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MmeGigs -> RE: Fetish wear (7/14/2008 6:53:02 PM)
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The reason that women post pictures of themselves in fetishwear is that this is a fetish website where such things are appropriate, and they like the way they look in those pictures. I'd guess that most of them didn't dress for the picture, they dressed for something else and someone took the picture.
The reason they women say "no sex" in their profile is because they're hoping it will cut down on the number of wannafucks they receive. There are a lot of men who believe that because a woman is dressed provocatively in the pic, or even just because she's got a profile on a kinky website, she must be extending him a personal invitation for sex. Some guys actually get irritated when they're told that their crude request for sex is unwelcome, as if the fact that he got a woody over her pic somehow obligates her to finish him off. It's bizarre. If you went to a party or club where there were lots of women in fetish gear, would you assume that they're all offering sex to just anyone? Seriously, it's ridiculous.
There actually are dominant women out there who are up for ongoing casual sex/play relationships with men whose company they enjoy. I personally know women like this. I am a woman like this. My hubby has at least a dozen semi-regular playmates who are like this. They mess around with him because he's a big ol' sweetie pie pain pig who they consider to be a friend - someone who likes them as people and never treats them like a piece of meat. This is the sort of thing that many of these random idiots dream about, but the way they behave pretty much ensures that they'll never have it.
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Or the one I love is "This lifestyle isn't about sex".......really??
Yes, really. Sex is one kink among many. It's entirely possible to have an absolutely fabulous scene/experience where no one has an orgasm. For many folks out there kink is not primarily about sex. For quite a few it isn't about sex at all. For some folks it's all about sex. These things are all okay - we each get to decide for ourselves what it's all about for us. That's the most wonderful thing about kink, but it's also the most confusing. We can't assume that everyone sees things the way we do or wants the things we want.
I've taken your question seriously, and have responded seriously. I'm rather hoping that you're a troll, just posting this crap to get a rise out of people, but I know that there are fellows out there who actually feel this way about this stuff, just as there are guys out there who feel that picking up the tab for dinner and drinks means they're entitled to sex. My post is directed toward any fellows who read your original post and thought, "Yeah! What's the deal with that?" Sadly, there will be some of those.
Guys, if you really want to have a hot, steamy relationship with women you see here, control your dick and get your head out of your ass. The loosest woman on CM is not going to fuck you unless she likes you or you're paying her. Those who might go in for one night of anonymous wild monkey sex have plenty of men to choose from. Even a chubby, married, menopausal, small-town-midwestern-grandma-type like me can find a grateful and enthusiastic hard-bodied young man to fuck without a heck of a lot of effort. Why on earth would I waste even a moment of my time on some jackass who treats me like a piece of meat?
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