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TwoDommeDivas -> Marking during play (7/15/2008 7:39:23 AM)
My partner, Theresa, and I were talking about marks left in the wake of play. While we are primarily dominant, we both switch. And last Saturday at a play party, we both left with bruises and welts on our asses that remain today. When we play with a new sub, we are careful not to mark him/her, but later on we feel more free to leave reminders of our handiwork. A question came up today about philosophy. Some have said that marking a sub is low class; that the real skill is in leaving only psychological evidence of your work. We, OTOH, enjoy leaving physical evidence. And, frankly, when I use a singletail, the sub will be marked no matter what, and always understands that he/she stands a chance of having the skin broken. We LIKE marking subs. So, how do you feel about marks? What's your philosophy? As a sub, how do marks that last days or a week make you feel? As a top, do you enjoy marking, or do you try to avoid it? And why? I greatly enjoy leaving a number of parallel cane marks on a sub's ass. It is my art, temporary though it is. M. Dana

CruelDesires -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 7:41:35 AM)
Marking her is delicious. Expecially on the butt. So... every time she sits down she feels the "love" that I placed there. I call it the "gift" that keeps on giving.[8D] CD

TwoDommeDivas -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 7:44:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CruelDesires Marking her is delicious. Expecially on the butt. So... every time she sits down she feels the "love" that I placed there. I call it the "gift" that keeps on giving.[8D] CD Heh. [:)] Yeah...

OldBastardly1 -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 7:45:01 AM)
I also enjoy leaving marks, but it isn't required. I enjoy leaving welts and bruises. I like to break skin and to make blood flow. The subject of leaving marks is something that I cover in pre-play negotiations.

shivermetimbers -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 7:47:30 AM)
I love marks that last for a while. Especially bruises, that you can rub and feel a reminder of the fun that created them. Marks that linger also make me feel that I was able to serve the Dominant in a fashion that left them just as satisfied, that they didn't have to hold back at all. A bruise, welt, or a cut says it was a great time had by all.

natasha66 -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 7:47:31 AM)
i bruise very easily so it's pretty much inevitable that marks or bruises will remain for a few days, which is a-ok with me!!!!

akisha -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 7:47:32 AM)
What's the point of playing with imapct or stingy things if you don't get to enjoy the lovely marks that go along with it?? If getting marked and bruised and welts is low class then I'm trailer trash baby giggles Seriously tho, i'd way prefer to come out of it with marks then nothing. just my personal preference.

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 7:48:47 AM)
I love marks. As a bottom, they give me something to remember the scene by for a few days (or weeks.) Not to mention, I'm a pretty heavy masochist. It would be impossible, I think, to play to the intensity that takes me where I need to go without marking me. When I'm topping, it depends on the bottom. If she likes marks, I'll definitely leave them. My submissive is even more of pain slut than I am. I've never topped her without marking her and she wouldn't enjoy the play if I did.

persephonee -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 7:55:58 AM)
i love my marks and ask for them. i have also played with permission but with the caveat of not being marked. i dont like the constraint of that but complied...because i comply. i understand the art of not marking and respect it....but i need my reminders and even tho some deep tissue bruising doesnt leave outward marks, but still painfully reminds..i just love to see them when i look in the mirror. i no longer go into a scene specifically seeking to be excessively marked...but i still feel somehow comforted by the visual especially on my droppy days.

Maxwell67 -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 8:02:40 AM)
I consider it a testament to skill that I can cause a lot of hurt without any evidence of it the next day, but there are days I still want to do it anyway, yes. If I am sending her off for a few days visiting somewhere, then I like to send her off with a little something to remember me by as well. I enjoy marking my territory. I often purposefully leave welts, bruises, hickeys, bitemarks, scratches, or those cutel little blood-colored half-moons I make by pressing my nails hard into her flesh in the right places. Just last night she asked me if she could get a tattoo some day with "my mark" on it to show my ownership of her. If she takes pride in wearing the marks, why shouldn't I take pride in giving them?

Sunnyfey -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 8:06:24 AM)
Exactly!!! Master marked me by me getting my nipples pierced. My Leather family, Leather Sir marked his wife and girlfriend with his symbol, infact thats a nig honor, Leather Sir giving you your wings. I ADORE wearing Master's marks, be they piercings, bruises or anything else!!!!!

TwoDommeDivas -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 8:08:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle I love marks. As a bottom, they give me something to remember the scene by for a few days (or weeks.) Not to mention, I'm a pretty heavy masochist. It would be impossible, I think, to play to the intensity that takes me where I need to go without marking me. Hmmmmmm, that sounds like a challenge! [:D] I'm pretty sure I could give you the most intense scene you've ever had, and leave not a single mark. You might need a few sessions with your therapist, though... Dana

LadyPact -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 8:10:41 AM)
If it's supposedly "low class" to do so, put Me right in the gutter. I LOVE leaving marks. Any and all kinds. Bruises, bite marks, welts, scratches, any place I've cut the skin, if blood isn't a hard limit. You name it, I enjoy the hell out of it! Sure, there are some bottoms that don't want to be marked up, and I can do that, too, but I much more enjoy not having that restriction. I have a whole library of pics of some of My better work. Off of the top of My head, I can't recall a bottom that didn't like the marks that were left behind (no pun intended). Most of them carry those marks like badges of honor, that they earned. They are wonderful reminders of the scene that was shared. Something they get to feel for the next while when either sitting or any other time the marks have been come in contact with. Of course, the brand I put on clip is still My favorite mark. Edited because I got so excited by the topic, I made some typos.

Mercnbeth -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 8:19:31 AM)
quote: Some have said that marking a sub is low class; that the real skill is in leaving only psychological evidence of your work. Fuck, I can't keep up with what I'm supposed to do to be a "high class" Dom. Is there some kinda subscription that gets regular updates on these things, like 'Modern Dominant', or 'The PC Top', 'Hustler'?

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 8:32:48 AM)
If it is "low class" so be it. I enjoy leaving markings. I love pink stripes, and most of the other things that I enjoy definitely leave marks or break skin. Even with fireplay, which, properly done, doesn't leave many marks, there is the opportunity to leave small areas of evidence of the play. I'm careful to ask beforehand if a submissive-type minds leaving with a couple of pink marks -- if they're skittish or can't stand the sensation of "sunburn" type areas, I make sure to sweep the fire out quickly, but when they're ok with it, we negotiate where I can leave them with a tender spot to remember our adventure by. Philosophically, I think of marking as a temporary form of body modification -- an art form that only lasts as long as it takes the body to restore its equilibrium. I enjoy creating works of art in colors that the body creates for itself -- subtle or rich, surface or deep. Folks are welcome to take or leave marking -- for me, I enjoy it. Calla Firestorm

subtee -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 8:41:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth Fuck, I can't keep up with what I'm supposed to do to be a "high class" Dom. Is there some kinda subscription that gets regular updates on these things, like 'Modern Dominant', or 'The PC Top', 'Hustler'? "The Domonomist"; "National Domographic"; "Subsonian"; "Vanity Dom"; Architectural Domist"; "Subset"...

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 8:41:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TwoDommeDivas quote: ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle I love marks. As a bottom, they give me something to remember the scene by for a few days (or weeks.) Not to mention, I'm a pretty heavy masochist. It would be impossible, I think, to play to the intensity that takes me where I need to go without marking me. Hmmmmmm, that sounds like a challenge! [:D] I'm pretty sure I could give you the most intense scene you've ever had, and leave not a single mark. You might need a few sessions with your therapist, though... Dana Hmm, perhaps "impossible" was a bad word choice. "Difficult" might have been better. Although giving me the most intense scene I've ever had could also be difficult. I have been around the block a few times (but, alas, never ON it.) Still, I don't doubt your ability. While I'm not in the habit of "challenging" Dominas, I think that somewhat impertinent, I'd love to take you up on it, if I could get to California sometime in the forseeable future. If you ever get to Tucson, check out the biggest little club west of the Rockies.

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 8:43:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtee "The Domonomist"; "National Domographic"; "Subsonian"; "Vanity Dom"; Architectural Domist"; "Subset"... "Domity Fair."

KnightofMists -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 9:07:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth quote: Some have said that marking a sub is low class; that the real skill is in leaving only psychological evidence of your work. Fuck, I can't keep up with what I'm supposed to do to be a "high class" Dom. Is there some kinda subscription that gets regular updates on these things, like 'Modern Dominant', or 'The PC Top', 'Hustler'? I don't know... my Topping for Dummies book never gave me any of this stuff.... damn do I feel like a dummy! To the OP: Marks or NO Marks is rather irrelevant to me. What is relevant to me is that the scene is an enjoyable experience.;.. sometime marks is the result of that.. and sometimes it's not.

laura2161 -> RE: Marking during play (7/15/2008 9:17:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: akisha What's the point of playing with imapct or stingy things if you don't get to enjoy the lovely marks that go along with it?? If getting marked and bruised and welts is low class then I'm trailer trash baby giggles Seriously tho, i'd way prefer to come out of it with marks then nothing. just my personal preference. And then I'm living in the trailer right next to you , heh. More bruises the better, the longer they stick around the better. WOW, it's good to be trailer trash :-)

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