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RE: Fetish wear - 7/15/2008 4:15:15 PM

MistressSassy66

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I do not always wear Fetish Wear for sessions.
Sometimes I wear a tye dyed black and white slip
sometimes I wear a girdle under a short skirt and a tank top.
I have done sessions in jeans and a tank top or shorts and tank top.

When a submissive says something about what I am wearing
My reply is Clothes do not make someone a Domme.I can slap your
face just as easy wearing street clothes as I can in Leather.

I think if the movies didnt always have Dom/mes in Fetish Wear
There wouldnt be that Stigma of how a Domme should dress.

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/15/2008 4:37:24 PM

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Waves to Mistress Sassy..... Long time no see Ma`am.

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/15/2008 4:56:23 PM

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No, TN - he doesn't want you to drive his car... he wants you to ENVY his car. To desire what cannot be had.

Well if that's the case I guess it would explain the OP's perspective that women dress sexy to show off what men can't have. I don't know, sometimes the sports car is to show off, but it's also fun to drive and it's nice to feel pampered and spoiled. That's how I always felt in a nice car and that's how I feel when I dress in my best sexy clothes. Maybe men don't feel the same way so they assume women have the same kind of motives they do. *shrug*

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/15/2008 8:58:55 PM

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To get the money, fool.

Same reason they show cock being buried in porno.

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/15/2008 9:45:54 PM

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Shall I wrap myself up in a burkah

A latex burkah! Now that would be something! ;-)

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/15/2008 10:28:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: opposingtwilight
Shall I wrap myself up in a burkah

A latex burkah! Now that would be something! ;-)

Cheers,

Sea

As you wish.

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/16/2008 12:01:58 AM

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Guess all us ladies had better hide our dirty pillows: not like we're on a kinky website where lingerie and such might be appropriate.

Oh, wait...

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/16/2008 1:13:56 PM

LadyLou

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Maybe it is because they want to, and it pleases them to dress up?

I’m confused as to what you meant by “why show something that isn't offered?”. Did it occur to you that those poses/clothes you find provocative and turn you on, have nothing to do with displaying something sexual, but rather your projection of how erotic you found it?

I know I like to dress up in what could be considered sexy by some, because I enjoy dressing up. It’s got nothing to do with projecting sex, or sexuality. I do it because *I* like to. I do it for myself. Or I do it when an occasion merits it, or to indulge in a bit of narcissism. The fact that someone may find it sexy has no bearing on what I believe in, what I have to offer, and whether I’m offering sex or not. If I wanted to show photos of myself in such a way, it would still have no bearing.

I think it’s insulting, and somewhat dangerous, to assume just because a man finds the way a woman dresses particularly sexy, then she must be doing it to appeal to male arousal.

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/16/2008 1:41:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Waves to Mistress Sassy..... Long time no see Ma`am.

Hi right back at ya.

quote:

LadyLou I think it’s insulting, and somewhat dangerous, to assume just because a man finds the way a woman dresses particularly sexy, then she must be doing it to appeal to male arousal.

I am with you on that statement.
I like to wear tank tops,with the bra support built.
Because the guys* were try to see down My top
I started wearing sports bras under them.
Its very frustrating trying to wear something cool on a hot day
like a skirt the guys* are always trying to get just a glimpse
of anything.
If a submissive is trying to pull that crap with Me,they
dont get to comeback.

*this doesnt include all men

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/16/2008 4:24:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: Coupleofwhats

Guess all us ladies had better hide our dirty pillows: not like we're on a kinky website where lingerie and such might be appropriate.

Oh, wait...

*giggle* Carrie Fan?

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/16/2008 4:27:36 PM

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And sometimes - as I mentioned somewhere on another thread - ladies like me just enjoy a chance to dress up and feel sexy. Personally, I wear cargo pants and T-shirts to work everyday... hair in a pony tail and no make up. I look like a 'shlepadinka' every day. When I get a chance to dress, I do, because I like it!

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/16/2008 8:08:43 PM

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I think it is EVERY womans perogative to wear things that make her feel completely woman. Be it fetish wear, sports wear, or nothing at all.
It is also our choice to say " Hands off, no sex".
I don't get how it is that because we wear low cut shirts or see through items that it really says " Open for sex"?
If it makes us feel at home, then we should be allowed to wear it.

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/16/2008 9:32:45 PM

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Personally, I'm currently in the throws of Joy-gasims at the moment. I just tried on my new boots. Nothing in the world makes me happier than new shoes or boots that will actually zip over my calves! All I want to do is go make myself new Fetish wear to go with the boots. I don't even care if anyone sees me IN them... It all comes back to Damn! These make me feel hawt! THAT's why I wear them... any chance I get. I would wear these to the gym if people wouldn't think I was a total NUT in an over sized T-Shirt, stretch pants and patten leather spike healed boots with super pointy toes and silver grommets laced up the front & sides..... Drooool.... Did I mention that I got THREE pairs? Oh my... these are very plain... sort of classy... will go with anything, even Vanilla outfits.... Those are beautiful black with black laces on the ankle and at the outer top edge... understated hotness... If I could only find a way to have sex with these boots I'd be rolling in them...

hmmm? Question at hand. I answered that already, didn't I? I frelling LOVE my shoes!

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/16/2008 9:51:48 PM

BossyShoeBitch

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Because:
1. I look fucking amazingly HAWT in fetishwear..

2. I like it when boys can see exactly what they are NEVER going to have...

3. Wearing fetish clothing sets the evening (daytime, whichever) apart from other times. Just like when I am dressed for a formal occasion, it makes me feel a little...more...

4. Last but not least... Because I can...

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/16/2008 9:55:03 PM

slvemike4u

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ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

Because:
1. I look fucking amazingly HAWT in fetishwear..

2. I like it when boys can see exactly what they are NEVER going to have...

3. Wearing fetish clothing sets the evening (daytime, whichever) apart from other times. Just like when I am dressed for a formal occasion, it makes me feel a little...more...

4. Last but not least... Because I can...

Yes Dear Lady,You most certainly can...the pictures on your now no-longer available profile proved that without a doubt...in this boy's mind at least

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/16/2008 9:58:31 PM

slvemike4u

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ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

Personally, I'm currently in the throws of Joy-gasims at the moment. I just tried on my new boots. Nothing in the world makes me happier than new shoes or boots that will actually zip over my calves! All I want to do is go make myself new Fetish wear to go with the boots. I don't even care if anyone sees me IN them... It all comes back to Damn! These make me feel hawt! THAT's why I wear them... any chance I get. I would wear these to the gym if people wouldn't think I was a total NUT in an over sized T-Shirt, stretch pants and patten leather spike healed boots with super pointy toes and silver grommets laced up the front & sides..... Drooool.... Did I mention that I got THREE pairs? Oh my... these are very plain... sort of classy... will go with anything, even Vanilla outfits.... Those are beautiful black with black laces on the ankle and at the outer top edge... understated hotness... If I could only find a way to have sex with these boots I'd be rolling in them...

hmmm? Question at hand. I answered that already, didn't I? I frelling LOVE my shoes!

Somehow I don't think "total nut" would be the first thought running thru their minds...well not the male minds anyway

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/16/2008 9:58:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slvemike4u

quote:

ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

Because:
1. I look fucking amazingly HAWT in fetishwear..

2. I like it when boys can see exactly what they are NEVER going to have...

3. Wearing fetish clothing sets the evening (daytime, whichever) apart from other times. Just like when I am dressed for a formal occasion, it makes me feel a little...more...

4. Last but not least... Because I can...

Yes Dear Lady,You most certainly can...the pictures on your now no-longer available profile proved that without a doubt...in this boy's mind at least

look again...

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/16/2008 10:03:25 PM

slvemike4u

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What was that about,I linked on Your name,might have referenced one shot in particular...profile not found...go back as directed there You are....my apologies of course Ma'am...and my thanks for correcting my error ...edited after taking another look...Damm You look hot in all those shots....choosing one to reference is impossible...mike

< Message edited by slvemike4u -- 7/16/2008 10:06:08 PM >

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Forget Guns-----Ban the pools

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RE: Fetish wear - 7/16/2008 10:58:15 PM

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People that dress up, dress down, show their muscles do it because they want to show off something they are proud of having. They want to put their best foot forward to attract someone they can be attracted to, as well. If someone dresses up and goes out. They might enjoy being admired, but that does not mean they are in any way responsible for a viewer deciding they want sex. It is not an invitation to anything but notice. That cliche has been beaten to death by moronic rapists who tried to use it as a defense. The worst part is that it still influences perception. Guilty by reason of clothing choices and someone elses wishful thinking.

For some people their kink is not about sex, but sex is a part of it. I actually know people who do not integrate sex in their kink at all. I know people who do sexual things, but don't have sex. The statement that the lifestyle is not about sex, may be because, there are a lot of people who contact women in the scene because they think kinky means slut. For some it does. For many it doesn't. But stating that up front is an ineffectual way to try to deter the sleaze balls who want sex and nothing else.

Men complain about women on these sites getting a higher, hugely higher in some cases, response rate. For the most part, that envy is misplaced. If all those extra emails one gets are idiotic, insulting, denigrating, time wasting, space using garbage, they make it harder for women to actually get to the emails from people who are genuinely interested in meeting them and getting to know them. Pick a description, beautiful, ugly, fat, thin, top, bottom, domme, sub, slave, switch, each person behind those descriptions has a goal and it can be frustrating, depressing, exhilirating, etc to pursue that goal.

If is not easy and will not unless we get a telepathic network setup and that will have its own issues.

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