too attracted to him. But, i said to myself not to let that stop me from getting to know this man. Because i didn't take him at "face value" i  was opened up to many different views, opinions, and discovery......of myself, and about life. i guess my attraction was his mind first.. and my heart then followed....
A past experience for ya.

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