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naked pic requirement - 7/6/2008 10:59:51 PM   
controlme54


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Status: offline 		can you envision a situation where it is appropriate to require naked pics of a sub within the first 4 days of a relationship?  is there any validity in assuming that a sub who can't or won't comply to such a request is "not serious"?  please assume in your answer that the relationship seemed otherwise very promising.  and PLEASE, no flames.  this feels bad enough already.  i am looking for sincere feedback.   
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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/6/2008 11:04:07 PM   
Leatherist


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Status: offline 		Sure, when the other party has no class or patience.

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/6/2008 11:05:26 PM   
leakylee


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Status: offline 		well He said it much nicer and simpler than i was gonna..

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/6/2008 11:10:11 PM   
hlen5


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Status: offline 		Controlme54,

Is there a reason your profile isn't to be found?

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/6/2008 11:12:30 PM   
controlme54


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Status: offline 		i have currently hid my profile because I FUCKING GIVE UP.  however, i will unhide it momentarily. 

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 12:58:07 AM   
califsue


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Status: offline 		I looked at your profile and it seems very upfront about your desires and what you are looking for. One month on a site is really not that long. If you search the boards you will find lots of people who have been looking longer and you are married which will certainly limit your available choices.  Bottom line is if the request for you was unreasonable than it was unreasonable and don't let Dom wannabe's force you to do anything that you feel uncomfortable with or make you feel that you are NOT a real submissive if you won't get down on your knees or do whatever they command in a short period time. I would encourage you to read the boards especially the Ask a Master and Ask a Submissive/Slave. Best of luck on your journey. 

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 1:10:05 AM   
Tannie


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Status: offline 		I just send a photo of Tubgirl when someone asks for naked photos.

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 1:11:43 AM   
HeavansKeeper


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Status: offline 		Paradox:

All* women want the perfect man.
Sleeping around makes the perfect man imperfect.

Since all the lovely ladies are after the same four men (world wide), these stallions have the pick of the litter.  They may only choose one, though, as taking more kicks them out of the Fantastic Four.

The other 2,999,999,996 men just want to get laid.  Yes, we're capable of love, but in the end we want fun, beer, sex, colours that move, meat, and/or wet t-shirt contests.  Some of these things overlap. (also, secretly, we want cuddles).

Of these ~3 billion, all* REALLY just want sex. 

Your distaste for gambling and blatant interest in instant-chemistry leads me to believe (here meaning "judge you with extremely limited knowledge") that you quickly toss over a "6" that could grow into a "10" looking for that "9".  Here we're using the 10 point scale for overall happiness.

One thing that was a deal breaker for us... "i am married and will require discretion"
 
Coupled with... "i would expect you to be free of diseases and to be wiling to use safe sexual practices."

Without the addition of "I keep my husband informed as to all my practices with any dom I'm with."...

It sounds like you're looking for someone to cheat on your husband with.  Any man who's trusting, and lovable, and intimate, and huggable, and dominant, and fortuna, and virtu, should see this and say "No thank you, M'lady.  Perhaps just a brief lunch."




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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 1:28:00 AM   
simpleplan2


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Status: offline 		Well said. 

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 2:21:39 AM   
Focus50


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Status: offline 		I'd sincerely suggest you wrote the correct answer of his future prospects, yourself.

quote:

controlme54:
this feels bad enough already.   

Your gut is telling you he's not so promising afterall - yorta listen....  And probably the best starting point for taking naked pics is when you trust someone enough for them to take their own of you. 
 
Focus.

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 3:05:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Tannie

I just send a photo of Tubgirl when someone asks for naked photos.


*bursts out laughing*
 
OP: I suppose there might be some valid reason, but I can't currently think of one. Hmm. Okay, if the submissive agreed to model for the dominant, that'd be a reason..... but just as a getting-to-know-you? Nope.
 


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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 3:16:24 AM   
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quote:

but just as a getting-to-know-you? Nope. 
  
note to self:no nekkies on the first email....got it....NOW he tells me!

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 3:18:56 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp

quote:

but just as a getting-to-know-you? Nope. 
  
note to self:no nekkies on the first email....got it....NOW he tells me!


Now, now, don't be hasty..... being told to do it, no good. Offering to do it.....

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 3:24:36 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		controlme54, your post sounds like you have determined that this has the potential to be The Real Thing.  After only four days..

Anyhow, I will accept your conditions and play nice.

1. can you envision a situation where it is appropriate to require naked pics of a sub within the first 4 days of a relationship?  Of course.  It could be done as a test for how submissive or infatuated she is.

2. is there any validity in assuming that a sub who can't or won't comply to such a request is "not serious"?   None whatsoever.  your refusal to do so simply indicates that in your mind he has not earned this right.

controlme54, he's a wanker, not a real Dom.  The request WAS a little premature, as you indicate.  The fact that he's willing to potentially risk the relationship itself over naked pictures shows his true colors.

Kick him to the curb. 

Then read HeavensKeeper's post and reflect on what you REALLY want and how many men would be available to fulfill that.


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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 4:02:42 AM   
CelticPrince


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quote:

can you envision a situation where it is appropriate to require naked pics of a sub within the first 4 days of a relationship? is there any validity in assuming that a sub who can't or won't comply to such a request is "not serious"? please assume in your answer that the relationship seemed otherwise very promising. and PLEASE, no flames. this feels bad enough already. i am looking for sincere feedback.


contro;me,

This is sincere and to the point! You have come upon a wanna be! he is no relationship builder so save yourself some time.

CP

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 5:08:11 AM   
katie978


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Status: offline 		   The naked pic requirement depends on what type of relationship you're looking for. If you're interested in a little  fooling around, the naked pic does make sense. There are some indicators in your profile that suggest that might be what you're looking for.
  However, there are some indicators that you want more psychological relationship, where the dom and you have a deep relationship. In this case, I would say that the naked picture request is a quick and easy way for the wankers who largely dwell here to expose themselves.
  To screen out the trolls, I was upfront about my unwillingness to provide wank fodder.
  So, I guess you need to decide if you're willing to provide it. If wank fodder is all that you're looking for, than perhaps you should.


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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 5:23:32 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		First of all, if you haven't even met in person, it's hardly a Relationship... secondly, i can imagine that a Service Dominant who is always going to be in competition with your husband for your time, your love, your loyalty, will want to get something out of the deal and a hot body to play with seems like a reasonable trade, in my opinion.  You have a laundry list of what is acceptable to you, it's only fair the potential Drone have his own criteria.

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 5:27:41 AM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		Once you hit send, that pic is out of your control forever.

I don't ask for pics, and female friends send them to me anyway.  (Not complaining!)  But they know know know they are safe with me.

Do you know you are safe with him?


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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 6:43:03 AM   
SirMIkeSD


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Status: offline 		If I need to see another picture I always ask the guy for g-rated, sometimes a naked one arrives but I never ask for one.

Mike

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RE: naked pic requirement - 7/7/2008 7:08:38 AM   
MisterP61


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Status: offline 		Sure its appropriate.... if One is rude and crude.  I get them unsolicited sometimes and have to tell them that unless I asked for it you do not send it.  So no I do not think its appropriate.  Dynamics take a very long time to work out..... four days is not that length of time.

Yours in Kink,

MrP


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