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Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 10:28:45 AM   
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Why do I get the impression from chatting to some slaves that they think their lives would be so much easier if I came with a manual? Perhaps I should write one and send it to everyone who messages me? Recently chatting to some slaves has been making me feel like a washing machine or whatever and I get the overwhelming impression they are reviewing me as a sort of lifestyle accessory and it does not please me in the slightest.

I know many people would say I should just disregard them and then move on, though frankly I think it is the slaves having the same sort of attitude that is leading to this problem, the general format I find with many slaves is they ask 2000000000 questions, many of which are pointless and some of which are potentially somewhat insulting and if they do not like the answer to one of them they then move on to someone else. There seams to be a total disregard for the concept of regarding people as decent human beings until proven otherwise.

Or alternatively they ask 200000000 questions and discover we are in no way compatible and then decide that that does not matter really because they think I am good looking and they then set about trying to create some sort of a relationship based on that fact. The fact that it is apparent that I will clearly find the entire relationship totally unfulfilling and unrewarding seams totally irrelevant to them providing they get the opportunity to gratify themselves in whatever way they are interested in.

I guess this is more of a rant than a question.

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 10:31:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		You would be writing the manual from your point of view. Which may not be another persons point of view. A lot of people would be questioning you about why you said this or that. Read these forums and you will see what I mean.

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 11:03:27 AM   
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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 11:13:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		It sounds as though they are looking for wank material... or are so pleased some hott guy is paying attention to them that they don't want it to end.

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 11:39:53 AM   
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Or alternatively they ask 200000000


well...i only ask 199999999 questions.


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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 11:43:08 AM   
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You are upset because there are lots of slaves interested in you and are doing everything they can to get to know you better. And even when they aren't what you are looking for try to maintain the relationship by trying to become what you are looking for.

These are problems?

Look at the other side of this. None of them come perfect and for the most part none ever will be that is where YOUR ability as a MASTER comes into play. It is your job to answer all 2 billion questions and GUIDE them, you don't need a Manual if you are offering them guidance.

Brother if those are your only problems ....

TRUST ME YOU AIN'T GOT PROBLEMS!!!!

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 11:46:09 AM   
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  • There will always be wankers looking for material out there ... deal with this, or take your ball home and don't play anymore.
  • Because there are always wankers many will choose to treat you like a wanker until you prove otherwise ... deal with this, or take your ball home and don't play anymore.
  • People are looking to please themselves. Find someone who is pleased themself, by pleasing you. If you can't or won't do this .... take your ball home and don't play anymore

No one has an obligation to treat you well ... the trick is finding someone who doesn't need the obligation in order to treat you well ... the trick is finding someone who just does. Why waste time and energy on someone else?

sorry if this comes across as a lil bit annoying slavey

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 11:46:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		My problem was in trying to count the zeros in 2000000000.......and I just got sidetracked.

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 11:52:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Steel, he's gay.  Different dynamic.

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 3:33:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		How else are people to find out about each other if they don't ask questions?
They ask questions of you and you ask questions of them. Either party can say "sorry, not compatible, good luck and goodbye".

You're getting upset if they decide you aren't a good match for them but equally you're getting upset if they decide you might be able to work out a relationship. Sounds like what you're really getting upset about is them deciding for themselves.

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 5:04:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think your manual starts in your profile. Perhapes you need to add info about your needs and wants, that way you won't need to answer a bazilliion questions.

or you could get hit with an ugly stick, and problem over!

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 5:21:26 PM   
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quote:

Let me get this straight.

You are upset because there are lots of slaves interested in you and are doing everything they can to get to know you better. And even when they aren't what you are looking for try to maintain the relationship by trying to become what you are looking for.

These are problems?

Look at the other side of this. None of them come perfect and for the most part none ever will be that is where YOUR ability as a MASTER comes into play. It is your job to answer all 2 billion questions and GUIDE them, you don't need a Manual if you are offering them guidance.

Brother if those are your only problems ....

TRUST ME YOU AIN'T GOT PROBLEMS!!!!

Steel


Amen and well said.

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 5:53:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NewYorkNatasha

A question that I mean no harm by: Who calls them slaves when they write you? Do they call themselves slaves or do you call them slaves? Doesn't person have to have master before person is slave?


They identify as slaves so I refer to them as slaves, and no a person does not need a master before they refer to themselves as being such. It is a label they are choosing to describe themselves and what it is they are looking for.

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 6:09:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		I gotta side with Steel on this one. A little perspective, man. People think you're good looking, try to get to know you, and are willing to overlook your failings to be with you.

Ya bet yer sweet ass I'm going to ask a lot of questions to anyone who expects to be beating me, tying me up, and taking control of my decision making. Anyone reluctant to answer ANY and ALL questions I ask is instantly suspect.

Get a reality check. Yeesh.

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 6:20:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MstrTiger

Perhaps I should write one and send it to everyone who messages me?


That's a sure fire way to pissing people off.

Asking questions is how people get to know each other. Though, depending on the questions ask the people could be wankers.

Seriously, what you're whining about has nothing to do with slaves. If you go on any regular dating site there are probably plenty of people with the same issues. It just happens.

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 6:24:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

Let me get this straight.

You are upset because there are lots of slaves interested in you and are doing everything they can to get to know you better. And even when they aren't what you are looking for try to maintain the relationship by trying to become what you are looking for.

These are problems?

Look at the other side of this. None of them come perfect and for the most part none ever will be that is where YOUR ability as a MASTER comes into play. It is your job to answer all 2 billion questions and GUIDE them, you don't need a Manual if you are offering them guidance.

Brother if those are your only problems ....

TRUST ME YOU AIN'T GOT PROBLEMS!!!!

Steel


I don’t get the impression they are tying to become what I am looking for I am more inclined to get the impression that they are ignoring what I am while trying to script me as an actor in their fantasies.

I don’t mind guiding slaves though a learning experience, I actually quite like it, though being asked to go though every infinitesimal detail of my existence several times a day does get somewhat wearing after a while, that is were the manual idea comes into play. Now that you mention it I do think that having no slaves interested in me would be a much worse thing, it is the feeling that I get from some slaves that you must fit into this exact box shaped hole they have in their lives and if bits of you don’t then they will ignore them and pretend they don’t exist and just utilize the pieces they want. I like to learn about people though chatting to them and getting to know them not asking them many questions that make people feel like they are being interviewed for a position in a meat processing factory or something.

Obviously I am not saying that all the potential slaves that approach me are like that though quite a few of the recent ones have been.

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 6:32:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Steel, he's gay.  Different dynamic.


he's also from CUMbria UK.... 


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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 6:45:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ok, faery, I was staying away, but I'll come back.  Most people here are way way off.

Think female domme being beseiged by 10 million "sub" men.  That's the right way to think about it, not like a give-and-take process with a male dom and a handful of female slaves.  But even as a het male dom, OP, I know exactly what you mean about the 200,000,000 questions, and this is the deal.  You are not hitting the Ignore button fast enough.  You are not insisting on real life meetings fast enough.

Have a real-life meeting to make friends.  No possibility of play.  Better would be if they come to an event you are at.  99% will not show.  Go to a BDSM event you were already planning to attend, and schedule 1 new person at a time to meet you there.  If they don't show, you Block them.  Period, the end.

The absolute #1 thing that made the difference between me not meeting people online-to-real, and actually meeting them, was cutting out the timewasters.  I am sure I lost a percentage of people who were genuine and sincere, and I hope they will be happy with someone else.

What I am describing is even more time-critical if you are being inundated by men pursuing you as a Dom.  Real-life meeting does not mean playdate -- though maybe you meet twice in the same day.  Real life meeting means you know for sure they SHOW UP.  Someone who will not show up without knowing your life's story is afraid of his own shadow.  The purpose of the date is to find out more about the person.  The purpose of chat is to make sure the person won't try to kill you on the date.

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 6:52:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Steel, he's gay.  Different dynamic.


he's also from CUMbria UK.... 



I don’t think my location has and importance with regards to the issue I am talking about I chat to and have met slaves from all over the world. I am not totally sure if my sexuality has much to do with it also.

Well done for pointing out that the county I live in has the word cum in it also, personally I also find it hilarious the abbreviation for my counties University is UCUM which is even more amusing.

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RE: Annoying slaves? - 7/29/2008 6:53:13 PM   
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The absolute #1 thing that made the difference between me not meeting people online-to-real, and actually meeting them, was cutting out the timewasters.


my profile has taken care of the time wasters...to the point where i get no emails from outside of the forums at all.  the emails that i did get outside of the forums were one liner's and the occassional form letter that goes around to everyone.  i might get one every now and then asking what intersexed is.  i explain..then they dont write back LOL.

if a profile is done correctly you can save alot of time and issues.  if you have a one or two line profile...your gonna get hundreds of emails....


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