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RE: Dating before dominance - 7/28/2008 9:09:18 AM

Mercnbeth

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our first meeting was planned as a vanilla outing---meet at a bar/restaurant populated mostly by Senior Citizen Tourists. this slave was informed by Him, beforehand, that there would be NO sex and NO play. It was a little disappointing, hearing that, but thankfully, He changed His mind about the NO sex and NO play part.

what actually happened after meeting at the bar/restaurant? we went for a nice drive in the country, with the top down. this slave submitted to Him, without limits on His pleasure, in a nice hotel room at the edge of the Pacific Ocean. We went to a delicious restaurant afterwards and had a great time, then back to the room for an even greater time!!!

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RE: Dating before dominance - 7/28/2008 9:23:47 AM

seababy

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ORIGINAL: lally3

we are not vanilla and whatever date we go on with someone we like and are attracted to, the dynamics of D and s will be there, understated, subtle but evident.

and i think its really important for any starting relationship, if its one where both are looking for long term, to spend time relaxing into each other. that way the D/s develops naturally along with the bond of trust.

What she said.

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RE: Dating before dominance - 7/28/2008 11:15:47 AM

littlesarbonn

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My experience in dating within the scene has been somewhat bizarre (at least in my own idea of what that means). If I dated someone who was vanilla, slowly she discovered my submissive side and actually wanted to become dominant in a relationship with me. In some cases, it worked really well, and those relationships lasted for awhile, at least until one of several things happened: 1. She grew beyond me and wanted more than I could ever deliver alone, so she continued to search elsewhere, or 2. She became a professional and then ended up becoming a close friend and has lived a very lucrative and "interesting" life ever since.

In other cases when I started dating a dominant woman, who was dominant from the get-go, it has almost always ended up in a close friendship. Sometimes with bdsm involved, but not always often.

So, I haven't really figured out a formula to make it work.

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