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LadyHugs -> RE: Why don't men like BBW Dommes? (4/29/2006 4:10:12 PM)
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Dear Mariah, Ladies and Gentlemen;
Speaking for myself only, based on personal knowledge as well as fitting the topic, as I am a large “mature” woman; I find that some men shutter to think that a BBW woman who is dominant may indeed be able to throw them onto a mat and wrestle them into a full Nelson and have them tap out in submission just as much as to control them if they misbehave. Size can intimidate in a nice way; as I do hate to ruin a good manicure, dress or such on “wrestling.”
That said; there are wonderful advantages of being big and or a BBW, as one is not blown away in a stiff wind, so submissive/slaves can hug and hang on tight and they are protected.
Another advantage, is that we are able to test the strength of bondage furniture and the devices before we subject our submissive/slaves to it.
In addition, the slave/submissive has wonderful choices--carry us or our toy bags/luggage. Usually, they volunteer to haul the luggage and or toy bags.
When we sit, we take a seat and a half, as to save that seat for our sweet slave/submissive when they do have a chance to sit down, otherwise it is a great place to put our purse, gloves and fan.
When we are approached for raffle tickets, unlike our thinner peers; our rounded curves adds a few tickets to the total sum. Hey, extra chances are great.
But, most of all -- our package is padding the most beautiful treasure of all--our hearts, our spirits, our compassion, the desire to be treated with dignity and our slaves/submissives as well. For me, those who just look at the package and not the contents of a person’s character will miss so much. It is their loss not ours. For those aging as I am, indeed our package may be torn and tattered, banged around and subjected to abuse but, the contents remain.
We can look at someone and know what real human humiliations are like, to be dismissed, to be overlooked, to be hurt, to be lonely, to know how it hurts to attempt to squeeze into chairs that children’s hips touch the sides. We also know how many people make assumptions of why we’re fat. This is one reason I REFUSE to participate in humiliation play/scenes.
As for me, combination of genetics, being paralyzed for a number of months, medications, food and criticized for being to thin and making up for those days of my youth that I was starved and food for comfort, etc.
What I have found as a thin slave in my day, I was treated more like an arm charm. When injured and blew up like the Pop and Fresh “Doughboy/girl” those who left were not my friends. Ones who stayed demonstrated that love and or friendship is unconditional.
I won't hold it against a thin dominant, when they are 'pea green' with envy, when handsome body builders and weight lifters flock to me; they know I don't leave marks and they aren't pawed over like cheap meat.
As I mingle in the community, I am appreciated what I have to offer in experience, knowledge, skills, my personality, sensitivities to others pain and troubles, my compassion, my giving nature (often going broke so another can get medicine, food or help) and most of all -- my hugs.
I control my power. I can give it away to those submissive/slave types, that are about as effective as a screen door on a submarine or, I can take my power and enjoy it. Like me--hide a submissive--sit on him!
Respectfully humoristic moment submitted,
Lady Hugs
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