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RE: yes or no - 7/7/2008 6:39:12 AM   
Owner4SexSlave


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Status: offline 		What kind of fight are you talking about here?  Video Games?  Something important? Wrestling Match?  Heated Debate?

Geeessh, It all depends upon what kind of fight here.

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RE: yes or no - 7/7/2008 3:03:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

On the plus side, if you honor agreements and don't play games-there is seldom a reason for strife. I would have to wonder about a person who played double standards with thier word-since that would make it useless.


I've not read any more of the responses past this one.    It says it all in my book. 

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RE: yes or no - 7/7/2008 3:22:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		I rarely win at all. I'm kind of a ditz though & Daddy's smart so he always wins. I know my place however & will drop something if Daddy tells me too.


< Message edited by coupleowl -- 7/7/2008 3:23:52 PM >

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RE: yes or no - 7/7/2008 3:22:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ConcisenessM

Would You let your girl win the occasional fight or not???


in the 9 years we have been together we have never fought.  We exchage ideas concepts but fight??? Neither of us are wired that way.

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RE: yes or no - 7/7/2008 5:51:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ConcisenessM

Would You let your girl win the occasional fight or not???


They get what they earn no more no less.....

Of course... I do decide when they have earned it...  and it is never given away

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RE: yes or no - 7/7/2008 7:02:39 PM   
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50/50 chance , I guess. Depends on my mood...and hers.



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RE: yes or no - 7/7/2008 7:11:18 PM   
Thadius


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I refuse the premise of the question.  I don't fight with my girl, nor she with me.  We may have a disagreement or discussion about a certain topic, and if her reasoning is sound I might change my mind.

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RE: yes or no - 7/7/2008 7:36:17 PM   
MansStrength


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Status: offline 		I think its important to acknowledge if someone is right. Their being right and I wrong is meaningless to our relationship. How compromised will you be if you are wrong and have a -need- to be right for needs sake!! How needy is that. She usually jumps and makes a point and enjoys herself immensily when she get one on me.
I enjoy it with her.
Dont' be afaraid of being wrong. ya might learn something. My bitch is a doc. How the fuck am I going to be right all the time? There's nothing more compelling than a Dom who is so confidant that he doesn't give a shit either way. It's your confidance in yourself -strengths, weaknesses, hopes and failure that makes the measure of the man.  At the end of the day-he still rules-without being a fool.  

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RE: yes or no - 7/7/2008 7:37:48 PM   
coupleowl


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Status: offline 		Well if my sub's logic out wits mine, I suppose yes...

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RE: yes or no - 7/9/2008 8:58:54 AM   
denika


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Status: offline 		What kind of fight do you mean?

Generally if it's physical he wins out of sheer strength and agility but there have been times I've caught him off guard and we called a halt, lol He was intentionally aggrivating me and I swung, he thought I was going to just smack him with an open hand but instead I closed my fist, oops ;) I cought him in the throat. He wasn't mad, I was more mortified but it was all taken in context of the moment.

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RE: yes or no - 7/9/2008 9:41:23 AM   
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RE: yes or no - 7/9/2008 7:25:37 PM   
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Whenever you play tug-o-war with a puppy, you are supposed to let it win.  It builds their self-confidence. 

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RE: yes or no - 7/9/2008 8:21:30 PM   
LadyPact


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I don't have a girl, but I do have a sub. 

There are absolutely times that clip is right about something and I might be wrong.  There aren't arguements.  Just times he lets Me know better information.


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RE: yes or no - 7/9/2008 8:37:45 PM   
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RE: yes or no - 7/10/2008 4:33:01 AM   
Anoush


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Status: offline 		If I were having even "the occasional fight" with my girl, she wouldn't be my girl for very long.  And, "let" win??  C'mon, if you can't be honest, what sort of relationship do you have, anyway.

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RE: yes or no - 7/10/2008 5:40:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

We both win when we're not battling against each other, but rather for each other.  It's really not about winning a fight with us, it's about getting things right between us.


 thats agreat way to put it.......

though this post could be seen as a physical fight...and Master would if we did fight always win those....
This Master and slave couple do not fight....we communicate, always and over time we have learned to be atuned to each others moods and emtional states.....
Fighting would intail that there is lake of communication and that would not pertain to us....plus if Master where to let his slave "win" it would be cheating and that would undermind all of our rules and higly valued communication......

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RE: yes or no - 7/10/2008 5:42:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
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Whenever you play tug-o-war with a puppy, you are supposed to let it win.  It builds their self-confidence. 


**whipsers** it can also build agressiona and the need for dominance....

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RE: yes or no - 7/10/2008 2:22:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ConcisenessM

Would You let your girl win the occasional fight or not???


Heh, my rule of relationships is "You cannot win a fight with your partner, you can only lose and lose worse"

I'm not even sure what it means to "win" a fight?  In our marriage, there are no "fights", there are disagreements which must be resolved to the mutual satisfaction of both parties or else they will build up and eventually torpedo us.  When I became the Master, I didn't suddently accrue the right to be right all the time or to get my way all the time.  I got the right to be the one responsible for ensuring that goodness happens.  "Goodness", in all cases, can be defined as that outcome which is most likely to make us collectively happy in the long-term. 

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RE: yes or no - 7/10/2008 2:27:22 PM   
servantforuse


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Status: offline 		I'm not a big Dr.Phil fan but he did ask this question to a husband on one of his shows..Would you rather be right or be happy????

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RE: yes or no - 7/10/2008 2:35:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ConcisenessM

Would You let your girl win the occasional fight or not???


I don't stay in a relationship with anyone who with there are fights.  If we can't disagree or debate while maintaining respectful and reasonable interaction, I don't bother continuing things.

Now, if what you mean is if I'd acknowledge a sub being right in a disagreement, then yes of course... same as with anyone.  If I mistake a word or where something goes or how something is best done, it's a simple "Oh, you were right, thanks!" or such.

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