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RE: Are Women in D/s Harder on Each Other Than Vanilla ... - 7/4/2008 3:54:54 PM

came4U

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This might be an entire new thread topic ladies..

I don't see Domme women as any more or less dominant acting (here). Maybe because I refuse to acknowledge it?? or I didn't notice? OR I refused to allow it therefore my lack of acknowledgement or notice??

I have spend time in the military..my mother and father were Air Force, I was Army/Navy...maybe 'here' an (internet) woman/Domme didn't quite come across as such because I have ACTUAL ideals of what one should be. Not to mention, unless the words mean something...and I respect them, no man or woman can 'dominante' my opinion here.

It would take me a long time to admire a person or situational activity on here.

I don't get the previous two posts as to how they even apply???

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RE: Are Women in D/s Harder on Each Other Than Vanilla ... - 7/5/2008 3:17:36 PM

seababy

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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But I wouldn't support you going through bouts of drunkeness. It would not be within my wellbeing to do so

i thank God my friends were not selfish

I don't think it's selfish to remove yourself from the sphere of dysfunctional people, especially those with addiction issues. If it is selfish, perhaps only in a self-serving way, and one that is to your benefit. Who needs friends that drag them down when they can enjoy upbeat, positive people in their life?

I agree
I don't think its being selfish.
I think its healthy and loving sometimes to walk away saying "Nope, I wont be your enabler".
Especially if you make it clear that is the reason you are walking away.
Then there is always the histrionic personality types.
While making a stand and refusing to enable their self destructive behaviour wont help histrionics wake up and make changes, it will disable them from using you as their emotional punching bag.
Of course I am referring to people who have serious addictions or are toxic, not a friend who is going through a short term rough patch.
Back to the OP. I'm sure there are personality types that you have described in the community but I believe what we focus on we attract. I think it comes self-perpetuating if we expect to see that behaviour it can blind us to the many positive, welcoming (and sane) people here. If we think the world is full of asshats, we wont be disapointed, that's what we will see. Online or off.

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RE: Are Women in D/s Harder on Each Other Than Vanilla ... - 7/5/2008 7:11:43 PM

Zechriel

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Good evening darling!
I have panic attacks so I cannot get out and socialize the way Daddy does..or should I say used to. So all my contact has been with friends online and phone. Not even going into vanilla relationships-in which females have always left a sour taste in my mouth (due to ruthless and painful childhood school experiences) I find an interesting dilemma from other subs/slaves within my contact range.
I was in a yahoo group but left it at Daddy's insistence. A support group but all the subs did was attack each other and subconsciously put them selves on the "Submissive ladder"-you know? The higher up, the more extreme, the better the sub. And I always felt at the bottom of the barrel for being new AND now being Daddy's lil girl. I got so confused on how to act and what to say-that Daddy said ENOUGH!!! Just listen to what I tell you!
But yet here, I have found much love and true support from both subs and Doms and Dominas. I often wonder how is that possible?? We are all still in the lifestyle but yet here the cattiness and heirarchy does not exist. So for me, I have found it exists everywhere and in every situation. There will always be a little bad with good, and maybe that makes the good stand out. Daddy has let me stay on CM since it is not like the yahoo group so even he can see the difference. hmmmm.

Maybe if I ever get over the attacks I can meet people face to face. I would love to interact with others IRL ::sighs:: good luck!

Love,
Zechriel
-Daddy's baby girl

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RE: Are Women in D/s Harder on Each Other Than Vanilla ... - 7/7/2008 6:45:29 AM

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Any one that I call my friend respects me for who I am. It's not a competition. End of story.

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