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Lockit -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 9:37:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CruelDesires I live in my moms basement and play wow and evercrack 18 hours a day. I have two female chuihahas names bitch and slut who have "Property of CD" on their collars . My bike is an old schwinn 10 speed with a banana seat and bad brakes. I self medicate with natural "herbs" and when not medicated, am pretty much afraid of my own shadow. One of these days I will either get up the nerve... or get so medicated that I can venture out and play larps with others face to face. Tarl Cabot is a god among men and is my role model. Can't finish this because my mom is making me take out the trash . CD ROFL... thank you! I was thinking... since my mom doesn't have a basement and it is getting really hot here... can some friends and I come over to your house and play or shall we all meet at the local video game place? Mom says I can borrow ten bucks, since I only owe her like twenty thousand. Dang... along with real and true... we need an online resume! Anyone taking advice from someone online is responsible for that advice, not the one giving it. It doesn't matter if they know what they are talking about or not... it does however matter what one does with it.

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 9:48:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CruelDesires I live in my moms basement and play wow and evercrack 18 hours a day. I have two female chuihahas names bitch and slut who have "Property of CD" on their collars . My bike is an old schwinn 10 speed with a banana seat and bad brakes. I self medicate with natural "herbs" and when not medicated, am pretty much afraid of my own shadow. One of these days I will either get up the nerve... or get so medicated that I can venture out and play larps with others face to face. Tarl Cabot is a god among men and is my role model. Can't finish this because my mom is making me take out the trash . CD OOOO OOOO CD... can I come play? I have 11 toons on WoW... all Warlocks (ok, I have one Pally, but I don't play her)... an' maybe we're on the same server, or I can start some new ones on your server and buy gold and XP from one of those online places with my dad's CC, cause I know where he keeps it. I have HoHOs and Twinkies and Snowballs, too, cause my mom shops at SAMs (or maybe that's -with- SAMs) and brings home boxes and boxes. Do you have any more natural medicine. I ran out and don't get my allowance to get any more till next week, but I'll pay ya back, HONEST! an' I'll bring the snack cakes and bags of chips an' mom won't notice cause she buys so much. CF

Maya2001 -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 9:50:06 AM)
About 90% of the questions asked here are related to relationships...is a person who has been Dom service topping for 30 years but has never had a long term relationship just short term play partners is s/he going to give better advice than someone who has been in a onging vanilla relationship????? Length of lifestyle experience does not necessarily equal better advice.... and what works of one BDSM couple does not necessarily mean the advice will apply to another lifestyle couple because we are all individual with different sets of circumstances,and environments ... so anwering should not be limited to just a handful of longtime lifestylers .. the more responses an OP receives including hearing disagreements where conflicts and debate arise from respondants to the post,,, the better chance the OP will find what they are looking for and what will work for them. I am a newbie on the scene as a sub but have almost 50 years of life experiences behind me .. have been in 3 D/s relations that ended due to incompatibilities but have an ongoing valued friendship with each one based on mutual respect, trust and caring, I have been to a couple munches but my work schedules makes it difficult to attend regularily.... I prefer private play to public my reality is not the same as others..but does it make it less valuable depending on the type of advice wanted ??? If offering advice on how a Gorean slave is to submit ..my advice would be pretty worthless...but if someone asks what should I do my dom is cheating on me????...or " I feel like I am being abused what should I do????" that is relationship advice I have had experience with first hand in my vanilla life and feel I have advice then to give , if I had 20 years of experience as a sub who has never known non consentual abuse or had a partener that cheated .my input would likely be useless

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 9:50:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit quote: ORIGINAL: CruelDesires I live in my moms basement and play wow and evercrack 18 hours a day. I have two female chuihahas names bitch and slut who have "Property of CD" on their collars . My bike is an old schwinn 10 speed with a banana seat and bad brakes. I self medicate with natural "herbs" and when not medicated, am pretty much afraid of my own shadow. One of these days I will either get up the nerve... or get so medicated that I can venture out and play larps with others face to face. Tarl Cabot is a god among men and is my role model. Can't finish this because my mom is making me take out the trash . CD ROFL... thank you! I was thinking... since my mom doesn't have a basement and it is getting really hot here... can some friends and I come over to your house and play or shall we all meet at the local video game place? Mom says I can borrow ten bucks, since I only owe her like twenty thousand. OOOO YEAH... we can all have a -wanking- party. We live in an apartment so I don't have a basement, but if CD has stuff and I bring stuff and you bring money, we can get -more- stuff! CF

DominantJenny -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 9:52:08 AM)
FR Since I am one of those "quick to advise" sorts, here's the short version. (I have distinctly less time on weekends.) I live in northern Illinois, about 60 miles from Chicago. I have been married to my spouse for 12 years, together for 13. We began pursuing kink about a year into our marriage; he was vanilla till then. I came out to him after discovering support and information on the internet. I also had online/ldr's, the first with a guy (thank you, wide eyes) and the rest with women, with my husband's full knowledge and support. We tried exploring the "local" scene, but found it not to our taste after repeated attempts. I continue to look for the right woman while being very satisfied (finally) with my partner and our life together. After several years of infertility, my first son was born in 2005. I am a stay at home mother, and am expecting my second son literally any day now. Parenting is my personal calling and I'm very good at it. My spouse and I are everything to each other. I make the rules, lead the relationship, "wear the pants", however you want to put it, in our everyday life as well as in the bedroom, where I also enjoy causing lots of pain which it fortunately turned out that my spouse is turned on by, so we're good. We have four cats and a turtle that are also part of our household. I am in poor physical shape with some long term health issues that I manage reasonably well. My spouse is quite fit, so it balances out, as I am the more intellectual and educated of the pair of us. (He is also the more socially skilled partner, which is part of what makes him quite successful at work, fortunately.) I'm always happy to answer questions (as long as they don't violate the need for privacy we have, of course) and am generally one of the most honest and kind people you are likely to run across, in or out of kink.

Lockit -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 9:52:25 AM)
hehe.. the party is on!

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 10:07:58 AM)
first and foremost - i am me and thank goodness there's no one else like me either. i live in Chicago, not a member of any munch, group etc because i choose not to be. i enjoy being unique in my thoughts, life, opinions, music etc etc - i follow the beat to my own drummer. i'm definitely not a sheeple or conformist i'm a mother - so they will always come first in my life i don't live as submissive kneeling, bowing or follow any pre-set protocols 24/7- i'm treated as an equal in my dynamic i rock and party most nights with local bands until dawn if you want advice, be prepared to hear it as blunt and serious as i say it. i don't sugarcoat anything - not my style this is my reality ...this is who i am

kyraofMists -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 10:54:15 AM)
Our reality... We have seven people living in our house. The three of us share a bedroom and a bed. We also share the space with 5 cats, a dog, a fish and a frog... and I think there are some mice in the garage g We live in a small town in Northern Alberta He is the boss of the house; Alandra and I do not act on anything without his approval We have a dungeon in our basement We engage in some form of SM on almost a daily basis, even if it only lasts a couple minutes We have sex on almost a daily basis and sex usually includes some form a pain There is no BDSM community in our area, but we try to get to events a couple times a year We prefer Leather events because our play and poly family has been more accepted at these events. He has lived a relationship with Alandra where he has had complete authority over her life for 20 years. The three of us have lived a relationship where he has had complete authority over both our lives for over three years We have lived together for more than seven months and it is as easy today as it was the day I moved in. Alandra and I are not jealous of each other; we spend our time together and do not seek to break up his time into individual alone time with him... we would all get less if we did things that way. The most important thing to us is our family and all decisions are made from the perspective of what is best for the family. I can speak with authority about my life and about how we do things. That is the perspective that I try to post from and if that perspective helps someone in their life then I am grateful. Knight's Kyra

WhisperSupremacy -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 11:04:55 AM)
K, here we go.... I live in the desolate wastlands of Dallas TX,... in a small one bedroom apartment, which consists of the basic necessaties. I wake up, drink a Full Throttle, go to work, go to band practice, come home, watch true crime specials on tru tv, get online, go to sleep, wake up, repeat. fin

leadership527 -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 11:14:02 AM)
My reality? Married for 11 years I collared her about 9 months ago (or, maybe more accurately, she demanded I collar her laughs) My reality is that I live with the woman I love who has been my friend and confidant from the moment I met her. Then, she became my friend, confidant, and lover. Then she became my friend, confidant, lover and wife. Most recently, she became my friend, confidant, lover, wife, and slave. We are now exploring "the scene" and "the community" with a lot of mixed feelings. Through all of this, the only "reality" that matters is that this woman is more important to me than anything else in the world. My other big reality of the moment is that SHE'S COMING HOME TODAY!!! Everything else is, frankly, icing not cake.

chiaThePet -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 11:25:41 AM)
I live in a box at the bottom of the basement stairs, small, but comfortable enough. They began requiring me to reside there many years ago after "the incident". I am forbidden to speak of such, as it causes painful memories for all involved. It is replete in understanding and obedience, to the cause and effect of weakness. I am given "free" time sporadically throughout the days and nights of my existence, much cherished and greatfully Thankful to Them for such. During this time, my chores and requirements must first be completed to Their ultimate satisfaction, swift punishment the reward for sloth or failure. Here, I am allowed to hose down my box, and the rusty soup can which serves as my toilet. I am grateful to have it, existing in my own urine and feces would surely make slumber unbearable. There is no lock, it is understood that this is my place, and when tasks are complete, no word need be uttered, no pointed finger need command me back. There among the shadows I dwell. It is comfort, it is rest, it is sanctuary. I await feeding here, lizards, roaches, spiders, those whom found misfortune to cross the path of Their quick boot or licking whip. Delicacies to the moaning hunger pangs of midnites fury, sustenance gifted of the Gods above me. I am allowed here, with supervision, firm instruction and understanding of the allowances which patience and purpose shall afford me. Here, They find I offer entertainment of Their senses, the gutteral growls of laughter rolling as thunder all about my quivering body. Here, I dance among the whispers of those whom might share even a sliver of the reality which is my fantasy. They speak the knowledge that I hide my fears and pain in the echoing cackles of those whose own misfortunes grasp crumbling edges of their counterfeit sanity. It is They whom raise the Sun, it is They whom offer breathe, it is They as it is. Castles crumble, advice is given only if it is taken, regardless of the messenger. This reality is mine, whether encompassed in dreams or the darkness of a box. chia* (the pet) edited for grammatical error, They were kind of such, the bone will fuse in time.

lronitulstahp -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 11:30:57 AM)
There are people on CM that know me, some i am lucky enough to call "friend". There are people that see my face at a dungeon, munch, get together, or club....but that part of my reality doesn't define me. my reality is that i am a person with many facets, and can't be easily pigeonholed. i'm fortunate in many things, and those things that i count as "struggles" make me stronger, so i am thankful for adversities. Reality is that i am not able to make selfish choices, because i am accoutable to my creator for the life i give my children, and take that job more seriously than any other. my reality is that unless i find someone who understands all that, i am more than prepared to remain uncollared or without a serious relationship, because already, i am more blessed than any chick deserves to be. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQdmrFrM5lE Living my life like it's golden....

DesFIP -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 11:36:28 AM)
I live with him and my ums, his come and go for various amounts of time. I'm sort of looking for a new dog, but am not sure if I'm ready. I still miss my old one terribly. We are monogamous and private. No dungeon or play parties within two hours of here and the nearest munch about an hour away. Not that we'd go anyway. Being outed might lose both or either of us custody/visitation rights. Not to mention I live in a small town and would prefer not to be known as that pervert out there.

RCdc -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 11:36:32 AM)
If people wanted to know, they would read profiles. Shameless self promotion (which is cool)wrapped up in posting a question so you can advertise yourself doesn't make your reality any more real though. the.dark.

SirDominic -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 11:50:59 AM)
quote: I guess I wasn't clear, what I was curious about is how many 'Masters' on here aren't king of their own castle yet are telling others how to live?? How many submissives on here offering advice have never been in a d/s relationship....but then again, how many would admit to that?? Actually I think your point is well taken. I always tell people that any advise I put on here is worth the paper it is printed on. Sometimes we personally know people on CM, but the majority of the time they are a screen name and avatar. There IS no way to know how much experience their advice is based upon. A caution I believe worth keeping in mind constantly as we peruse these forums. The only exceptions are those who have a long history of posts. When one keeps seeing solid advice from the same poster again and again, for me, that builds a sense of trust in that they do have some idea what they are talking about.

ELUSIVE1 -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 12:01:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark If people wanted to know, they would read profiles. Shameless self promotion (which is cool)wrapped up in posting a question so you can advertise yourself doesn't make your reality any more real though. the.dark. I am in a relationship= wasn't trying to sell myself- thought it would be iteresting to see who would open up about their lives--

batshalom -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 12:17:15 PM)
I own my own house in a very green and beautiful part of a good-sized city in North Carolina. I live with my two children (their father is vanilla but would most likely make some Domme a very happy woman) and many pets, and I am currently in non-sexual service to my Dom who lives about an hour away. I've known my Dom for a number of years now and he has proven himself a loyal friend and an interesting companion, although this is the first time I have been in service to him. Prior to this Man, I have been involved in a five-ish long-term D/s relationships, including one poly relationship. I don't care for the local scene (too much drama here) but am not opposed to finding one that's a better fit, with Sir's permission. His is a high-profile job at a prominent university med center and, understandably (to me anyway), he's pretty private about his kink (as am I).

MasterFireMaam -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 3:01:18 PM)
scratches head So, people who have no lifestyle experience haven't clue what they're talking about ALL the time, in all subjects? I could list my credentials...and chances are you know me personally or at least know my rep since I'm from NC, but what does it matter if what I say rings true...or doesn't? Being a part of the world-wide Master/slave and/or Leather community doesn't automatically make us the grand pobas. Not being a part doesn't mean that we don't get it. Cradentials can be impressice, but in the end, I feel it's how we conduct ourselves, whether or not our words have meaning and our ability to present them in a way people understand that makes or breaks our character. Master Fire

eyesopened -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 3:44:39 PM)
No one here knows me, other than my Master. Well, maybe a couple of people but we're not like close friends. So my listing my reality is worthless. I'm not one of the edgy people who can list a litanty of OMG activities. I don't have any credentials within the "community" I've never played in public. But even people who have little lifestyle experience can and do have LIFE experiences that can allow for an interesting and pertitent comment or advice.

SurrenderForMe -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 3:56:36 PM)
I live in an apartment in MA, after leaving a house I owned in CA, two months ago. I have birds and cats. I had a submissive partner for nine years, he died. I have been a dominant partner in all my relationships, domme/sub, domme/slave, along with random casual play for 24 years. I have been involved on the fringes of the public scene for 19 years. I have tried pretty much everything that I have ever imagined or heard of, no kids, no scat, no animals. I have never had any deadly accidents. I have had one accident that resulted in stitches from a winch that was installed for me improperly. Even though it was tested several times, it still came loose from what three different helpers thought was a solid support. I have met Gor's creator, John Norman and his subs/slaves once, he is a dick and they were rude. I don't believe that anyone needs to subscribe to my reality. What I write is based on my experience and is of course slanted by my perception. I don't know if I qualify as quick to give advice, but if someone asks about something that I have experience, I comment on it to the level of experience that I do have, if I feel like it.

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