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RE: What if CM doesn't work??? - 11/11/2005 7:31:08 AM

KatyLied

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Well, 6 weeks later we had achieved couple status, and now we are talking contracts and collars

Great news.

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RE: What if CM doesn't work??? - 11/11/2005 7:50:40 AM

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if people had just been honest

Lil,
You mean people on CM aren't honest?????? SHOCKING!!!

I hear you, and I must be really getting old to have forgotten how much extra money I had to put out. But as I said then even if just beth, you and I showed it still would have been great. As it was with the people who came from CM and the locals from Vegas - it was FANTASTIC. Especially the locals who provided access to their houses, their munch, and their private play space. It was a fantastic opportunity for anyone with any level of experience to have a 3 day lifestyle immersion experience. I'd love to do it again.

For all the reasons you gave I'd only organize it as a dictator. (Not a stretch) It will be at this place on these dates and we are going to this club. That said, the only places I know and would be confident regarding the facilities is LA and Vegas. Those that suggested other places; I'd be happy to help them organize it and beth & I'd attend, but it needs local involvement. (Iron Bear - beth & I always wanted to go to Australia...)

It was SO much fun!!

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RE: What if CM doesn't work??? - 11/11/2005 11:32:36 AM

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I am "one of those lucky people who actually found rewarding, honest, deep, fulfilling and real life relationship" in the chatroom. *shrugs*
I found friends on the net too. I even found my maid of honour and best and dearest friend online. I am finding people on the internet all the time.
Maybe the point is I dont go around planning to find anyone - I surf and chat and write on message boards and from time to time I bump into someone I like and is not too far away and then go and meet in real.
In another words - I dont have expectations.

For me the net is just another way of entertaining myself, like going to coffee shops or museums, and yes, way of meeting people. The only difference is I dont have to dress and make up which I dislike

Kasia

i agree with Kasia; most of my friends in BDSM i met in chat here.

There are two things i do not understand about the "swan song" style of post.

First: they all seemed to believe that establishing a profile over there ---> would be all they needed to do in order to find what they wanted. Some did send form letters, but that's still "CM-lite". Finding someone here is an interactive process and if you put time into it, it can pay dividends...perhaps not exactly what you most wish for, but certainly wonderful friendships.

Second: during those times when i deactivated my profile or felt there was no reason to check my email, i have never had the impluse to Tell The World. i experienced a loss of hope; a painful emotion which i shared with trusted friends in private. i did not blame CM or anyone on it for my loss of hope, and i did not stay away forever; just a "recuperative" period. i just don't understand the "CM people suck" Ops at all.

i do disagree with Kasia on one point: i think expectations are good. This does not mean "leap into the arms of the next Man to contact you" or even "come to the boards where everyone will support you". But if you are searching that implies having a vision of whom You wish to find. It seemed to me that in some "swan song" Ops, the author never established what he or she wanted in their One.

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RE: What if CM doesn't work??? - 11/11/2005 12:28:04 PM

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Lil,
What a GREAT preamble for planning another CM "Gathering". The thought of "...naked, sweaty orgies"...

VEGAS again? LA? NY? (But not in the winter!)

You know Merc, after all the time we took planning this trip, and to have all the people who said they were coming bag out, I doubt that I would be willing to put that kind of time into organizing another trip like this. I might show up, but I'm not going to be the "Girl Friday" on this one hon.

You guys were great, I had a blast, but I wasted a lot of time, and we could have stayed at a better hotel if people had just been honest about their intent to show.

Lily

Make it NYC in 2006 and I'll do everything in my power to make it there with my guy ;) Besides, I'm sure we can coax Lawrence out!!

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RE: What if CM doesn't work??? - 11/11/2005 3:01:26 PM

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Make it NYC in 2006 and I'll do everything in my power to make it there with my guy ;) Besides, I'm sure we can coax Lawrence out!!

I would also do everything in my power to get my shy butt out and attend with or without a boy in tow.

In response to Lily, I'm all for real life participation in the lifestyle for those who are into it, and am guilty of not being very outwardly participatory/overt about wiitwd, but before collarme 99% of my formerly dysfunctional (only because they didn't last due to incompatibilities, not necessarily terrible people) relationships were established with face to face beginnings.

M

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RE: What if CM doesn't work??? - 11/12/2005 9:24:39 AM

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So, take a chance. Go meet folks. Because really, you never know.

Thanks for the inspirational post.

I think I'll check out local munches sometime. I haven't because I fear (I may be mistaken) that a lot of Dominant men who I would be right for have business'/professions/obligations as such that they keep a low profile and don't attend public events.

Am I wrong in that notion? (hope so!) Really, any insight appreciated.

best to all, fawne

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RE: What if CM doesn't work??? - 11/12/2005 9:52:17 AM

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i found sir on the other side, well he found me,lol. but i had gotten to the point where i was just responding back after 2 near misses(my gut was niggly). he didnt pressure me, wasn't rude or one of those on your knees type of writers. he let his interest be known and waited for me to come to my own conclusions based on our talking and writing.
i am glad i didnt get hooked up w/ the first that had written or the second who wanted me under consideration...and basically i blew off the others b/c then i wouldnt be w/ sir now.he gives me what i need and more and more he realizes when we share our time together how compatible we are in our wants/needs.

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ORIGINAL: Kasia

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ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily
...if you think that you are going to be one of the few lucky people who actually find a rewarding, honest, deep, fulfilling and real life relationship while combing the scads of internet profiles here, be prepared to have a long wait in front of you..

I am "one of those lucky people who actually found rewarding, honest, deep, fulfilling and real life relationship" in the chatroom. *shrugs*
I found friends on the net too. I even found my maid of honour and best and dearest friend online. I am finding people on the internet all the time.
Maybe the point is I dont go around planning to find anyone - I surf and chat and write on message boards and from time to time I bump into someone I like and is not too far away and then go and meet in real.
In another words - I dont have expectations.

For me the net is just another way of entertaining myself, like going to coffee shops or museums, and yes, way of meeting people. The only difference is I dont have to dress and make up which I dislike

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RE: What if CM doesn't work??? - 11/12/2005 2:32:26 PM

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I'm up for Vegas...hopefully sometime before March.

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RE: What if CM doesn't work??? - 11/12/2005 8:23:59 PM

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Besides, I'm sure we can coax Lawrence out!!

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you do know how to whistle, doncha?'

Stay warm,
Lawrence

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