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RE: Why after 8 months can't I meet the family - 8/7/2008 3:06:59 AM   
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Ultimately it is up to you to decide what kind of relationship you want to be in.
If you want to be a fuck buddy, be that.
If you want to be a girlfriend, a submissive or some melding of the two them be that.

I personally would never tolerate not being able to go to the house, ect. Secrecy makes me very twitchy. My Spider Sense is tingling...something is afoot with your Dom. But it could be a lot simpler then cheating-could be that he really DOES see you as a piece of meat. And, BTW, some subs get a lot of satisfaction from that. What you need to decide is if you are one of them or not.



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RE: Why after 8 months can't I meet the family - 8/7/2008 5:23:11 AM   
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It would appear that the OP was looking for a different relationship than her Dominant wanted.  It's pretty simple really.  You broadcast on one frequency and are surprised when you receive on the same frequency.  It's like a walkie-talkie or CB radio, you will receive on the same wavelength that you transmit.  It you don't recieve what you desire, it is your clue that you are transmitting on the wrong wavelength and it's your clue that you need to change channels. 

Or another analogy.... People have a habit of writing internal scripts.  The screenplay in their mind might read "I will be available at his convenience, be a perfect piece of meat, and ask nothing in return and THEN he will fall madly in love with me because I gave all this to him."  HIS screenplay might read "When it's convenient, I will go get my dick sucked and then go home to catch the ballgame."  Since you don't have a copy of his script and he doesn't have a copy of yours, it's no wonder the drama becomes a disaster.

You CAN have the relationships you want.  That relationship probably won't include this particular Dominant, but I've found that when I focus on the relationship I desire, the correct partner will appear.  Sometimes we focus too much on this man and think if we change and modify him and ourselves enough we will have the relationship we want.  Forget that.  Focus on what kind of relationship you want first and then broadcast on that frequency and things will be much better for future relationships.

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RE: Why after 8 months can't I meet the family - 8/7/2008 9:17:19 AM   
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Is it always necessary to meet the family? Most subs I have encountered have little desire to "meet the family."

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RE: Why after 8 months can't I meet the family - 8/7/2008 2:43:44 PM   
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Which is why my girl is not coming to me until October. She was terrified at the idea of the family invasion at the end of September. Around 80ish people.

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RE: Why after 8 months can't I meet the family - 8/7/2008 3:38:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mypain56

 I honestly didn't expect him to tell me the same thing, I just want to be a little more a part of his life


You're sounding desperate and desperate is unattractive. If he thinks you're moving in on him too fast, that's one of the fastest ways to get dumped that I can think of. Be less dependent and he'll like you more.


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RE: Why after 8 months can't I meet the family - 8/7/2008 6:37:54 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

Unless I have missed something somewhere, where does being introduced to family have to be shouting your kinky to the rafters, so to speak.

Who and where, says that introducing the new one to family members means every one's going to know you're D/s

quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

however in your case, you want the ENTIRE world to know that you and him are a D/s couple and that they have to accept you two as such. 



my pov - if someone's in a rush to meet the family, that person is seeking validation and public acceptance as couple.

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