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RE: Punishment by adding new slave - 7/15/2008 7:05:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: WashGuy

Jumping on the bandwagon here, YOU MADE THE RIGHT MOVE.

Now comes the hard part. Do NOT look back. Do not feel tempted to give him a second chance.

This is very true. Don't go back, no matter how much he tells you the next time will be different. People don't change unless they really want to, as long as you keep going back, he won't have to change.

You did the right thing. Be strong.

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RE: Punishment by adding new slave - 7/15/2008 7:39:24 AM

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...i already have felt like enough of a failure to him that i have attempted suicide...

This comment above all others is of the greatest concern.... Personally I believe you have alot more significant to worry about and deal with than wonder what "stepping up" means.

Honestly.. with the little I read in the OP... my gut tells me that this is going to be a very rough road with a very uncertain future.

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RE: Punishment by adding new slave - 7/15/2008 10:24:21 AM

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thank you...it was not just online, we saw each other every other weekend for 2 years and have known each other for 7 years as friends.

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RE: Punishment by adding new slave - 7/15/2008 10:28:48 AM

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thank you everyone, my first day out and i feel sad but somehow feel a weight lifted off my shoulders and a new outlook on life, it will be a very long time before i begin to date, see other people or i am interested in another relationship. i have to work on getting myself back to where i was before i gave myself to him, not just back to there but better than i was since feel if i have walked away i will be able to get through anything life throws at me.

thank you for the support, you all have been more supportive and inspiring than he was as a master, lover or a friend

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RE: Punishment by adding new slave - 7/15/2008 10:50:25 AM

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Congratulations on finding enough importance in yourself to make a healthy move. And no matter what he says, threatens, or promises, hold tight to knowing that you are important enough to be healthy and happy. Find the inner strength you have, which you have already tapped into to release yourself, and keep moving forward. You deserve a second chance (at happiness) more than he deserves a second chance at you.

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RE: Punishment by adding new slave - 7/15/2008 11:37:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: beatdownslave56

i so appreciate the advice from everyone...i think this is what i have been telling myself all along...i think i have been screwing up hoping he will tire of me and just get rid of me...i am afraid he will travel to maryland and do something to me if i try to leave so i am doing all i can to get him to throw me away

He's using emotional blackmail because he has learned that he can control you with it. Not much of a Master in my opinion. Domination to my way of thinking is inspiring someone to follow you, not scaring them into it. Fear although it can have its place in certain circumstances, this isn't one of them. Run do not walk to the nearest exit on this one.

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RE: Punishment by adding new slave - 7/15/2008 4:55:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: beatdownslave56

... i have to work on getting myself back to where i was before i gave myself to him, not just back to there but better than i was since feel if i have walked away i will be able to get through anything life throws at me.

I highlighted the key phrase in my opinion. It might be that where you were at before you entered into this destructive relationship was not such a bad place to be. It might be the destructive relationship took you down a road that slowly erode this person. However, In many situations such as this, that the place you where in was not a place that allowed you to stop yourself from going down such a destructive path. So.. it is wise to look at getting yourself at a different place than you where before you began the relationship. It is not going to be easy.. but it will be worth it in the end.

I hope that you can appreciate that regardless of the path you have traveled it doesn't prevent you from traveling other paths you may desire to travel. The path you traveled is behind you, the steps you choose take this moment define the path you are on today and so it is for every day.

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RE: Punishment by adding new slave - 7/15/2008 7:02:33 PM

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All I read was that you've attempted suicide over this, and he's still not loving and nuturing you, bringing you back to a better mental state.

Go bye bye. Fast.

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