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How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 8:30:23 AM

justNCmale

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I was wondering how sub's were found, entered the relationship with their Dom?
Were you attracted to the Dom, did he/she make the first move or did you?
Do these online sites work or have you met elsewhere then come here?
'spose I'm just wondering out loud here????

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 8:35:22 AM

sklavinxandria

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You want the long or the short answer?

Short..mutual friends set us up and things went from there.

Long...same mutual friends, toss in the INSEX site,......and as Master put it an "idiot" sub, not me, thank god. And we hit it off from there, course could be that our mutual odd sense of humor along with the fact that we are fighting over who will rule hell when we die. ehhh. Don't know if i was "found' or was just right place, right time right INSEX show and from there we are at 9 years and counting.

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 8:52:10 AM

LadyRainfire

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We met right here on CM on the forums. Polls & Random Stupidity to be precise, just chatting back and forth on some of the fun threads. Neither of us were looking for someone. Discovered we had a ton in common, enjoyed each other's company, he had a fabulous sense of humour and great intelligence. That was earlier this spring. I'm collared and we're planning our wedding now that I've moved to Ontario from Idaho to be with him.

So in answer to your question, yes, CM does work.

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 9:20:39 AM

peppermint

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We were both at a kinky campout. He asked the Dom I had agreed to obey for the weekend if he and I could play. We played. Had fun. Laughed a lot. We just had our 3rd anniversary.

I know people who met via the internet and are still together so these sites must work.

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 9:38:04 AM

favesclava

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i saw His pic on another site. i sent Him a wink. He sent a message to write to Him. we chatted online and found we had many things in common. except that i had no idea what He meant by dominant. although i understood taken and owned in a way. we live near so we met soon after for me it was likely to have been a one night stand. til He looked at me and showed me what dominant really meant. my life changed completely.

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 9:42:04 AM

housesub4you

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I met Her through someone else on CM. I was invited to a private BDSM BBQ and then I was asked to serve at a private function. After She met me a few times She approached me while at a private dungeon. We talked and them sent a few emails back and forth before She invited me over to her home to discuss Her needs.

I am now her housesub and am very pleased to serve Her household

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 9:56:56 AM

sondraD

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He and I found each other.

This was not the first D/s relationship for either of us. We were both fairly active within our community and attended many of the same events. About 7 months after his previous relationship ended, he asked me out and it all clicked from there.

Now 10 years and 3 kids later....... we both hope this to be the last relationship for both of us.

sondra

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 10:27:16 AM

sambamanslilgirl

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Daddy found me on adultfriendfinder.com. He wrote me a very long and well articulated message (better than the ones i was reading and deleting without responding back) in which i responded back right away.

that was 2 yrs ago

recently met my pet and bf here - have been happily dating him ever since.

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 10:42:54 AM

softpjOS

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since i wasn't *lost*, She didn't *find* me

We met online, back in the old msn chat rooms... yea it was a few years back lol. She read my profile and started the first conversation.

At the time i lived in Florida and She was in Michigan. We chatted online/phone for almost 5 months before i flew up to meet Her. We spent 2 years in a long distance/online relationship before i moved to Michigan. I've been here almost 4 years now and our relationship has only gotten better :)

So yup, online/long distance can evolve into r/t 24/7, if you want it to :)

pj

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 10:44:54 AM

justNCmale

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Thank you all for the input ..... it seems that sites work and there are many, many more "chance" meetings that bring together couples. Sometimes more information confuses the mind and sometimes clears it - not sure which in this case!

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 11:43:44 AM

SingleRarity

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I met Daddy on bondage.com. I'd never really participated in the scene, online or RL, but I'd had fantasies for years. With encouragement from a friend I was visiting, I typed some random string of words into google. It brought me straight to the personals at b.com. This super attractive guy was staring back at me from the page. Upon reading his profile, I found him to be educated, charming, and well travelled. I wrote to him and a month later we met. We've been together over 16 months and I couldn't be happier. He's my Sir, my Daddy, and the love of my life.

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 12:04:11 PM

softness

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Dark Victory picked me up in a chatroom on ALT.com ... He still insists that I trolled Him ... but I would like the record to show that He did pick me up.

The internet worked for us ...

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 12:20:10 PM

pixidustpet

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i met Daddy here...my former dominant had passed away and made me promise to seek again. he passed in december 2006, and i met Daddy the following febuary.

TheEngineer and i met about 8 years ago now in newsgroup alt.polyamory. in january he offered me always a place in his home, in march i asked if the offer was still open, and in june he came to get me and moved me in with him.

kitten

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 12:35:28 PM

Daes

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I'd hotlisted him over bondage.com, so he took the initiative to send me an email asking if id like to chat. Things went well from there, we chatted online and eventually decided we wanted to make it a lil more serious. Due to our locations, we were somewhat in a relationship though not exclusive to each other and talked on the phone. Finally we met in person and now we have a monogamous relationship and are very much in love.

We hit a few bumps along the way, but I am very happy with where we are now. I couldnt be happier.

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 1:25:38 PM

DaddyDomsgirl

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Daddy and i met here on CM....i messaged Him first..W/we chatted alil thru emails then moved to yahoo messanger....that was 3 1/2 months ago and W/we are trying to find ways to met R/T......things are good for U/us.....a LDR works for U/us for now.....tho W/we long to be together soon.

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 1:35:58 PM

daddysblondie

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Daddy and i basically met here. He messaged me because he recognized me from his myspace friends list. We talked for a few weeks, met in person and it went from there. Small bump in the road along the way but we're quickly coming up on our first year together and both looking forward to many more years to come.

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 1:38:34 PM

Mercnbeth

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quote:

I was wondering how sub's were found, entered the relationship with their Dom?
Were you attracted to the Dom, did he/she make the first move or did you?
Do these online sites work or have you met elsewhere then come here?

this slave was found, amidst quite a few folk, by way of the internet. He found this slave's profile on a BDSM personals site...not CM, the first week it was there.

this slave identified as a lonely submissive, brand-new to this particular alternative lifestyle---this slave had never engaged in an intimate, specifically D/s or M/s relationship, even though the expression of her sexuality and personality has always been (since she can remember) cultivated and satisfied submitting to another.

the decision to leap, without a net, was much harder than the easy tasks of filling out a checklist, writing a short paragraph and posting it on a free BDSM personals site. this slave contacted no-one...merely put the ad out there and waited.

Master had been hanging out at the site for a few months, and had decades of experience with the concepts, practical realities, various relationship structures/sexual orientations enjoyed and expressed within this lifestyle. He wrote to this slave, in response to her profile, along with 50 others that week.

this slave turned the profile off, narrowed the 50 down to the 10 most appealing, then down to a top 3. starting with #1 on the list, she wrote back, with an interest in talking on the phone, IM, e-mail, web-cam and meeting ASAP.

We corresponded, utilizing all of the above methods, and met within 2 weeks. It has been increasingly difficult, if not impossible, to be away from Him, ever since...5 years later.

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 1:42:56 PM

natasha66

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He emailed me here in response to a rant in my journal. We emailed, chatted on Yahoo, and finally met for sushi a few weeks later. The timing was good, what can I say?

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 3:14:32 PM

IvyMorgan

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I'm not currently in a relationship, but, I met the ex after he memo'd me here, we became friends, we became something more, recognised it wasn't going to work (too different as people) and now, we're friends, and it's all good again.

I've met people I'm interested in online and at munches and at private parties. I'm collecting friends, right now, I've still got some personal growing to do before I go hunting for a relationship.

nb I wasn't looking for a relationship with the ex, either, friends was working fine, we just cocked it up and wound up dating. Silly us.

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RE: How were you "found" by your Master? - 7/29/2008 4:06:30 PM

whiteslavebitch

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I had posted a question on Paddle's old yahoo group message board. MasterK (and a couple of others) responded.

We met in person later that month (1-2weeks later) exactly 3 years ago today.
We played on our first meet, had an amazing connection, kept in contact, negotiated, got to know each other better, and I don't even want to think about
what life would be like without him in it.

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"I give to you my everything, you've given me these loving wings." - DMB

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