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RE: Bad Dom List? - 7/18/2008 1:00:31 PM

CallaFirestormBW

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ORIGINAL: MistressHowl

did I severely misstep? is it not arrogance and abuse My Right as a Domina? Must I baby the arrogant and treat them w/kid gloves or is what I did to be expected from Some such as Myself?? I mean, W/we are not afterall on Myspace or some such site but on CollarMe where in My opinion this is not such a faux pas...Please give Me your honest opinion here asap. I would hate to lose faith in Myself or feel obliged to hold My tongue here-pehaps in future I should simply refrain from replying at all? oh but to think of the fun I will miss....and did I not attempt to kindly rectify his little ego?

Wondering,
Mistress Howl

Arrogance and abuse -are- your right... as a person, regardless of being a domina or otherwise. However, it is important to note that arrogance and abuse tend to be 'off-putting' for some individuals. Sometimes you -want- to put someone off... in which case, arrogance and abuse are very effective tools...

In this case, I think arrogance and abuse may have been used effectively. For myself, I would have just deleted that 2nd email without response at all ... to me, his absence of capacity to understand simple instructions is sufficient for me not to waste another moment of my time on him.

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RE: Bad Dom List? - 7/18/2008 6:57:02 PM

tsatske

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Mistress Howl,
as I do not submit to women, I will refrain from any oppinion about rather 'arrogance and abuse are your right.' I have several Domme friends, but I don't actively submit to them, so i really couldn't say.
HOWEVER... as a submissive, i must admit, I get exactly as you described, when someone treats me as you described, and I do not consider it in the least 'unsubby.' I consider it to be rather like, when I was back in highschool and was suffering as a, (much thinner and cuter, back then) early devoloper, guys were constantly feeling me up while I simply walked down the hall to class.
Withoug exception, without any thought about rather they were more 'dominant' than i or any other such thing, I simply slapped their face.
Without exception, I wound up in the principles office, with my Father sitting there. ANd, every time, He would look at my principle and say, 'Let me see if I understand. Some boy in your school put his hands on my daughter, WITHOUT HER CONSENT, and she slapped his face? Good Job, Girl - let's go home.'
I still think I was right, I still think Dad was right, and I still act that way. What they are doing is the D/s cyber equivalent - attempting to Dom you ( or force their submission on you) without your consent. Give them a good cyber slap, and don't forget to use the block button. And, if it is actually threatening, harrassing, ect - throw in the report button, for good measure.
And, welcome.

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RE: Bad Dom List? - 7/18/2008 9:04:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Isnt a Bad Dom ANYONE who wouldnt want me?????

well i want you lushy...does that make me a dom?

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RE: Bad Dom List? - 7/19/2008 2:44:34 AM

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I would like to thank CallaFirestorm and tsatske for T/their input. Please note- I do not feel free to be arrogant or abusive to any or all for no reason. I treat A/all with decency, courtesy and respect. he was rude, more than once so yes, I verbally knocked him down, hard, because I felt he deserved it. and then I apologized! which he hasn't opened to spite Me..and I am glad! I am new to CM and have met many fun interesting intelligent and witty people and look forward to making more new friends.
Again, thank you for everything.

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RE: Bad Dom List? - 7/19/2008 2:45:54 PM

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All I know is that I want to be on it. I've spent way too many years of my life being good.

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RE: Bad Dom List? - 7/19/2008 3:10:18 PM

lalbobbilynn

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Sounds like she is limited from the jump-off. Better to know this up front, and then move along.
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RE: Bad Dom List? - 7/20/2008 5:52:50 AM

Aiden

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ORIGINAL: SterlingDS

So, one sub I recently contacted on here told me that she didn't want to pursue something because she'd seen me on a quote-unquote 'bad dom list'.

Is this true? Is there some sort of list circulating? It sounds a bit far fetched.

I've never heard tell of a bad Doms list but have heard more than one reference to a bad sub list certain Dommes supposedly keep.

The whole thing seems high-schoolish, anyone on a "bad" list has no way to appeal being on it and has the burden of disproving a negative. All it really says is that the person on the list pissed someone off some time or other.

Life is too short to fret over the opinions of people who cant think for themselves.

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RE: Bad Dom List? - 7/20/2008 8:16:57 AM

kiwisub12

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As all "true" sub/slaves know - if we told you about the Bad Dom list, we would have to kill you. We receive the location of the list at our induction into the sub/slave hall of infamy, and swear not to reveal its existance or location on pain of withheld beatings. Since withheld beatings is a fate worse than death, the list is very safe.

Now the black ninjas will have to find everyone who has written on this tread, and read this thread and eliminate them. Damn, and there were some fine people here. *sigh* its hard being a hard arse.