Nikolette
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop suicide is the ultimate in selfish acts. Well........... yes....... since its wholly about one's self and the pain one is experiencing. Suicide isn't something that someone is doing to another person. Sometimes the people who want to die convince themselves they are doing the world a favor. Or that they are in too much pain, depite how much others want them to live. Or..... whatever is appropriate in the given situation. Its virtually impossible to understand anyone's full reasoning to leave us. And whether the product of depression or mental illness, it is their life and their choice. And while we could affect it, or their life. Its sincerely not about "us". Even if it seems so on the surface. Its hard to understand that, as one of those left behind. I struggled for years to really grasp what I'm trying to articulate here. But, I hear that a lot, how selfish it is. And I just don't have that frutration and animosity toward the suicidal anymore. All I do is ache for them, their pain, their loneliness, their dark spot that isn't being reached. Its my belief that if we let go of being so possessive of people and their life that then we can truly help them, because its not about us at that point, its just about them and the help that they need. When people react with frustration and anger at the suggestion of suicide and personal betrayal--- it seems to simply breakdown communication and alienate those at risk even more. (Btw, GreedyTop I'm not saying this as a reflection of you, or how you personally feel or treat people--- of that I have no clue--- but just taking your quote and running with it and sharing some personal thoughts on the matter without context toward you personally)
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