DomAviator
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if you wanna help me.. truely wanna help.. help me find a place to start and stop just telling me what i already know.
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OK Ill give you a simple starting point.,,, Self esteem. Surely you must have a female friend, sister, cousin, relative, buddy from highschool who took cosmetology or who just plain knows how to fuck around with hair and make up because shes a girly girl?
1)Do something different with your hair. Change it up. Cut it, color it, curl it, do SOMETHING with it. Women do that to feel better or just for fun. I dont know from day to day what the fuck BrittneyLee is gonna look like. The only constant to her hair is that it will be long... Beyond that she may be a brunette with straight hair or she may be a platinum blonde with a curly Jessica Simpson style one time she was even a reddish brown with a pink stripe! Sometimes its up, sometimes its down, her hair is a function of her mood and can range from Avril Lavigne rocker slut, to rednedck cowgirl, to respectable baptist lady who goes and plants flowers ont he highay median with the Baptist Women's Service League to school teacher. Im not saying go to the salon and spend a fortune but get a friend to help you with it - just play around like teenage girls. I dont care if you buy coloring kits from the Dollar Store, shit one time Britt colored hers with Kool-Aid! Sooner or later youre gonna hit on a style that makes you say "God Damn, this looks good!" As soon as you say you are looking good, your self esteem is building. Same with your nails and feet - even if you need to pick up a manicure set and a bottle of polish at the local dollar store for a buck do up your maincure and pedicure. Except for Cheesecake and Sex I dont think anything makes a woman as happy as a manicure and pedicure.  It doesnt have to cost anything, do it with a friend - you do me, Ill do you. Again, when you feel pretty you are pretty and youre building your self esteem and that carries over into your employment search.
#2) Start working out. When someone pisses you off, when you are stressed, when you have problems - run them off. Turn the anger into endorphins while getting away from the problem, clearing your mind, and improving your health, appearance, and physical fitness. Going back to my earlier tale of my father - I cant even begin to imagine how many miles I ran while mentally singing "Master Chief Chuck is a son of a bitch / Pissed cause his careers stuck in a ditch / Im gonna get myself to that OCS class / Gonna get my wings and he can kiss my ass" FYI, I used to be a fat kid who failed gym... When I got to OCS I could pump out 200 pushups and run three miles without even signifigntly sweating in the Pensacola heat.... It annoyed the DI to no end, that he couldnt get to me... It doesnt cost anything to run, and you can work out without a pricey gym membership. Britt goes to Curves so she can have thousands of dollars of machines, air conditioned comfort, music, a sauna etc.. For her though the gym is mostly a social "sweating with the girls" thing as she has a body thats unbelieveable despite the fact she will eat a whole pizza herself without gaining a pound. However, when I work out with my buddies (which admittedly isnt as often as I should anymore) we just run in the surf. Ie down the beach, in the water, up over the dunes, in BDU pants and boots....
#3) Read. A lot! Stuff worth reading... Not bondage stories, or romance novels, or shit like that. That kind of stuff is for people who have the time to read for recreation after they are "established". You should be reading stuff that will benefit you in your self esteem improvement program and job hunt. Go to the library and get a book on sales and customer service, or on Microsoft Office, or on HTML, or on arc welding or whatever.... If you are going for a job, at say a welding compamy - and you know that E7018 is a low hydrogen electrode that should be kept in an oven when not used, and that GMAW is MIG and GTAW is TIG, and you can do up a spreadsheet that has macros, and can do a mail merge in word to send out a personalized form letter to every client, and you can also edit and make changes to the company web site well you just jumped 1000 points ahead of every other applicant. EVERYBODY who works in my business can in a pinch do multiple functions, and EVERYBODY knows airplanes even if their job responsibility doesnt have a fucking thing to do with airplanes - it has to be that way because I dont want to explain 5000 times that a Citation is the same thing as a CE-500. My assistant got hired over the other equally qualified, equallly beautiful applicants because she had a great smile, made eye contact, and talked airplanes with a passion I would expect from a pilot rather than a secretary. Out of 100 + resumes, I had a dozen applicants just as qualified and just as pretty but she had a personality I liked, and a definitie interest in the aviation field and that set her apart. It doesnt cost you anything to read and learn useful stuff that will set you apart from the herd. Thats what a library is for.
#4 Finally as your starting point - learn to smile and make eye contact with people. They dont bite. Look them straight in the eye, stop walking around with your head down staring at peoples feet unless you want to be a shoeshine boy. Dont tell me you dont either, because I have had enough psychology and done enough people watching to know that is the natural positon of a broken spirit with no self esteem. Been done that and seen others do it too. Hold your head high and look people in the eyes. Smile. Talk to strangers. Whats the worst that can happen - they tell you to fuck off? Well what do they matter? That will be the most important lesson you will ever learn in your life - the ability to hold your head high and to say "fuck you bitch, youre dog shit on my heel'. I try to get along with others but nobody HAS to like me, and nobody really matters unless they are either 1) In my personal life or 2) I have a business relationship with them. If some chick in a bar shoots me down, oh well she just lost out on the best fuck she would ever have gotten in her life Seriously, back in Fallon I had a bitchy woman shoot me down, loudly making a scene, in front of my buddies and I just defused the scene by loudly announcing "Well alrighty then, are there any ladies in here who actually have taste and who dont have a bug up their ass?" People laughed, I hooked up, she stormed out in a huff :) What impact did her rejection have on my life? NONE. Learn that there are people who matter, and people who dont, and who gives a fuck what people think of you!
Once you do those four starting steps you will have already come a long way on your quest....
< Message edited by DomAviator -- 7/15/2008 5:37:48 PM >
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